I HATE it. I just had this happen to me and it totaly put me in a HORRIBLE mood. I had just got my 2 year old daughter to take a nap cause she was SO grouchy. then my sister in law and nephew came over. I told them to be quite that it was difficult to get her in bed and what does my nephew who is 9 do... he goes in my sons room and starts pulling toys out of his toy box and throwing them on the floor. So my daughter wakes up. My husband had just gotten home from work 10min before they arrived on top of it all so i hadn't even been able to see him. I was so pissed now my husband is mad cause i was pissed and yelled at him cause he went to take a nap. Kinda uncalled for i shouldn't have yelled at him but god i just got her to bed and now had to deal with her when she was cranky BY myself AGAIN cause HIS nephew decided to be disrespectfull and wake her up. This is just this time but other times i still HATE when people just show up.
2007-09-15 08:58:10 · 13 answers · asked by Kacey D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I should have said it was my sister in law but not her kid he is her nephew also, another sister in laws kid. she was watching him. Se has a cell phone too and i have told her in passing manytimes that i hate when people stop by unanouced. It totaly ruined my day and since i'm a B#$ch i ruined my husbands to. But now he took off to go to his cousins cause he's so pissed at me and i'm here stuck with the bratty kids alone AGAIN. not like i'm not alone with them 60 hrs a week while he works or anything god forbid i get a damn break.
2007-09-15 09:18:15 · update #1
I can't STAND it when people come by unannounced. This is something after 9 years that my FIL still does not understand. It puts me in a funk....I wasn't planning on seeing anyone and now I have to....hate it. With just about everyone on the planet having cell phones now (MY FIL INCLUDED) there is no reason why someone can't call ahead to see if it's convenient. It's just plain rude to drop by unannounced. I'm right there with you
2007-09-16 03:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by aly_des 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her during the week and tell her that you would prefer if she call first, as its not always a good time for a visit, such as today was not. Next time she shows up, don't let her in. Just say, oh I'm sorry I thought we agreed you would call, this is a terrible time. Talk to you soon.
Apologize to your husband for yelling and then tell him that you are exhausted and overwhelmed and you need him to spend time with the kids while you take a nap. Its not his fault his sister has no common sense. Two yr olds can be a handfull, see about getting a baby sitter for a few hours so you can take a break. Two hours with someone else won't hurt them, and you need the time off.
2007-09-15 16:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is annoying, almost everyone has a cell phone...why not call? Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule: when you do not have children and a family to consider...it is more accepted for friends and family to come over unannounced. Unfortunately, approaching the situation will make you seem like the "bad guy." Keep your cool, it is your family after all. Good Luck
2007-09-15 16:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, I feel for you.I used to have people stop over all the time and it drove me nuts. I stopped cleaning my house and started meeting them when they got out of the car and said " I'd invite you in but my house is a total mess', Those that said that's ok and walked in anyway took one look,couldn't find a place to sit down then left. After the second time they don't come back. Ah the peace I have now.
2007-09-15 16:12:32 · answer #4 · answered by nick k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dislike it, too, when people come unannounced - it is very inconsiderate. next time, go to the door, open it just a little, and say hi, i wish i could ask you in but you caught me at bad time, is there something special you needed - otherwise i'll call you later and we can set a time that we can get together that is good for both of us. she'll get the message - she may not like the message - but, i bet she'll never come over again without calling. sometimes it's up to us to put a stop to something.
2007-09-15 16:10:35 · answer #5 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely rude. People should call first. They should not just pop up at your door steps. Even brothers and sisters. They have to respect the house rules.
Unless of course it was an emergency God forbids.
2007-09-15 16:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by EyesOnly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess each family is different......... in ours, it's no big deal to just drop in... especially if we know the other is home.
It's our way of staying connected........
I'm sorry your two year old is cranky, but it also sounds as if Mommy was needing a break too?......
Good luck........Mommies never get breaks...... it's like in our job description, in fine print........... we sit up with them when they are sick, when they are cranky..... when they cut teeth...... when they have fevers........
That is a mommies job........... my son is 10, I'm still waiting for it to slow down and me to get a break....... hehehehe
Sorry , forgot to finish my thought, it doesn't make it any less inconvenient......... it just happens...... but looking at it from the other perspective........ it's nice to know that the family cares enough to stop in and visit
2007-09-15 16:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by bizzymom38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely courteous and necessarily to call before you stop by.
There's really no excuse unless people have a relationship where that's normal.
2007-09-15 16:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by Lane 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I turn them right away at the door, and tell them to call next time.
2007-09-15 16:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only do I hate that...I hate when they do not get the hint to leave
2007-09-15 16:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋