Her son's dad is a thief that steals from our whole family. She keeps believing him and thinks he only steals from her. He has stolen cash out of my purse, both of her sisters purses and has now stolen $1300 out of her step mom's purse. Her Dad and Step Mom came from NE to FL to visit her and her son. Now her ex BF has stolen the money they had to get home on. I am so angry. Not just at the boy that stole the money, but at my daughter who believes he is innocent just because he is currently sober and not doped yet. I can't stand the thought that we aren't safe going to sleep because this man feels like he can sneak into our house in the middle of the night and take what he wants. I forbid him to come near my house, but she lives there with her sister now and I live across town. She lets him come over to babysit his son when she goes out. What is it going to take to get her to wake up and get that man out of our lives?
2007-09-15 06:15:47 · 5 answers · asked by ladyvlk0001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your daughter loves him, and believes all of his lies. I feel your pain, and the only person who can help your daughter, is your daughter, she knows how he is, but somewhere deep down inside she feels as if she needs him. She seems to suffer from low self-esteem, and she is not thinking about the needs of the child, she is only thinking about her needs. And she feels in her mind again that she needs him, there is nothing you can do to him unless you have physical proof that he is harming the baby or your daughter, then you can call child protective services. You may want to threaten her and say that you are going to turn her in to child protective services, maybe that will wake her up. Good Luck and keep me posted :D
2007-09-15 06:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by pookster4262 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever called to Police and filed a report and had him arrested?
No?
Then by lack of action, you have enabled this situation. I don't blame you - I would have a hard time following through on what I wrote above, but the fact is, that if he has never been held responsible for his thievery - then why should your daughter?
He either needs to be called out on this - arrested and charged - or you need to stop looking to your daughter to accept responsibility for him - when he accepts no responsibility for himself...no one has ever held him accountable - so really, why should either of them care?
2007-09-15 06:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just in a naive state right now, the only thing that will help is maturity. For you sake, I would say change the locks, if you say he can't come into the house then mean it, try to catch him in the act as well, something like those nanny cams, her seeing it for herself will make her believe.
2007-09-15 06:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ally... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd try to notify some authority to wake her up...
Your case isn't just motherly discipline, but a real issue. 1300 dollars... wow.
I'd also try the camera thing.
2007-09-15 06:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone knows how he is and yet the money is always where he has easy access to it. properly secure your home. she probably already knows how he is. let her handle it the way she sees best. report what he does against you to the police.
2007-09-15 06:47:06 · answer #5 · answered by Zirconne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋