A 13-year old (Jill) stumbled on her mom's email when she went on the computer. Her parents are have been divorced since Jill was around 6 and has been living with her father. She saw that her mom is apparently pregnant at 42 with a man who is already married with a son. Also, Jill's father's wife just moved in to her house. Jill's not a big talker at school and isn't sure if she should talk to anyone about what is going on in her life without worrying if her friends will tell their parents and cause a huge stir. What should Jill do?
2007-09-15 08:28:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think that 'Jill' shouldn't judge her Mom because she may not know the whole story. Also if she was snooping it will be a lot harder to tell her parents because she wasn't supposed to get into that email, but if it was an honest-to-goodness accident then I think that 'Jill' should send her Mom an email. Not a spontaneous one, but a well thought-out, edited one. Something that may read something similar to-
Hi Mom! I was just wondering, when I was on the computer I stumbled across some information that suggests that you might be with a married man with a son, and that you are currently pregnant with his child. I'm sorry you couldn't tell me yourself, but I found out anyway. I was wondering if maybe you would care to explain? I have some mixed feelings right now regarding the fact that my step-mom just moved in and now it looks like I'm going to have a step sibling with no father. I want you to know that I still love you, but that I am very upset and confused right now at your current state.
- Some thing like that might be good, with your own personal take on it. also you might want to wait a while, a couple of weeks maybe. See if she was going to tell you, that might make things a lot smoother. I honestly hope this helps. And I'm sorry that Jill has to go through all of this trauma.
2007-09-15 08:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by Stacie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing going on that she should be worrying about. Her parents are old enough, and it's about time for both of them to go on with their lives. If her mom got pregnant by a married man with a son, that's her mother's choice, Jill shouldn't make a problem about it, her mother is old enough to know what she is doing with her life. It seems like Jill was use to being the only one in her parents lives, and she might be jealous because she might have to share them. Which she shouldn't, because nothing or anyone will change how her parents feel about her, and they will love her the same. They are adults, and she shouldn't be concentrating on their issues, she should worry about school, her friends, about having fun, enjoying her youth, and worrying about her future.
2007-09-15 08:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by Butterflies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the incontrovertible fact that your A-mom helped you be sure it became into her is a sturdy sign. assure your mom which you like her dearly, and which you have been shocked that she contacted you, and tell her the reality-you're curious, and you're nervous approximately her. At 13, think of being pregnant, and back then, human beings did no longer have the internet to get materials to develop a baby, and that they did no longer have the possibilities to additionally be attentive to roughly open adoption. this is a tragic, yet very comprehensible tale. on a similar time, she's your first mom and loves you too, yet she became right into a baby while she had you. do no longer enable a mistake of having pregnant at this style of youthful age, and not understanding what to do impression the two one among you for something of your lives. Your A-mom could decide to be there on your first reunion, and you're able to choose her there. that's as much as you. additionally, be careful. Meet in a secure place, like a quiet eating place, or at a place like a decrease priced convention room at a lodge (some will grant a room for an hour VERY decrease priced, and there is risk-free practices there). sturdy luck, and be arranged for each emotion of each and every style, and with a bit of luck, it will be a sturdy reunion.
2016-11-14 12:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by weatherby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were Jill I would ask my mom. But there isn't alot she can do except work hard in school and get a part time job sometime in the next few years and start saving up to get out of the house.
2007-09-15 10:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by his wife 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
jill is almost an adult and at this point probably realizes that life isn't perfect or completely beautiful, and some things just happen.
2007-09-16 13:57:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with george 2
2007-09-15 08:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I also agreewith George2
2007-09-15 08:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by AlexZ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
talk to her mom about it
2007-09-15 08:49:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing. this is her mothers problem not hers.
2007-09-15 08:32:34 · answer #9 · answered by george 2 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋