Ok, she wears a uniform and looks great. But she wears her beautiful shiny black hair out and constantly flicks it when she is nervous,like when she is on the phone or talking to clients. I have noticed in a workplace with predominantly men they find it distracting and cannot look her in the eye or their eyes run over it. Just looking at her makes me want to run my fingers through it. I know I am sick, but I am a man.
She is on about women's rights and nobody is game to tell her that she may need to pull it back and she is the only woman there.
People are worried if they say something she will get offended. She is the office girl so it is not regulation to have hair tied back but the poor guys find it hard to work with her in the office.
2007-09-15 01:37:35 · 15 answers · asked by lods J 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
When adults are at work, they are expected to behave in a professional manner. That means, among other things, that no matter what someone else does or how THEY behave, you act in a professional way at all times.
In other words, regardless of if your colleagues are good looking girls or ugly old men, it should not make any difference to your behaviour in the workplace.
If you walk down the street and see an attractive woman you would not feel obliged to tell her not to wear ceratin clothing because it gets yoiu all excited.
YOU are responsible for your own behaviour.
In other words ~ pay more attention to your work and less to the office girl!
She is dressing as is required by the employer and unless you have some say in the uniform requirements of the workplace, how she presents herself is strictly none of your business.
Good luck!
2007-09-15 02:09:54 · answer #1 · answered by thing55000 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hm... I totally expected this question to be about clothing and then I found out it was about hair, so I'm assuming this person is not wearing inappropriate clothing (you mentioned she's wearing a uniform). If she were wearing low-cut or high hemlines or something I'd recommend that you ask the boss to talk to her, but this isn't a case like that.
I'm all for women looking professional in the workplace, but I'd say as long as her hairstyle isn't extreme (like bright pink or something) you don't have a reason to criticize her. As long as her hairstyle is professional and safe for the type of work you are doing she is not doing anything inappropriate. No offense, but you might just want to look at your work if you can't handle looking at her. If this is a really big problem for you, perhaps you should find another workplace.
2007-09-15 09:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you Batty. You simply can't tell her, she'll hate you for life, unless you are very close together. But, you can buy her new boots for any occasion... Or you can walk in the office one day, say that you smell something and start looking for it (as if this is your fist time). But I would be careful with this last one since it takes very good acting skills. Do you know her husband/partner/sister/brother/mother? You can talk to them and they will do a better job at telling your co worker. Or you can just be upfront, which is probably the best way now that I think about it. A lot of people have smelly feet you know, my husband does blah
2016-04-04 22:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude if you think she will care about what other people think go ahead. If you think she will sue you, uh that's your choice.
And if nothing changes well just try not to be a man anymore at work ok.....
I am all for women Dang I am one but when it comes down to the workplace. Be considerate.
Dude, if you don't want to chop your balls off before you come into work say something to your boss and let him/her know that you as well as other guys are being distracted, and maybe your boss can handle it. Hey, it's him/ her getting sued then RIGHT? LOL
PS and realize if you didn't have balls it wouldn't effect you.
2007-09-15 02:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by Woman of Curiosity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what the problem is. Is it part of the dress code to have one's hair up, like in the health, food, or manufacturing industries? If not, there are no grounds for discussing this with her. If she's on the phone, and the caller can't see her, what's the problem?
Mainly, I'm wondering why you are watching her so closely. She's wearing the uniform and not violating company policy...what's the big deal?
2007-09-15 01:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by Buttercup 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What are you in, a fod industry? If she's wearing her uniform, and not violating any rules, let her be. But if it's bothering you, then tell her this: "Er, sorry, but the guys here find you flicking your hair a little distracting..." That might work! Well, good luck =)
2007-09-15 01:45:00 · answer #6 · answered by ets2521 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi lods,
i think that maybe you need to deal with your thoughts and feelings rather than expecting your colleague to change her appearance.
You are always going to meet beautiful women in your life - everywhere you go. So you really need to deal with your own response to them, rather than expecting a person to change themselves for you.
Really, it is none of you business how your colleage choses her appearance, but you will just have to learn to deal with it maturely and sensibly.
Think about other things... you are allowed to have feelings; having feelings is normal; but don't dwell on them; let them go and concentrate on other things, like your work.
2007-09-16 04:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by Zag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone. She has every right to wear her hair the way she wants, tell your men to control themselves and focus on their work.
ohh of course you are MAN, so women should accomodate to the MASTER/GOD/POWERFUL right?
who gave you the right to tell women what to do?
why can't you harass another man, someone who can fight you back?
jeeshh machismo a la vista.
2007-09-15 01:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
TALK AND DISCUSS THIS WITH ANOTHER LADY IN THE OFFICE . I KNOW A GAL WHO HAS HER HAIR COME IN FRONT OF HER EYES AND HOW SHE CAN SEE THINGS OR ANYONE CAN SEE HER, " I DONT KNOW" ! THIS GAL IS CONSTANTLY PUSHING THE HAIR BACK , IF I WAS A GAL THIS WOULD MAKE ME CRAZY !! I'M A GUY AND IT MAKES ME CRAZY WATCHING HER ! ITS LIKE TALKING TO A BIG HAIR BALL BUT YOU CANT SEE ANYONE THERE.
2007-09-15 01:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't handle a woman's hair? That is the craziest thing I have ever heard. Maybe you should start some medication?
2007-09-15 01:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋