guys out there what is your opinion? girls too...?

Question

my boyfriend told me he needs a few days to clear his head. he says this because he's not sure what he wants anymore or how he feels. he told me he loves me and that he wants us to be okay and he thinks we will be okay. why does he need space? do most guys do this? what can i do to pass the time, since i'm not supposed to call him or anything. do you think he will come to his senses and realize how much i mean to him? help, i'm going crazy :(

just to add this in.. we aren't broken up or anything, it's not a matter of him wanting to see other people, it's him deciding what he wants. i do smother him alot and i do argue when he wants his own time, i just think he's finally fed up with me crowding him. :/

Answer 1

he must be feeling like he's restrained or something
.. like his freedom is threatened

I guess you're control freak or over dominating

take it easy and wait for his move

Answer 2

Usually when in a relationship either the girl or the boy say something like that , they're pretty much declaring a "break" .
A break is when their not sure if they still want to be in the relationship and need some time to think about it , therefore wanting space. I honestly , i don't think breaks are good signs cuhz most of the time it doesn't work out and causes distance between the two of you . Try to figure out what may have caused him to want the space . If its something you did and he is willing to stay with you after he thinks it through then by all means try and improve ! However, in the worst case senerio guys may do that if there's another girl in their life . So just wait and see what happens and what he says afterwards . Also , make sure to give him the space however still try and talk to him a little .. just conversations nothing too intense . I dont know if your in school or not , so yeah . I hope everything works out okay (= and if it doesnt then you know he's not the guy for you .

Answer 3

Relationships are complicated, guys and girls both need "time to clear their head" now and then. You don't say how old you are but many in high school put too much importance on being "girlfriend and boyfriend" when most of these relationships have a very short life, as they should. Going with members of the opposite gender in your school years is really just training in how to handle interpersonal relationships. Too many people get caught up in the "He is the only one, my soul mate, I will die if he leaves me" drama. Look at these things as just another class in how to live life with a member of the opposite sex in preparation for living as a couple when/if you do meet someone later you want to marry. Perhaps he does know how much you mean to him and is trying to reconcile that with "how much he means to you" which are two very different things. What can you do? Try living your life without interfering with him for awhile, go out have a good time. Think about why you "need" him to make you a real person instead of being a real person in your own right.

Answer 4

The only comfort that you can take is knowing that there's nothing that you can do. If you do anything, like call him or try to see him, it's only going to push him further away.

Thousands of years ago, when a man needed space he just found himself a cave and hung out there for a couple of days. Nowadays, a man can only give himself a sort of Mental Cave where he broods and talks to himself and such.

Why do men need space? Ask 10 guys and you'll get 10 different answers. What can you do in the meanwhile? Spend time with your family and friends and keep yourself super busy while riding out this silly storm of his.

Answer 5

All guys go through this. Mine certainly does. I love my fiance dearly but there are times where he and I really need our space. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, it's that quite literally he needs time alone.

Instead of this co-dependent "OMG what am I going to do without him" mindframe, find things that excite you. Go to the library, focus on homework, go out with a few girlfriends, see a movie, try a new hobby. You'll forget the distance once you focus on yourself more.

It's not about him "coming to his senses" my dear. It's just a part of relationships and learning to be a couple without all the clinginess.

When he's ready, he'll talk. Until then, back off.

Answer 6

Don't quite know what's going on here but I think you need to respect his wishes for now. You need to distract yourself with other stuff so you don't feel so out-of-control... try going out with a girlfriend, reading a good book, going for a walk, doing some 'spring' cleaning (yes, I know it's fall), bury yourself in work, go see a movie (or 2)... do ANYTHING you can to distract yourself because you shouldn't contact him (show him how strong you can be). He'll probably miss you and come to his senses but you need to give him his space. I don't know if this is 'normal' or common but, yes, it does happen. Hold onto positive thoughts, there's nothing you can do right now. Just be nice, respectful and mature about it all. I wish you well.

Answer 7

Provably, you ask the question to guys to receive the most, from a man's point of view-- that was smart from you.

To be honest, I have done that, with my ex-girls when I felt I am loosing interests on them. My experience is talking.

My prediction is 75% the relationship from his point is over, 25% is love for the old days.

Refresh your mind, and don't suffer about that disaster.

Now, to be sure, if he really loves you, when he comes back tell him you need some time to be alone. He will feel he is loosing you--, and will try to recuperate you.

Answer 8

If he really loves u he will realize whats at risk when he does clear his head. If he doesn't want u anymore then u will definitely get the feeling. If u already have that feeling then u need to move on.

Answer 9

Number one don't call him. But usually men do this when they start talking to another girl but still wants to be with you. He's just not sure what he wants. But he wants to experience different people not being stuck in a relationship. But on the bright side if you don't call him maybe he will realize what he's missing. I mean do you not think it's a bit strange how he doesn't want you to call him. Come on think about it.

Answer 10

Just give him some time and if he really loves you he will come through.. Maybe just talk to him once in a while and dont go all over him and tell him you love him later on and i hope everything works out well =]

Answer 11

i am a girl, girl get it together and tell him that u are not down for that space stuff. if he needs space than go out and get your space 2. im sure u can use some space away from him and dont call him let him call u. u should not b runnin behind him anyway you are a woman and not a dog. so their are plenty of other men out there who dont need space, so keep it movin