this might sound "silly" but please, answers. i reaallly like my basketball coach?

Question

so i joinde basketball, and my coach is really "hott".
I love his personality and stuff, but i like him and im attracticed to hm more than jsut a coach..
He is 22 and im just 14, i know big age differencee
But my mom and dad are 6 years apartt. age doesnt matterr
I know it sounds like were dating or something, ahaa he has a girlfriendd.
But im just wondering how do i get him off my mind, i serisly like him alott, the biggest crush ive ever had.
And i asked some people about this and they ofcourse said its normall to have a crush on a older cute guyy,, but this feels like more thn a crushh.

I jsut want to know if there is anyway of getting him off my mind, or if you hadd a expieernce like this, if you have please share it.

Thanks :D

sorry about speelling.

no rude comments please

some of you guys are thinking we actually like had romantic feelings for each other,
Im jsut trying to find a way to get him off my mind and stuff.
Its not like i was really going to have sexual conntact with him or anytihngg.
Just a crush.

dude, you guys have to understand its jsut a crush.
SOME of you think im going to have sex with him or something.
ITS A CRUSH, i know that he is wayy older.
I jsut wannted an idea to get him off of my mind, of if any one of you had a situation like this

thanks

Answer 1

I am sure this is not the first time this has happened to him, and if he is a good person, he will not let anything happen.

It is normal for kids to have crushes, but he is much too old for you.

Answer 2

6 years difference when you are adults is not the same as 6 or 7 years difference when you are a teenager (that is roughly half your lifetime so far). 22 years old is grown up and 14 is too young, plus he would get into big trouble and could not be a coach anymore. This guy also has a girlfriend. I think it is okay to have a crush on him, but you need to move past it. Hopefully soon you will have a crush on a guy who is your age. This guy sounds nice in personality and looks, and it is good you like nice guys, but this should not go any further (and it doesn't sound like it could or would). If you were say 23 and he was 29 for example, it would be a lot different because you would both be adults. I think you are right, it is not an uncommon thing to have a crush like this, and give it time and it will not be such a problem. If it is, I suggest you change to a different sport team for both your sakes. Good luck.

Answer 3

First, don't let this get in the way of your playing at all. Or else bad things can happen. It is kind of normal to have a crush on an older guy but with sports your teamates don't want to hear about school or your social life. they just want to have fun and play. So talk to your really close friends and maybe maybe even the coach. But don't say, "I secretly love you and I want to marrry you!" that would be wicked awkward. You could start off by saying he is a great coach and then keep talking and maybe things would happen. But If things do happen I fear that if you are still playing basketball and he is still your coach things may feel wierd or awkward and you might not play your best.

Answer 4

When I was in high school, everyone found out that a middle school teacher had been having an affair with a student for years. She was in high school, and she confessed the affair while in a class with that teacher's youngest daughter. It was horribly traumatic for everyone involved, and now that I'm an adult I can look back and confidently say it probably left permanent scars on all of them.

This is a "crush", in that you have intense feelings for someone at a time in your life when you don't have an adult's experience in dealing with them. The fact that it's occurring to you to act on your crush in real life is about something else.

The way to get him off of your mind is to try to act as though you're really, truly mature. A mature person knows the roles she and the people around her play in a given situation. In yours, you are a student with the job of getting the grades that are going to decide what she gets to do for the last sixty years of her life. His job as a teacher is to help students learn what they need for those grades and to obey the laws governing his job. If he has a family, his role is also to be loyal and honorable where they're concerned. Your job as a human being is to respect others, and that includes respecting their boundaries. He doesn't want to lose his job, or he wouldn't be teaching there. He worked very hard for that job, going to school and going through interviews in order to be a teacher. People who actually love someone don't want to destroy what he or she has worked for and accomplished.

There's nothing wrong with feeling a crush; it's part of growing up. The most mature thing you could do is to try to figure out what you admire and respect about him so you know what it is you really want in the boyfriends of your own age that you actually will choose later.

Answer 5

Honey, the best way to keep your mind off of him is to think about what would happen if you acted on your feelings. He would lose his job. He would never get to coach again for the rest of his life. It would destroy everything for him. It might even put him in jail. If you seriously like this man, then just let him be your coach. When you turn 18, if you still have feelings for him, then look him up and ask him to coffee. Till then, please don't do anything that would cause him problems. Lots of girls and guys develop crushes on teachers and coaches. It's common and understandable. Just keep your mind on boys your age right now and wait till you're older to fall for an older guy.

Answer 6

believe me, he may be your biggest crush, but when you come to 16-17, you'll see that all crushes are like that.
of course, you'll know how to handle them because you'll be older and mature.

and you're 14, know that he has NO intentions to waste time on some 14 year-old as a date.

i'm not offending you or anything. i'm just giving you facts.

and to get him off your mind, try something with some boy your age. I'm sure there are boys that like you, so ... ask out one of them, and who knows, maybe after some time you'll have a crush on him as big as on the basketball trainer.

P.S. you really got people's attention with this question...

Answer 7

every young girl has a crush on an older person but you have to move on because its not right and nothing will come out of it so just keep busy and try and be his best player on the team and find a boy youre on age ok because he could get fired over this if it gets out and some one says something about it

Answer 8

its normal to be crushing on an older guy but just remember nothing will come of it and if he does hes willing to go to jail. Age does matter when you are that age. Once your mature and a responsible adult then thats when age doesnt matter. Im not sure how to help you get him out of your head, it will just take time and just remember that its a "crush"

Answer 9

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Answer 10

You can't spell at age 14....not being rude, but.....stop thinking about your coach...who is happy with his girlfriend and his adult life and get into your studies and learn to spell. Knowledge is power. Knowledge is also sexy. If your coach was to act on your flirting with him or doing anything but being your coach, I'd hope that someone else would report him. AGE DOES MATTER....esp at YOUR age. It might not matter as much if he was 38 and you were 30, but at 14 it's called statutory rape! Get your own life and learn to spell! You'll be more appealing to guys your own age. Mabye you can find one your own age who can help you learn to spell better.