Im serious am I crazy or would this be a normal reaction for anyone? Lately at work I've been snapping ...

Question

I mean sometimes I scream sometimes I cry depending on the situation. I work 7 days a week and have had so few days off in the last to years I can count them on 1 hand. I manage several highrises in a crappy dangerous neighbourhood and I deal daily with the worst kinds of people. I used to be good and even tempered at work but now the last couple of months if a tenant pissed me off I let them have it and Ive cried to my boss a couple of times over the stress lately .... He says I need to relax and it's not normal Im letting it get to me like that. What do you think? If it makes any difference Im only 25

Me/ the boss are friends or I probably would've been fired over the mood swings lately.

Answer 1

It seems like it is your reaction to stress. Your body is on stress overload right now and is having difficulty coping. Eventually at that pace, your body will fail to cope with stress and the results can be devastating. If you are only 25 now, at the rate you are going, where will you be at 30? what about 40 or 50??

I always think of my mother....she was a very hard worker and always gave 175 percent at her job. She bent over backwards for her employer who totally did not appreciate her. However she just kept going going going kind of like the Energizer bunny. She was a very mouthy angry type person when she did not get her way. I usually only visit her now once per year. She resides at Gate of Heaven Cemetery next to my dad...So maybe she was an extreme case but the end result of stress can be everything from chronic fatigue, back problems, stomach problems, headaches, etc. Stress also leads to emotional problems from severe anxiety and depression to other countless things. My mom never got sick a day in her life and never used all her vacation days each year. She also did not take care of her health and it was cancer that took her life in the end at age 58.

If you can possibly cut back on work, that is what I would recommend you doing. Even working six days a week is far better than having to work seven. When you do get that one day to yourself, make sure it isn't spent working either. Take the day to do stuff for yourself that makes you feel better whether that be going for a walk or run, watching a movie, or doing any type of activity that you enjoy, just as long as it is not work.

As a long term goal, you need to evaluate if this is the type of work you want to continue doing and if you believe that this particular job is the one for you. However, those are questions that only you can answer.

Answer 2

No, you aren't crazy. Crying isn't crazy, but it does mean something is not right.

Off the top of my head...
1. Are you using any drugs (even prescriptions) or alcohol?
If you are, then there is the problem right there. A physical dependency on anything, even in the early stages, can leave you cranky and volatile when you're without the substance or object.

2. If that's not the case, then...
-Are you losing sleep or oversleeping?
-Have you recently gained or lost weight, or has your appetite either increased or decreased?
-Do you most of the time feel sad, numb, or irritable?
-Have you had thoughts (serious or fleeting) about killing yourself or harming yourself?

If you answered yes to 2 or more of these, you are probably depressed. See a counselor (not a psychiatrist), especially if you answered yes to the last question. You may need to take some time off from work--as urgently as they may think they need you, it's not going to do you or them any good for you to stay sick. Do what's best for you.

Answer 3

It seems to me that you being friends with the boss is not the only reason he's not fired you! Seems like he knows which side his bread is buttered on. I think you are being taking advantage of and you need to take a break and he needs to let you. It's inhuman to work the way you are and not be effected. You could be storing up problems for your future health if you let this continue. If he thinks it not normal to cry I would suggest that what he's really saying is, I don't want you realizing that I'm over working you. A willing horse will not need to be flogged it'll just die and think it done it's duty. Do your duty to yourself and take a long break and tell your boss to either cover for you or get someone else in while you take your well deserved break. Ow! and it is very normal to react the way you do to such a dangerous situation, both in terms of vunerability of the risks from the people you deal with and to risk your body knows it's under physically!

Answer 4

This happened to me on my last job. I would get so bad that I would just have to run to the bathroom because of the anxiety and crying all the time. It is called being unhappy. I suggest you look into making some changes in your life soon or else you are heading down a path of depression, anxiety and health problems from all the stress. You have a choice here. Stay in this job and continue down that dark path or take a risk and get another job and be healthier for it. I suggest you do the latter and take care of yourself.

Answer 5

I think you're working too hard. This is a natural reaction to having to work seven days a week! Is it at all possible to take on an assistant, or delegate some of your work to get your hours cut down? Try to take some time off if possible.

It all sounds very stressful, you definitely need some 'you time' to relax! Maybe your doctor could make some suggestions as well.

Answer 6

No you are not crazy just stressed out.
Seems to be an epidemic.

Do you work to live or live to work?

You need to reduce your work load.
Start by taking at least a day off each week and do something relaxing.

You can also learn some proven stress reducing exercises.

These are the four tricks I use when I am stressed.
I take 3 deep slow breaths that I let out slowly.
I go for a long walk with my wife and dogs.
I do a progressive muscle relaxation exercise.
I do a self-guided meditation daydream exercise.

Writing also helps.

http://themeaningisyou.com

Answer 7

Life is too short to have a miserable job. Start looking for another property to manage in a good neighborhood. Now that you have the experience, you should not have any trouble changing properties.

If you don't quit your job, perhaps your boss can hire an additional worker part time to ease your stress.

Answer 8

Maybe before you used to keep your anger inside and now it's shinning through. My mom can get annoyed by someone and pretend she's not annoyed but when people keep doing the same thing over or saying the same thing over and over again she snaps. You need to relax it's true you need to let go of all the things that are upsetting you and confront people who are annoying you. recently I've been getting a lot hot headed too I never usually yell but when I get angry I can't seem to control it. I just don't know why I've been so angry and I'm 15.

Answer 9

God intended us to have one day in seven to rest and change our perspective by relaxing. Many call it a Sabbath.

You been blowing it girl. No rest is the cause of your dilemma.

Work less or change jobs.

Answer 10

Sounds like too much stress. Change jobs!