Okay, so I have an adopted sister from China. Why are these people so rude??? They ask things like did you adopt her? How much did she cost? She's 6 so she understands these things. Why are these ADULTs so rude?
2007-09-15 06:40:51 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
Wow! Thank you everyone for all of your nice responses. I couldn't choose the best one because you all were so good. Thank you so much!
2007-09-15 14:56:19 · update #1
Social etiquette is a thing of the past it seems. Just respond with something like "I would appreciate if you didn't talk about my sister like she is not here." or just walk away. Remind your sister that she is loved and many people are just ignorant.
2007-09-15 06:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by Alyssa and Chloe's Mommy 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
People are rude because their parents didn't teach them any better. The best response is, "That's actually a very rude question, but there's no price on the amount of love we have for her." Do not be afraid to say that they are being impolite. Just be sure to do it with a smile and in a respectful voice.
It's funny how some people think just because an adopted child is from China, but is 6 years old, that she probably doesn't understand English, although being raised in an English speaking household.
2007-09-15 06:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by marianne 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is natural for people to be curious of what they don't know. In their desire to know more, they sometimes temporarily forget social courtesies and will only realize that they have been rude when they recall the incident later. Analyzing the facts you have laid out, it seems that these adults you are referring to temporarily forgot that it is rude to ask such questions in front of your adopted sister. Look at the bright side: they might consider adopting children themselves, and hence, help more children like your sister have a brighter future.
2007-09-15 06:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by blah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just plain ignorant. It's a fact of life. But there are a lot of decent people out there too, so don't give up on humans. Congratulations on your adopted sister. I've heard a lot of red tape and time is involved in such a process.
2007-09-15 06:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by Ham8888888888 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple things amuse simple people.... Just say she's worth more than they'd ever be, and that shes your sister. Some people probably don't even realize they are being rude, they might really want to know, because they are thinking about adopting or are just curious... but yeah.. idiots all of em.
2007-09-15 06:58:21 · answer #5 · answered by scorch_22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hay that's a good question... its in are nature as humans to be that way..im sure we all have it but sum of us just different then others but to be honest you guys are awsome you and Ur family 4 doing such a nice thing you changed someones life 4 the better ...Learn to ignore ignorant people like that and life would be just that much better people dont understand what they cant comprehend/...Ps hope everthing works out
2007-09-15 06:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by raekwon_31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, that is rude. Who asks how much an innocent child costs??? But that's because more than half of the stupid a$s people in the world are ignorant and I'm just assuming you live in the US? Lmao.
Like someone else said... that little girl is lucky to have you and your family.
2007-09-15 06:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ SeXy.SeXy ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These people might be uncomfortable with "otherness", so attack you because of their own insecurities. They express this a "joke", which of course is not funny and shows their immaturity.
I think people who say those things are unkind and i really feel for you and your sister.
Have you mentioned these attitudes towards your sister to your parents? They might be able to help you find healing strategies or responses to the rude and childish adults you encounter.
2007-09-15 06:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by Willow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are rude because they do not understand why somebody would want to devote their live to a child that is not biologically there's. It is wrong and I understand my dad adopted me when I was a year old. after him and my mother got married. They always asked my dad questions like she doesn't look like you she must take after her mom, and she is so light skinned compared to you and your wife is she yours. He is Hispanic. And I am very white so you see. Just make your sister feel loved and make sure she knows that no matter what she is you sister and nothing could change that. Good luck Hun.
2007-09-15 06:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by Courtney B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, from what I understand adopting a child is very expensive. I have two cousins from China. It never crossed my mind to ask them how much it cost, but I have heard it's Like 30k or 40k. I don't know. Maybe people ask because they are interested in adopting themselves. As far as asking if your parents adopted her, I think that's obvious!!!! My father used to say ignorance is bliss. I think those words are words to live by because it's so true!!!!!
2007-09-15 06:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by lovely_kelly2004 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just stare at them and act as if you don't speak English. What pigs. They are trying to understand how the process works but in a discusting way. My cousin (who is like my sister) was adopted from Korea. All my life people looked confused when I said she was my cousin. I just said, "Yeah, I am the only white girl in the family............." to imply that her family adopted ME.
2007-09-15 08:19:51 · answer #11 · answered by spinster wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋