Hi everyone,
What do you think about my life? How can I improve it? (Sorry for the poor grammar--English is my second language.)
I am 22 years old. I am a lower middle class. I am a virgin. I am a good person. I am studying full-time (last year in a Master's program) I am working two part-time jobs. I want to save my money ;therefore, I have no cars, no phones, and living in a little room. I hardly have a social life because I am spending my time working and studying.
Sometimes, I am proud of myself because I will have my master's without debts or student loans. Sometimes, I feel so discourage and down to see other people my age have fun and enjoy life while I have to work so hard.
What do you think? Please advice. Thank you so much for your kindness.
2007-09-15 08:01:46 · 22 answers · asked by Hope 4 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Other - Careers & Employment
the best advice i can give is.. if there is something you really want to do, go for it. its good your doing your masters without taking any loans, and it seems your working really hard (two part time jobs and a uni course) but the chances are you will go straight into work and you might find yourself in a situation where you are too busy to do anything you really enjoy. college/uni days can be the best times of your life if you let them and you wont get them back. it doesn't mean you should put your studies aside by any means (studies are number one), but you should consider yourself and enjoy everything with NO REGRETS. oh and your still a virgin that's great!
Ive just graduated myself [ Ba(hons) architecture] (I'm 25)and I'm now going back for my masters next week so i can relate a bit to your situation.
if your graduating soon then stick it out. you can always take a gap year before working if you want, or you can enjoy your uni life while studying for your masters.
(why not try working in the field your studying? if the pay is better you might not need to work two part time jobs and you'll have a lot more time to yourself)
anyway i hope this has helped.
let me know what you decide.
chips02@yahoo.com
2007-09-15 08:27:16 · answer #1 · answered by chips02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a very dedicated and goal oriented young woman. Young being the key word. You must follow your dreams, but not at the expense of loosing your passion in the process. I admire you for getting your masters degree, and doing it debt free at that. You should remain proud of yourself, don't ever let other people's lack of discipline get in your way of that. You can however take from their enjoyment of life and learn to relax when you can...even without spending any money. Life is all about balance and you are leaning too far on one end of the teeter-totter which could cause you to crash and loose your vision for the future. Try going out for 2 hours at a time. Tell your friends this is ALL the time you have and make a game up that will take about that long. Try going to Wal-Mart or somewhere cheap that you can walk to with a lot of different choices and tell each person they have 30 minutes, or fifteen, to go find ONE gift for each person in the group, or assign each person someone to shop for. The gift has to be under $5 and something the person you are shopping for would LOVE and actually be able to use. You don't have to buy the gifts either. Just exchange them in a specific area of the store and walk around together when you are finished and put each item back. Or go to the book store and pick out books that would best describe the person you are assigned. Same goes for listening to songs in the music store that would best describe their life. Whatever you do, do it with a relaxed mind-set, WITHOUT thinking about work or school and HAVE FUN!!
2007-09-15 08:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by Carlaura 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I applaud your ability to set goals and reach or exceed them. The circumstances of class are not anything to be worried about as you have a first class mind and a work ethic more people should follow. But, you are now in need of a social life, as you can see the end of your university days. With all the drive and self discipline you possess you need to step back and give your self some time with other people you know, or get to know them. I don't have any doubt that you can put yourself in with people socially for a night or two a week, and still get your work done too. If you could get away from your jobs and course work for just a couple hours, You would be much more relaxed. Every one needs a break of routine, We are not meant to do nothing but our work. Find someone to go some place for a movie or a place with music, something different than your every day life now. Congratulations on your accomplishments, Now you can take a little time for you.
2007-09-15 09:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by redd headd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find more balance to your life. I believe that what you are trying to do is admirable, but I also believe that you're going way too fast. Many people your age have just finished up their Bachelor's degree. School and work are not the only things to life, there is also social aspects (there are so many things to do, and I don't mean just the stupid college kid things like drinking, but live music and art and museums and coffee houses and parks and barnes and nobel's on a saturday afternoon withOUT studying), relationships - friendships and romantic (dating, not just serious), and relaxation. Honestly, how much time do you spend just doing nothing? Are you okay with being you, all by yourself, with nothing to do? From experience, its a hard place to be, especially if you've never done it. Good luck.
2016-03-18 06:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very smart young woman. Getting an education & staying debt-free are the stepping stones to a happy life. Sounds like you need to make some time for a social life though. You need not spend lots of money but do get out with friends & have some fun. You're only young once!
2007-09-15 08:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by birdie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are improving your life by getting an education. You should see some of the people that are out having fun. Sure they are smiling and having a wild fun time, but check in on them later, they will be passed out on the floor in a pile of vomit. You are doing the right thing by studying and sound like a really good and accomplished person. All I can recommend for now is just making sure you do not over work yourself. Find time to relax and unwind. Too much work is never good. Good luck in the future. :-)
2007-09-15 08:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I think you should do first of all is not feel so down because other people your age are having fun and your not! Believe me, all that hard work you've been doing will eventually pay off sooner or later!!!
And second of all why don't you buy yourself a dog or a turtle that way (it may seem crazy) when you have a secret and you don't want anyone else to know tell your pet it's not like they are going to go around telling everyone your secrets!!! For God's sakes animals can't even talk!!!
GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY AND HOPEFULLY YOUR FUTURE PET(S)!!!
2007-09-15 08:09:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 17 years old and I am really disappointed of my life ... I don't do the things that other teenagers do because I have to study very hard ... Money are a problem because in our society there will always be bad people that make discriminations. I think that in future all the things that I learned will help me ... and so will be for you. So don't throw all this good work ... because life isn't just disco, boys, fashion, cars or other things that others do.
2007-09-15 09:48:17 · answer #8 · answered by PuShiNg Me AwAy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Set some time on weekends to go out with friends. Drink a little if that's your thing. Plan it, though, to ensure it happens, but cancel if you get behind in schoolwork. You'll find yourself with something immediately rewarding for having all your work done, and something that will ease the tension of a constant workload.
Make sure everyone understands that you can't afford to go out during the week, though. School is more important than going out with friends, but your well-being is more important than school.
2007-09-15 08:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be proud of yourself for all the sacrifices you are making to become a better person. So does your family...
Young people this days want everything free...a mistake made by their parents.
I'm teaching the same to my kids. My daughter works very hard for going ahead in life, however her classmates (the majority) have no interest in getting ahead. They have their parents to live of.
Continue like this, though try at least to have some time of for you...otherwise you'll be completely drain.
God bless you
2007-09-15 08:11:57 · answer #10 · answered by Izzie My Blueberry Nights 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋