I have loved a guy for more than a year and he flirts with me, but i don't think he will ever do anything. I still really care about him, but I am realizing that nothing is going to come out of it. I recently met a guy online and we have been talking usually twice a day. We have a lot in common and I think I'm starting to like him. There is a possibility of us meeting in persona d actually having a relationship. The thing is, i don't feel as strong of an attraction as I do for the other guy, but this could be because we only talk online. Should I give the new guy a shot or wait for the one I have stronger feelings for?
2007-09-15 07:45:08 · 34 answers · asked by crazyjen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After a year and a half things obviously are not moving foward but in a stagnant position. Put him to the side and move on with this new guy. But keep in mind that what happens on line may be very different than when you meet in person. And then again, he may be the love of your life.
2007-09-15 07:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by beachspiderpig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So just be honest with all the parties involved and then see what happens. Be honest with yourself first. Does guy #1 know how you feel? What's the worst thing that could happen if you told him how you feel? How about guy #2? Does he know you love someone else? Would he still want to pursue a relationship with you if he knew that? What happens if you do start up a new relationship with guy #2 and later guy #1 tells you he loved you all along and he'd like to try to dating you to see where it goes? Would you cheat on guy #2? How would you feel about yourself if that happened? How would either of those guys feel about you or worse yet...what would they think about you if you did do something like that? Short answer here is...just be honest. You have nothing to worry about and nothing to hide...if you're always in the right as far as your word goes. Which at the end of the day isn't that worth something? YOUR WORD!! If only more people in this world took pride in something that is so easy to attain.
2007-09-15 07:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by kimolly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...this is what you need to do. Make the first move on the guy that you've liked for over a year. Just ask him out for coffee (Starbucks or something)...and tell him how you feel. Some guys do have trouble expressing how they feel for a girl...it's probably why he flirts instead of telling you straight up. As for the guy online...be careful..be extremely careful who you meet out there. If you meet this guy...please do it in the daytime, and don't get into his car...drive separately, and don't tell him where you live.
Take care sweetie...hope all works out for you.
2007-09-15 07:52:38 · answer #3 · answered by Wanna-be-Dear-Abby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think you should still talk to you flirting guy because if anything happens with the online guy, you still have someone to care about you. By the way the online dating is a very bad idea because they turn out to be crap. Be very careful if you are going to meet with this online guy of yours and go someone public take someone with you if you go.
2007-09-15 07:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie A. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you meet this online guy or not I wouldn't carry on waiting for the other one. A year is long enough to wait for him to show some sign of interest. Either meet the online guy, or get out and meet different people in the flesh.
2007-09-15 07:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well usually when youre under 20 yrs of age youre relationships arent likely to last. Give it time, but dont wait up too long. Either way there is always a lot more than you think out there. Let Mr Right come to you
2007-09-15 07:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by Peppe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the new guy a shot. If things don't turn out you're no worse off.
Edit: Of course, meeting people online is a crap shoot. Make sure you do it in a neutral place, very public. So you have the chance to back out.
2007-09-15 07:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, i beleive you should put both on your "to do" list. then you should go on a two week assessment and decide on which one really gets your motors grinding. the best way to do this is by having both of them on you chatting list and talking to them continously on that not by meeting them. this way each of them will have the same way of getting to you. but if you think the person you have not met online with is not understanding you the way you want him to, then my first option is to leave him because having him as a personal friend is doing you any good unless you guys have a mutual physical attraction or feelings towards each other. i'm sure you can find ways that you are intrested in him
2007-09-15 07:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by chris ;) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look here he is doin something with u, its called spendin time, hello. most men dont give you the time of day oh i get it he is not givin u none. get with the program its not always just about sex, its more to a realinship than just sex. you need to leave that online guy alone he could be crazy you need to wait for your friend and dont mess with the online guy he is nothing he could say anything and you are beliven it. aleast the guy you know you see him and talk to him he is just makin sure that you have more in common than just sex bcause after that there is nothing u should be happy he is not sleepin around on u. get with the program and keep it movin
2007-09-15 08:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy u have stronger feelings for is probably too scared to ask you out soo go do something with him like go to a football game or something and jus play it cool and if nothing happens tell him that u really like him and u want to no if he likes you too
but ive had alot of relationships over the internet the the guy ALWAYS ends up cheating and trust me it hurts to no uve been cheated on
2007-09-15 07:52:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋