we have been together for 6 years - and latelty the sex is just become so boring for me i dont know what to do. he never wants to do it and its making me think he doesn't even fancy me anymore. I try things on but he just cant be bothered its always when he want to do it that we do it never when i want it. i dont think he has another woman its just him - ive even started fantasing about having an affair just so i can have sex . dont get me wrong he gives me plenty of cuddles just not the sex. iam so frustrated
2007-09-15 05:13:13 · 17 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you think that he may be gay? A lot of men that are on the DL (down low) don't want the world to know that they are gay so they make a big pretense about it to the extent of involving another person. They get married, have long time girlfriends, or date a lot of women. They are ashamed of being gay but can't deny themselves of male companionship in secret. So they put up a big front or a pretense for the rest of the world. They never consider the women that they hurt in the process. It may also be drugs. If he is secretly involved in drugs he may not have the natural libido he would have if he didn't do drugs. Just a theory.
2007-09-15 05:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by sustasue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be all manner of reasons. We can all speculate as to whether it's because he is stressed at work or anxious or he has become comfortable and settled into a routine at home, or has gone off you etc., all day long. The answer is you will only find out once you speak with him and see what he says. Having an affair would just be destructive. Speak to him and find out the cause.
2007-09-15 12:55:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have not been interested in sex for the last 3 weeks, my partner is really peed off. You know, guys can get problems as well u know, work related, finances, general well being..the list goes on. I am thinking about setting up my own business as i am so disillusioned at work. Someone got promoted over me and i have been there the longest and hold a higher academic qualification....plus some has been stirring it ...i had a call last night...so yes, we do care about other things apart form our own libido...(some of us don't cheat)...
2007-09-15 12:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by needmorecubes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If ur happy with him and dont think he is having an affair then buy a vibrator instead. A girl has to get her fun from somewhere and at least thats not cheating infact it might turn him on........
2007-09-15 12:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by sammyj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have lost the sparks in the relationship...A man who doesn't want sex from you is really a danger sign. Ask him and solve this asap, you'll either end up with a new man or ... stay with him until he or you meet up with a new partner...
2007-09-15 12:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are asking the wrong people, talk to your man about it and see what is going on. Be prepared to be really patient about it, he may not want to talk about it and he may not know the reason himself and he may not be aware that there is even a problem.
2007-09-15 12:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by milton b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come see me and I'll soon sort out you'r fustration! quine,
He's either on drugs and lost his sex drive, or he's sleeping with someone else, or the worst case sinario, He's now batting for the other team, (Gay) go out and get that fustration eased out by some willing MAN! or give me a bell! I'll soon sort you out!!!!!!!
2007-09-15 12:30:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Suppress the urge to have an affair.
Just tell him you'd like to have more sex because you're feeling lonely? Iuno
2007-09-15 12:58:11 · answer #8 · answered by Hahaha! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's depressed. That puts you off sex and he doesn't sound like a bundle of fun at the moment. Get him to the doctor....pronto.
2007-09-15 12:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by chris n 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He either gets it elsewhere, can't get it up randomly or has gone off you, sorry but nothing else fits! Ask him, but don't expect the truth!
2007-09-15 12:20:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋