mmmmkkkayy welll i have this 'fling' thing goin on with a guy that lives near me but he just moved and although we see each other weekends, idk if we're 'together together' (i still reallly really like him aLOT)
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BUT NOWWWWWW... im starting to like one of my friends (joe) who is supercute and sweet and stuff......
am i bad for liking joe? should i go for it or should i just stay with my 'boyfriend' (for lack of a better word) because i love him so much....im sooo confused!
2007-09-15 04:30:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Erh..
2007-09-15 04:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by Titan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you are not bad by any means people just cant help the way they feel but if you really care about this fling thing then you need to sit down and discuss it with him and see where your guys' head and hearts lay then go from there I could be wrong but you sound like you are kind of young and well if you are then enjoy it date however you want and have fun with it I mean you only live once maybe not commit to any of them but dont by any means keep the other one a secret from the other just sit down with the fling and discuss it tell him what its truly in your heart and by the way hunny you may really care about him but you dont love him if you are liking someone else now sometimes I just sit down and write a letter it helps out alot you dont have to actually give it to him you could tear it up after you are done but alot of times this helps you sort out the things that you really feel I find that at times this helps me see things that I was not concioulsy willing to let myself admit
2007-09-15 04:49:06 · answer #2 · answered by ellisidee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my way of answering is this, is i know you like Joe but does Joe like you? what if you stop seeing the other guy just to go for your friend and it turns out that Joe doesn't want you. You'll be heart broken and also, you'll be left with no guy. If you try to go back with the "boyfriend" things would probably be iffy!! I think you should really think about what you're doing. You're also probably feeling this way bc your guy doesn't live near you anymore and you are starting to feel the distant. =( Hoped i helped!!
2007-09-15 04:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay.. first clarify what you realtionship status is with the guy who moved... if you both still feel it's b/f g/f thing than don't do anything with joe..
really, it's nothing wrong with liking someone.. there are qualities about this joe guy that made him your friend in the first place.. maybe because your b/f has moved, you're seeking comfort or attention that isn't there anymore... and since you're so comfortable with joe already, you're confusing being friends with being more...
2007-09-15 04:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be the person you want to be. treat people the way you want to be treated.
don't become a statistic for someone. the girl who led on the guy and was trying to have her cake and eat it too. that isn't fair to anyone including you. Be honest and truthful. decide what you want, handle the discomfort that comes with hard decisions, and then move forward knowing you are doing whatever you choose free of guilt and shame. then regardless of which guy you choose you will be free to enjoy him fully.
2007-09-15 04:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by meitay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're definately not "bad" for having emotion...
To answer your very cryptic, vague, and frankly unanswerable question (i think thats self-contradictory =D), you should go with whichever guy you want to be with! Society won't hate you for breaking some unspoken (and I think imagined) social code that confines you to one guy over another...whichever guy you don't "choose" will get over it and if you do it right will still be your friend when everything's said and done. I think you're the only one who can answer your question...
2007-09-15 04:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its nothing wrong for liking another guy just dont cheat on youre bf thats wrong and if you dont wont to be with youre bf then break up and start dating joe thats the only right way of doing it where nobody gets hurt in this ok so good luck to you
2007-09-15 04:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by foxy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you don't "love" your "boyfriend" if you're thinking about someone else...although I'm sure you care about him. Secondly, if you don't even know if you're actually with your "boyfriend", I wouldn't exactly say you're in a committed relationship. If you like the new guy, go for it.
2007-09-15 04:37:18 · answer #8 · answered by Jen due December 09 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your only seeing eachother on the weekends he most likely has a girlfriend and is just using you... not to mention if you havent both agreed to being boyfriend and girlfriend then you are just friends with benefits which equals there is no way of cheating
2007-09-15 04:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by love_ridden_85 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm Go OuT wiT BoTh Of Em
2007-09-15 04:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u arnt bad for liking Joe because people do grow apart...you should close ur eyes, stop thinking, and listen to a thing i call "heart" because there's no better word for it
2007-09-15 04:35:32 · answer #11 · answered by My 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋