This women is a good mother she work hard to support herself and pay her bills, and she get child support check every month. I know her because I am her bf, I am trying to help her get through this but she is really afraid of losing her child, the father is a felon and does not seem to care for the child but just to do this to hurt the mother and separate us a part. The father is fighting for full custody because he think he can get the child back after his probation has ended, and he is trying to use me and do anything to get his full custody and stop paying child support.
2007-09-15 07:51:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can help your g/f by getting a good lawyer who specializes in custody. Its unlikely that the state will take a child away from its mother, but a legal expert should be involved.
2007-09-15 09:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The father is a felon and on probation. Right there, there are a couple of strikes against him. That is not going to be taken lightly should there be court appearances.
I see nothing about the word divorce. Are they separated or are they "legally" separated? Does she have restraining or against her husband?
These are all things to consider. Just by him threatening her could be good enough reason for restraining order. She needs to protect herself and child. You may not be able to do that, you are the boyfriend.
She needs legal advice. There must be places she can go to get legal advice besides a lawyer. Womens Groups, etc. She needs to get off the couch and start searching for answers. Could at least make a few phone calls.
She shouldn't be depending on you when it comes to legal matters. I can see you're doing your best with your support. Yes, you're probably right when it comes to him regarding the child and his shelfish attitude about paying child support.
You don't mention what the father did to earn a felon count against himself.
Don't think she has too much to worry about having the child taken away. Things will most likely continue as they are now.
Because she is so worried about getting child taken away, is there a reason behind the worry?
I suggest you keep an open mind about this whole mess, since you have put yourself right in the middle of someone else's battle. Every state is different so who's to judge anything here and what the outcome will be.
Thinking, maybe the wises thing to do is remove yourself from the big picture for awhile. I'm not a lawyer to advise anything or anyone. She needs to get the advice like I said earlier. there are Women's Shelters Who Could Give Her Advice, or steer her in the right direction. That's the support you can give her. You could encourage her to seek the information she needs.
2007-09-15 08:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by Eagles Fly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is it the father is using you to get.. with all points only the mother and father are looked at.. unless you two are married.. you dont have any bearing on a custody case.. unless your abusive.. as for the mother.. all she has to prove is she is a good parent.. the court cannot take her custody unless there is proof she is a danger to the child.. same with the father ... he can fight all he wants.. but courts are usually gonna grant 50/50 custody... mattering what his probation and charges were.. he might not get 50% but visitations..
get a lawyer.. or the mother needs too.. the lawyer can give better advice
2007-09-15 08:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by jeselynn_81 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I have to say is --- If she is being a good mother- doing whats right - and being good to the kids - she has NOTHING to worry about..he can fight all he wants..but, in the end..the court will see through his BS, and realize what he's really doing. they will have people come into your homes --- to see how you both react to the kids - how they are to you... and also to the EX... by doing that - they can see the living arrangements..and environment.
Tell her not to play his game...and continue just being a mother ----
**be on your guard.. on your best behavior - always - because you never know when you are being watched-- you never know when he is trying to pick a fight just to screw you guys over..and do NOT stoop to his level.. EVER... because that will hurt you and your gf.
2007-09-17 08:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please tell your girlfriend that her ex hobby will not get the child because he is a felon, so he can fight all he wants he will not win his case, and paying child support he can't stop for he can be put in jail for that. Custody man I would give him s--- in his face........GOOD LUCK YOU TWO.
2007-09-15 08:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cannot see him EVER being awarded full custody. be there for your friend, there will be hard times to come. the world will be a mad place if hes even allowed to SEE the child unaccompanyed, let alone have full custody.
2007-09-15 08:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋