he is 23 and im 16 he is the sweetest guy ever. we know that we cant go out or do anything so we kinda said to each other that we would wait until i turned 18. we have know each other 4 a good while and we can tell each other anything and i love that. i recently found out that he brags about me to his cousin who he works w/. im glad he is talkin about me. i talk about him to my friends to. he is the one that makes me happy and not have a care in the world.
my question is should i still flirt around and maybe get a b/f or should i juss wait until im 18 for him?
2007-09-15 04:34:19 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats a hard one. first of all does he really apreciate u and does he love you because if you get a boyfriend it might break his heart do you know that he hasn't got a girlfriend?? but from the heart : i think you should wait for him or go and get him now if he is the one for you??
2007-09-15 04:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by Dovey...x 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a friend in a similar situation (although they weren't really in love...they had a kid...nevermind), I would say that there are a few ways to go about it:
1. Practically speaking (and I have known people who tried to make non-physical relationships last for longer), it is really difficult to make the relationship you're describing last two years (believe it or not, seven years is an enormous difference in terms of responsibilities, maturity, and just perception...). He does sound like a nice guy though (I only have the experience of knowing 16 year olds girls who dated older guys that were abusive and, for lack of a better word, assholes) which brings me to option 2:
2. Get a boyfriend for two years, like you suggested. From my experience and perspective, that would NOT work. Dating a guy for two years usually means sex, and in your situation sex would complicate things. So I wouldn't recommend it. And think about it: dating a guy just to fill the two years between when you can and cannot legally have sex with another guy? And, finally:
3. Just date the 23 year old. I would assume that waiting until you're 18 is an effort not to violate federal (I think?) statutes that apply to sexual crimes. I myself had been in a very similar situation in the past (unfortunately before I acquired an education in law =D) and the truth of the matter is that as long as neither of you: 1. Get caught in the act of having sex or admit having sex to someone who then goes to the cops and signs an affidavit, and then 2. State that the sex was unconsentual, and acquired through force, coercion, abuse, manipulation, fraud, or in violation of another statute (i.e. prostitution). So anyway, how bout those Cubs...?
2007-09-15 04:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by bball0628 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well variety is the spice of life but then you may wait for the rest of your life for someone you care for to come along
so go for it because when you get old you will regret it, your
only young once, none of us know how long we are going to live, he may be the only one who makes you feel this way
time dosent really matter it just matters when your waiting for a bus or train seize the day for you never know what tomorrow will bring
Hope this helps
2007-09-15 04:44:19 · answer #3 · answered by snowbirdy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gosh even that is to young wait until your like about 21 or even maybe 23 but who am I to say. You are the 1 who to to make the decision. Pray about it my friend. Ask God if He thinks this guy is right for you. And I am sure in time God will give you a answer.
2007-09-15 04:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by calltoperservence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go and meet new people. The chances of him waiting 2 years for you at the age of 23 are slim to none. Truth sometimes hurts.
2007-09-15 04:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by Attila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm well sweety thats hard to say. FIRST thing is once you break that vergin part you cant get it back. so think before you so soemthing. do you think this guy is really waiting for you? Well about the talking everyone talk to there buds about a relationship ect.. If he makes you happy and hes willing to wait then wait why find a boyfriend. GOOD LUCK SWEETY!
2007-09-15 04:42:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on and get a boyfriend. It isnt worth waiting two years while he probably moves on and gets a girlfriend. There are so many other GREAT guys out there. Go with someone in your highschool that is nice and sweet, you know all the good characteristics.
2007-09-15 04:39:14 · answer #7 · answered by SuRf3rQT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a 23 year old man who flirts with underage girls, huh? That sounds like a loser to me, if you ask me.
Ask yourself this question. Why isn't he looking for a 19, 20, 21, 22 or 23 year old woman? Why is he after a 15-16 year old girl?
This is all too suspicious. Flirt around with boys your age, live life, but be very careful of this guy.
2007-09-15 04:36:30 · answer #8 · answered by Carlos Mal 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If the two of you already care this much for each other and he has said that he is willing to wait the two years, I hope you choose to wait. Not a lot of people would do that. Good luck, whatever your decision may be.
2007-09-15 04:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by HoneyBee 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
quit guys 4 2 yrs wait till ur 18.hang out with ur galfrends while u wait
2007-09-15 04:40:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just live life as a 16 years old.
2007-09-15 04:40:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋