If someone is in high school, is it normal for their mother to tell them that they are gaining weight and be openly upset about it? Is it ok if their mother basically gets MAD at them for it? I'm talking just a little bit of weight here...not a lot
2007-09-15 05:44:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
thanks i'm 29 now and still angry about it
SO dont do this to your kids!!
2007-09-15 06:16:09 · update #1
oh yeah i had bulimia as well....
2007-09-15 06:16:29 · update #2
I think it's horrible for a parent to be like that. If you're obese, and she's trying to "help you", then that's a different story. But there are some ways I find it abuse. My cousin modeled as a teenager. My aunt decides one day to tell her she's getting strech marks and becoming fat. She won't be a model if she is fat. (She wasn't fat in the least bit.) Well, she almost killed herself right infront of her mom.
I don't think it's normal for a mother to tell them like it makes them such a horrible person.
2007-09-15 08:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Mom shouldn't be getting that MAD at the child for gaining a little bit of weight. It's one thing to show concern, but if the mother is openly angry about her child gaining just a little weight, then she needs to cut down on her anger and consider the child's feelings.
Sadly, this is how eating disorders can start.
2007-09-15 06:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by AV 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Get her passionate about something else besides food. Help her find a new hobby. Try together to do fun activities that won't feel like exercise or a chore to do. Incorporate more fruits and veggies into her diet, even if she's picky I'm sure she has a few favs. Get her to cut up some veggies for supper, ask her if she'd like to walk in the park with you and buy her a journal. Being 12, she'll appreciate a little independence in the responsibility for herself too.
2016-05-20 02:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember my family putting me through that when I was in highschool. I didn't only get that from my mother but from my grandma. I'm sure if the the mom is THE SKINNY then she would want her daughter to be skinny too and not teased at school. My mom was skinny and that's what she said to me. It lowered myself esteem, but I never listened to her. If the mom is so concerned about the child gaining weight have her set up a doc appointment just to prove her wrong.
2007-09-15 05:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by Gina Nicklin 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You know, I am 50 years old and I asked the same question on here too. I got some really good answers like, no, it is not okay for your mother to tell you that, in a bad tone of voice. She should mind her own business and praise you no matter what size you are. You should tell her that it hurts you very much and you are going through puberty. Many changes happens in your teen years. You'll know what to do for yourself and don't let her upset you. Remember, tell her that it really hurts. I hope she is compassionate to your feelings and will stop! I care and I am overweight. Good luck to you~ =0
2007-09-15 05:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by Autismmomof2 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My sister gained a lot of weight during high school... And when she started to become overweight and when she was not a healthy weight anymore my mom started mentioning it to her... In a loving, kind way, trying to help her eat right and encourage her to exercise... Its a few years later now, shes in university, and shes still overweight... And my moms still trying...
When I was 9 I was skinny and I wanted a bikini... My mom told me I had to lose weight if I wanted it then she'd buy me it... And she called me fat... And that caused me to starve myself at 9yrs old, I didnt start eating properly again until I was 11... Was anorexic again at 13 and 14... And now I'm 17 and still struggle with my weight, now I use drugs to lose weight, and when I was 16 I use to sometimes make myself puke... Caused a ton of problems for me... And now I cant be happy with a healthy, normal body weight, I always wanna lose weight until I'm underweight and even then I still try to lose more...
2007-09-16 22:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, its not ok and that mother is going to give her daughter an eating disorder if she doesn't stop this nonsense. High school is hard enough without a mother adding to the stress.
Her main concern is that her daugther is happy and healthy, not how much she weighs.
2007-09-15 05:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by Mom 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No thats really going to hurt her in the long run. If she already has self esteem issues then her saying that could lead to an eating disorder. And she does NOT want to get into that.
2007-09-15 05:54:33 · answer #8 · answered by Christen T 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
a parent should be concerned about a child's health. Fat people are subject to MANY health issues not faced my slim or "normal" weight people. She may need to be a bit more tactfully but still all and all, she should do what she feels id best for the child's health.
2007-09-15 05:55:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jan Luv 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
No no no unless it is a huge increase that the child may have something wrong with her.
2007-09-15 06:01:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋