I've never been more confused about liking someone before. There's this guy who has liked me for about a year now and he's asked me out about 6 times. The first 5 times were during my sophomore year and my response was, "I don't really want a boyfriend right now." I didn't want to go out with him and I was pretty sure I didn't like him. Now, starting my junior year, he asked me again, claiming AGAIN that he really liked me and no one else. At that point, I started to consider what it would be like to go out with him and I'm imagined what it would be like to kiss him and - they've been really good thoughts! However, as good as I feel about thinking those things, I'm not really sure I want to take the step forward to actually go out with him. When I first met him, I severely disliked him and now I'm thinking to myself, "This is crazy! How can you consider liking him - you're not SUPPOSED to like him!" Also, I realized that other guys have asked me out before and I've been able to
2007-09-15 08:58:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
flat-out deny them and tell them we're just friends, but with this guy, I've never said: "No." before. I think he and I are perfect as friends but I can't help thinking about what it would be like to go further. But I don't know if I really want to! A lot of people who see us together say that we're constantly flirting and we should just 'go out already' and I have to agree we are always flirting.
But...
Do you think I like him or just like the thought of him! I've been thinking too much and I just want someone else's opinion.
2007-09-15 09:00:43 · update #1
I would go out with him. Your feelings change as you age, and maybe those things you didn't like before aren't there anymore. Just give it a shot. If you end up not liking him, you can always tell him it isn't working.
2007-09-15 09:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you don't think the time is right then don't. If you get mocked because you did then don't worry about it. If you think you are ready then shoot you could love it. If you didn't like him at first then give a serious thought about it. I really don't like people (besides me which I always am) to be confused! You should find someone with the right chemistry for you I almost did we had everything in common and then all of a sudden he dates my best friend! I am not mad at her and I am still friends with him but I'd never date him again. Give him a chance you never know. This guy likes me and I like him I know but we can't tell each other.
2007-09-15 16:04:41 · answer #2 · answered by Katana_Ushida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, obviously you're a really young girl and that's fine. After carefully reading your question I do not have an answer, but some advice. You have absolutely no control over whom you do or do not like, none! Also, you're growing so fast now, in so many ways, that what you like today, you may very well not like next week (get used to it). Finally, whatever you do in your dealings with boys, never, ever, let them put you in a position where you have to "prove" ANYTHING to them. No matter what it is, it's the oldest trick in the book!
2007-09-15 16:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by Music Seawater 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT! I had a close friend ask me out and now we can't stand to be in the same room with each other because of how things ended. I didn't think we would last but I tried it anyway and now we don't talk. I say don't do it but if you really want to try than try it but at least think hard before you do say yes.
2007-09-15 16:07:49 · answer #4 · answered by acorn3sweety 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered this yourself when you said you think too much. Quit trying to do psychoanalysis on yourself and go out with the guy. If it works, great; if not, then you have found out for sure. The only thing you have to lose by trying is one bad date, if you don't at least try you could lose out on having a good time for quite awhile.
Just say "yes" and go out.
2007-09-15 16:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may just like him because he likes you. I get that way sometimes. I think I like the person but I really don't its only because they flirt with me and they show intrest is why I like them.
Is he on your mind all the time tho? If so you are falling for him. Try DATING and if there is something there you will know. If not you tried. It may hurt a little bit but there is nothing not worth trying.
2007-09-15 16:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you like him to much ! The other friendships may have been safe because you liked them less ! Perhaps you could go out as friends , to see how you get on ! He seems very sincere a very rare quality ,these days !
2007-09-15 16:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsay Jane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like each time he asks you out you r just tryin to convince yourself tht sayin no was right the first time rather than giving it a chance. and vonvince yourself tht u dnt like him, u mite like him more than you know. i think you shud say to him that you think you shud become frends and then go frm there if things develop. if things dnt work out, u havent lost anyhing have you, you may even gain a frend frm it. hope his helps.
2007-09-15 16:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by Yends 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well make sure you like him because you do. not becaus eyou feel sorry for him. if you like him try it out, you never really know. you thoughts are just guesses. if it dosen't work out then hopefully he will stop asking you
2007-09-15 16:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by spngebbsqarepnts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out with him, just to see if your feeling are because you really like him, not just the fact that he likes you.
if you dont feel sparks, then it doesnt have to last, but if you do, well, enjoy the relationship!
just dont toy with his emotions. from what you've said, i dont think you will, just be careful.
good luck! :]
2007-09-15 16:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by its her x3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋