how do i help friends that have been raped and molested?

Question

this has really been bugging me...one of my friends got molested by a group of her ex's friends and it has her really depressed.another friend, which is 14, has a 29 year old "boyfriend" which is married, with children,he rapes her, and 3 days ago she got raped by a friend of his and he didnt care. i know my second friend should quit the relationship, but how do i help them both, and how do i help her finish the relationship?

Answer 1

Call the police, as people here have told you,..The police will investigate, and tell them everything, how your family is, to please not let anyone know you called,..that the man is almost thirty years old, and raped your friend, and so did his other friend...you will end that relationship so fast, and the police will think you are the greatest,...maybe you could even think about becomming a police officer yourself? YOu do seem to care about other a great deal go for it girl..get on that phone and get him

Answer 2

As a survivor of both rape and molestation I would have to tell you that if you are sure that the 14 year old is telling the truth as teens do tend to exaggerate you have a duty to call the police. As far as I know most states would consider that rape and if he gets her pregnant that will only add to her problems. AS for the first friend she should also call the police they are the only ones that can really help either of them. If the police get involved they can help your friends get the help that they need through counseling and they can make sure that these males ( you can't call either of them Men) will be put where they can't hurt anyone else. That is important for the mental health of both of your friends and for other women and girls that might come under their influence.

Answer 3

If your 14 year old friend is telling the truth (some teens exagerate !) then you should call the cops and let them know what you have been told. The other friend has been 'molested' by her ex's friends. What firm did the molestation take ? . . Physical or verbal ? That too needs to be stopped. I presume from the way you write that she is an adult. She herself must report the unwanted attaention and abuse. To help her to reach that point where she is no longer afraid of them she will need the security that good friendship brings. That is where you come in. Rather than offering to stand by her - Just Do It ! Actions speak louder than words sometimes. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Most likely your friend will not listen to you and push you away if you try and tell her to end the relationship. It's sad but she is probably caught up in the situation so much that it's hard for her to back away or she would have left already. Especially if this guy is threatening her or giving her things. I would give her all the support she needs right now. I would also let someone at your school know like a guidance counselor. Your friend may deny it if asked but at least you are bringing more people in who can try to help. Like someone said, it is illegal for her to be with the 29 year old. Even if they both consented to sex it is still a crime. Do her parents know of this? If not, unfortunately you will definitely have to tell them...either by telling your mom/dad to tell them or having a school official do it - such as the guidance counselor. This is for the safety of your friend. She will thank you in the long run. As for your first friend who was raped...is she getting any counseling or talking to an adult about it? It's also important for you to stick by her and listen to how she is feeling. Make sure if she EVER talks about hurting herself that you report that to an adult. Good luck to you and your friends.

Answer 5

Everyone is saying to call the police. They are correct. A 29 y/o that rapes a 14 y/o is not a "bf". That's the biggest load of crap I've read here today. Relationship? What relationship? Rape is not a relationship damnit!

Answer 6

Both these girls need to go to the police & report what happened, & what the heck is a 14 yr. old doing with a 29yr old anyway. If they won't go to the police they you need to tell the 14 yr.olds parents what happened because these men need to be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.
All of those men need to be in jail. Then both girls need counseling. If they don't go to the police then they need to talk to a rape crisis intervention professional, so they can get the help they need, & as soon as possible.

Answer 7

Your friends need your support. They also need professional help. First of all, if somebody has been raped or molested, they need to contact law enforcement, so those people will not do this to somebody else. That is the very first thing they should do, and you should support them in comforting them and helping them make that decision. Secondly, talk to your friends and let them know you support them, and you want to help them find help - even if they cant bear to think of law enforcement, at the very least, help them get help from a professional such as a psychiatrist. School counselors can intervene in helping someone, ESPECIALLY minors, who are being abused. Whatever you do, try to talk them into getting help for themselves, and make sure they do it. If they wont do it for themselves, you may need to contact someone yourself and GET them help. ESPECIALLY in the case of minors. Sexually abusing a minor is a serious serious thing, and it will cause life long mental injury. GET THEM HELP!

Answer 8

Report this to the police.
A 29 year old is violating the law by having sex with a 14 year old.

Answer 9

Your story sounds suspect. Your mentioning of videos in church and in the temple is, at best, a strange assertion. There are no "closed doors" in Mormon church buildings as they have windows in all class room doors. Otherwise, it is a public building where there are other people present and no "opportunity" for what you claim to happen. Rape proceedings occur in Utah courts all of the time. Not every judge and attorney in Utah is Mormon anyway. They are many many non Mormon attorneys that would be happy to pursue your claims. Again, they sound highly suspect to me.

Answer 10

call the police about your second friend. or at least tell your or her parents. or tell your school but tell it to be anonomous, so she wont get mad at you. and if the first friend is depressed about it, SHE should be the one calling the police!tell her she needs to tell her parents.