I just started working for a great company two weeks ago. And I'm really excited about my new job -- However my boss who btw is really handsome, Is a little hard to read. I suspect that he’s attracted to me by the way he looks at me. If I don't react to his subtle suggestive behavior - will he fire me?
Help: What do you suppose I do...I really like my new job, and don’t want to jeopardize it?
Should I tell him I am attracted to him too, but would never pursue this type of relationship at work. Or flirt or come on time on the job. I am really not that type of person. Besides he's married with children. I am not married and do not have children, but would never even consider having an affair with my boss.
Every time I walk into his office I notice the beautiful pictures of his wife; but I can’t look at them…it just makes me feel really bad. One night working late in the office my boss -- while no other employees were around - My boss walks slowly pass my desk and groans sexually like he's was getting off!
Is this just all in my head, or is this some type of weird office attraction?
Should I give it a few more weeks to decide if it's really an attraction, because maybe he was just tired because it was late???
Or maybe he just looks at everyone the way he looks at me like he’s having some type of deep thought? Is it I who is crazy or what’s really going on here?
2007-09-15 07:42:35 · 10 answers · asked by girl next door 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Other - Careers & Employment
A wealthy man sees a very attractive woman at a party and asks her if she will have sex with him for a million dollars.
She agrees.
He then asks her if she will have sex with him for twenty-five dollars.
She becomes indignant, slaps his face and asks, "What do think I am?"
He replies,"We've already established that, we're negotiating the price!"
2007-09-15 15:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by Jim E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have a horny boss. It's less common now with the sexual abuse rules ,but You have found one that must not fear them. Try to avoid him in one on one situations if at all possible. If you are in a company big enough for a human resources department, you might try to finding out how good they are with employee against management problems before you say anything to them. It really makes for a tension filled atmosphere when this goes on. You have my sympathy, I worked in a place that we had a woman boss who was bi sexual and in a subtle way hit on anybody. She made a mistake of following a woman employee into the bathroom at a club where we had our Christmas party, and planted a big wet one on her. Our new boss was a nice married woman and it made for a lot less stress. Don't start acting any different than you normally do, but listen for gosip about anyone else that had your experience with him. Good Luck
2007-09-15 15:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by redd headd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Office affairs usually turn out badly - especially if it's with your boss (married or not). He might be just flirty or he could be a dirty old man. Either way if it makes you uncomfortable it could be considered sexual harassment. I'd suggest starting to look for another job.
2007-09-23 13:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by Diane M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any affair in the office is a big NO NO and not with your boss. avoid such situations and affairs. you do not have to flirt with him and no need to feel bad when you see the pix of his wife unless you also have intentions. remain business like when you are around him and if his flirtations become stronger, talk to a counselor about it. its a new job and you do not want to lose it especially when a sexual harassment gets involved in it.
2007-09-19 21:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by ese_erhueh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a few weeks and see how he acts. Don't go out with him he is married. Don't let him make you uncomfortable sexually. That is sexual harassment. If he does come on to you sue his butt. He can't fire you for not positively responding to his advances, it is illegal. If he does come on to you then call the labor board and get an attorney. Good luck to you.
2007-09-15 14:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by Kathryn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be as professional as possible and don't read too much into his noises. Maybe he had gas. If you find he is still doing these things, make it a point to talk about his wife and kids. Tell him you have just started dating a wonderful man and talk about what you and your new man did and will be doing (make it up). If that doesn't cool his heels, tell him you will report him and charge him with harassment.
2007-09-15 16:14:54 · answer #6 · answered by judirose2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You been around the block -- forget the wife and kids -- he has... Not much but wear a littler skimpy clothes -- leave the top two buttons undone.. Wear a little tighter pants to show off the nice butt. Be just a little more relaxed and have a little gentle converstion -- What is going on with the St Louis Cardinals how bout those Bears.. The weather is nice. You know what I am talking about. NEVER bring up the wife and kids in any conversation.. Press the issue but go slow.. When the moment comes lay it on him and grab for the zipper...Lick your lips once in a while while you know he is looking at you and don't make eye contact...
Well have fun.....
2007-09-15 15:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by Gerald 6 · 0⤊ 5⤋
I don't know its probably all in your Head. He is married with Kids. I wouldn't give in if I were you. Thats probably the way he is with everyone else in the office.
2007-09-21 16:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by Lightbright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's nothing but trouble, leave the job keep your pride.
2007-09-22 22:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by Jovesash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and get a raise
2007-09-15 14:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by TaTa 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋