My son is not allowed to date until he is 25. I told him this when he was young, but his friend told me that he already has a girlfriend. He is only 16! I have to get them to break up. My son is not allowed to focus on women at his age. How can I get them to break up?
2007-09-15 06:39:59 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
seek therapy.
2007-09-15 06:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by pooh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can not do much of anything about who your son sees after he turns 18 and he will be old enough to move out and be on his own at 18 if he wants to. My son met his wife and they were both 15. They must have broken up over 1,000 times. I tried to break them up by moving to a different state but they were still able to write letters and call long distance. They got married when they were both 25 and have been for 10 years. I know that you want to break your son and his girlfiend up because you probably feel like that is the right thing to do but it could cause your son to turn against you.
2007-09-15 07:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are joking right? You honestly believe that you can disallow him from being interested (focused) on females at 16? What are you smoking? At 16 there are two things that a boy focuses on...getting his license and girls.
Not allowed to date until he is 25? What planet did you come from? At 18 (17 in some states) he is considered an adult and can do as he pleases - with or without your consent.
My guess is that if you break them up, you will succeed at driving a wedge between you and him, cause him to sneak around and lie to you, and have him planning for his moving day - on his 18th birthday...or have you told him he is not allowed to think about growing up and moving out either?
2007-09-15 06:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's going to want to do it more if you don't allow it. People need money and transportation to date. If you take away money, then he will find other means to get it; they may or may not be legal. You should allow it as long as he gets his sh!t done. If his grades aren't slipping and he's not getting her pregnant than you shouldn't trip. If you get too crazy about it, then the idiot kids will turn their relationship into some kind of forbidden Romeo and Juliet type of love story and then they will really not break up. Let him have his fun and they'll probably break up on their own.
I totally agree with you on the whole 25 thing is the soonest he should get an exclusive girlfriend, but having casual relations with the opposite sex before then, you should be encouraging him to do as long as his grades and everything are fine.
2007-09-15 06:53:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you force them to break up then it'll lead to further problems. Like he'll HATE you for doing that. Yes you're a parent & is looking out for her child but you shouldn't force him to do anything. In this generation & future generation no one will wait until they're 25 to DATE. Thats really being irrational on your part. He'll be a man soon & im sure you don't want him to turn into a mama boy & face humiliations from his friends. So start off by setting some boundaries. Like no staying out late or she can't come over or if his grades drop then he's no longer allow to date. Start off easy & if he abides by your rules then let him date. He's a teenager let him has his fun. But if doesn't abide by these rules then take the tough route. good luck. =]
2007-09-15 06:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by crazykiaray23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Leave him alone, he's old enough to date. If he's only going to start to date at age 25 then he's going to turn out like the 40 year old virgin collecting action figures and stuff. Some people are already married by that age. If wants to go out with the girl then let him, if you break them up then he will hate you forever. As long as their not having sex and if they do make sure he wears protection. Let them do what they want.
2007-09-15 06:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by rebeandphantom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, before you have a heart attack, let me first say this: dating at the age of 16 is actually normal for teenagers! And it's better to begin dating sooner rather than later. If your son followed your "no dating until you're 25 rule" he'd be very inexperienced--and not in the sexual way that you are obviously worried about. If he were to start dating at age 25 he won't know the do's and don'ts. BUT....if he starts younger he will learn from his experiences and will be able to take them with him when he graduates into the world. I know you're just worried about him, but I advise you to calm down. My little brother is FOURTEEN and he's already dated two girls. I'm SIXTEEN and I've dated three boys. When we began dating others my parents made it clear to us what they were comfortable with and what they weren't comfortable with and gave us advise about sex and whatnot; however, that DOES NOT MEAN that we are going to have sex with the person we are dating! Believe it or not, many of us teenagers have morals; and by the looks of it, it looks like your son is one of them. LIVE A LITTLE, let him date this girl! Explain to him your worries and explain to him what you expect of him when he's with her and whatnot. DO YOU TRUST YOUR SON, is what you should be asking yourself.
2007-09-15 06:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the matter with u?
hes 16! u just cant force him to date until hes 25. hes an adult at 18 therefore u CANNOT control him. GET OVER IT!
ur being a horrible parent n trying to break them up.
Talk to the girl, who knows, u might like her.
2007-09-15 06:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I think not allowing your son to date until he is 25 is a bit unrealistic. I think 16 is a fairly common age for teenagers to begin dating. Interfering in your son's love life is not a good idea; however, if you have legitimate concerns about his girlfriend, then talk to him about it. However, it sounds like your grip on him is way too strong. Teenagers, if they have proven they are responsible, should have degrees of independence, including being allowed to date. I would suggest having a long talk with your son and loosening the vice grip you have on him. He may surprise you in more ways than one.
2007-09-15 06:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by Kristy W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...well first of all, you kind of can't stop your son from dating after he's 18 so...the whole no dating till 25 you can just forget that. And he's 16 years old. Lady, he's a teenager. He's at a stage in his life where he needs that type of relationship just to learn a bit. You can't seriously be considering that. Thats just wrong. And forcing him to break up will just force him away from you.
2007-09-15 06:47:39 · answer #10 · answered by sorahya f 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your not gunna let him date at 16? what is your problem? what are you afraid of? are you afraid of her getting pregnant? there isnt much you can do, he is 16, he is almost an adult, a few more years and he will be. you cant watch him untill he is 25. thats ridiculous, he might end up being a 40 year old virgin that way. how could you live with that? the most you could do is keep a close eye on them when you can and talk to your son about safe sex
2007-09-15 06:45:07 · answer #11 · answered by atomsk68 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋