What should i do????? I promise top points for best answer?

Question

I found this forum board and i have been posting there for about 2 months. I've meet some great people via this forum especially this one poster. He seems soo cool and smart, i was thinking that he would be a cool friend to gain.

The problem is that i'm too nosey and curious for my own good, i can't help it. I typed in this user name and found out that has been posting on a white supermacist site. The thing is i'm black. I know it him because he has stated the same facts in both of his profiles.

I have become on such good terms with term that i've given him my email address.

What should i do now???

I promise top point for the answerer who helps me out the most, thanks

Answer 1

I think you need to honest with him. If you guys IM or something perhaps you could bring it up by talking about yourself - I mean, have you gotten to really know him?

I wouldn't invest too much into this though. The cliche comes to my head "If it seems too good to be true it probably is," so use caution with this person when you DO tell him.

And be prepared to change that email address or any info in your profile. NEVER be specific about where you are!

I apologize if this seems cynical, but people on line are different than people in person and with this guy posting on white supremacy sites is the BIGGEST red flag in the world to me - and I'm white! I don't think I could think of tolerating someone who so intolerant. Have you read his postings on there? That should give you a sign too.

My advice to be honest with him and see what happens, but you need to protect yourself too against any hate that comes your way.

Take care of yourself, girl! Don't let your guard down because he seems "nice".

Answer 2

I'd change your e-mail because things wont, can't get better.
I lived with someone for about a year (we're both white) and racism didn't rear it's ugly head until near the end of the relationship when she offended a friend of mine who isn't white. I can accept totally someone saying "I don't like that person" they don't have to even give a reason but, when someone is saying they don't like, hate,despise someone they don't even know I've got to think where is the reason in that. The relationship didn't survive after that because, for me, regardless how nice or how popular she was she had shown me one very major flaw. She could actually feel a sense of hate without knowing the individual.
Please don't go there. If he's on such sites he certainly isn't smart or cool and the very fact you ask the question means that question would never go away.
Change your e-mail please.

Answer 3

Honesty is alway the best policy. It is an age old cliche kind of thing, but so true. Ask him about your findings and concerns. Not sure how extreme his postings are or how recently he has visited the sight you refer to, but remember that a lot of times young people get in to predicaments while they are growing, learning and trying to find their place in the world. Also, he may be involved with this group but looking for a way out??!! Anything is possible. I just hope that you were not comfortable enough to share anything more personal with him than your email addy. You can never be too cautious when meeting someone on line. If he doesn't turn out to be the person you thought he was, I hope that he is at least mature enough to let you move on in peace. If all else fails, and you must ... change your email addy!

Answer 4

This is an awkward one, you don't want to tell him that you checked up on him, but at the same time you need to know how he would feel if he knew you were black. Have you talked about your beliefs/religion? perhaps some light probing questions of that nature might compel him to say something about the other site. If it dosn't it may be that you'll have to say something and if its a problem then I'm sorry but he's not worth it, because that white supremacy thing is rubbish, we're all human at the end of the day. (I'm white by the way)

Answer 5

it depends on the true nature of the site you mentioned.

there is actually quite a difference between white supremacist and white nationalist. if he's the latter, it doesnt necessarely mean that he hates blacks, or even looks down on them

first *make sure you're right* that he's posting on this site, and then, what do you think about what he's writing?

and if you are sure it's him, and what he's writing does not offend you, just ask him about it in an e-mail. tell him you're black

dont do it in a confrontational way, just in an open minded way

his answer might surpise you

Answer 6

Be honest with yourself.
You don't say what comments he posted on the other site so I can only answer in this way.

Cool friend and white supremicist do not fit into the same sentence.

Answer 7

Ask him why he is a white supermacist, and then tell him the truth. Personally I think any one who is racist is total scum; you shouldn't hate someone just because of the colour of their skin. And if he says he still hates blacks but will make an exeption for you then he really isn't worth it.

Answer 8

Just because his user name is found on that site does NOT mean that it is him.

I would not say anything and just wait until he says something supremacy-like, then state that you are black.

Answer 9

There is no future for either of you, if his views are genuine, and he is,nt winding people up.I think you have had a lucky escape,if he does contact your e mail address,then you can take it from there.Sometimes your instincts can guide you.Best of luck.

Answer 10

i might sugest a card. no longer email. decrease than your situations, if i become you, i might even deliver a small vase w/flowers, or pass to a fancy candle save and get one to pass w/the cardboard. in case you have been that down and out, and he or she helped pull you up, do it. additionally clarify interior the cardboard what you wrote here.