Lemme explain further ,i have been in a relationship for the past 3 years and there have been occasions where i suspected that she has /have been cheating on me ,this i saw with my own eyes and also she have been doing some strange things that my work colleagues have been questioning the nature of our relationship.I have just realized that she has been having explicit internet chat with a guy and they are planning to meet next month .Personally i dont mind whatever she does now but it showed me that this was in the works even when we were together and i am feeling very hurt and depressed right now
2007-09-15 01:36:50 · 11 answers · asked by alist 2 in Travel ➔ Caribbean ➔ Trinidad & Tobago
Boy dat is a rell sh*tty ting what happen dey...
I rell sorry tuh hear bout dat... But why people cheat me eh go ever be able tuh understand...
My baby boy not here but if anybody tink dey could get anywhere near me dey dam lie...
Ah hear racing does ease tabanca... if yuh in trini is bes yuh go down by de cross tonite...
Doh race innuh... just WATCH de race yuh hear!
try an occupy yuhself...
I does say I is a dam good girl and if de man i have tell heself he wah mess around...me aint want no part ah dat.
I is a damn good catch and anyman who have me rell lucky...
Ah doh drink, smoke or sleep around.. ah doh club but I'll do mostly anyting with meh man...
Leggo dat oman before I ha tuh hear bout yuh on de news nah... we could aghree tuh dat???
2007-09-15 05:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi....
First of all I'm sorry for what's going on in your relationship.
People cheat because they are not getting what they need out of a relationship.
I've known people who cheated because
1. They're not getting the attention they need
2. They're partner abuses them either emotionally, mentally or physically.
3. There's no intimacy in the relationship
4. There sexual needs aren't being satisfied
5. There's partner restricts them
6. Just plain old selfishness.
Whatever the case cheating is never acceptable. You either be faithful or find somebody else who you think can satisfy your needs.
I suggest you have a meaningful discussion with your partner and bring everything out in the open. Whatever the outcome then you can decide if you should continue with the relationship or move on.
I understand that it hurts because I've been there, but I can assure you it only gets better. Keep you head up!
2007-09-15 10:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Nads♥ 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wonder the same thing. Right now something like dat is going on where I work. And with 2 married people to boot. I trying coming up with an excuse, thinking why they are doing what they are doing. Can't find any.
First I thought, maybe the women fell for the sweet talks. Maybe she doesn't hear that from her husband.
Then I thought, maybe she is flattered that another man has eyes on her.
Maybe she wants to experience what it is to be with someone else.
As for the man, I thought, maybe he is bored with his wife. (his wife, poor thing is a housewife)
Maybe ,he also like the attention the other woman is giving him.
Maybe,he is trying to be macho for his friends, showing them he can have another woman.
Anyway, whatever the reason it is still the same answer. It is wrong. If your girlfriend really cared for you, she wouldn't do that. She would think of how you will feel.
Then again, maybe she is only thinking of her feelings, not the innocent party in this.
Sorry you have to go through this, but soon "this too shall past"
As for being hurt, of course you're going to be. Time will heal that.
Be Blessed
2007-09-15 22:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by Ashti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is really pathetic and disgusting..she is not a woman but a LITTLE GIRL!
Only people trying to chase fantasies are children!
Listen, you are better off without her! You are no fool so don't try to get back with her. Sure your feeling depressed now but as weeks go by, you'll be SO GLAD that you kept your standards of what you believe a tru relationship is. If you give her another shot, you'll only be remembering WHY you it was OVERin the first place!
Don't waste your life on old memories. There's another woman that is GREAT for you and you'll be too busy sulking to realize it. You have sooo many years to live and be happy..don't waste those precious years with someone who will not make you happy. Don't you want to happy for those years (with or without someone).
Being single is GREAT! No worries..have fun! You have plenty of time to concentrate on school, on work, on friends..without anyone bugging you about spending time with them or making time for them!
The girl is a hoe..and thank god you found out now so that way your not wasting any of your valuble time!
No sulking! you don't sulk over that garbage ex-girlfriend! Sulk over something/someone that actually DESERVES to be depressed over!!
Everytime you feel sad, just think: "Was she really that great that I have to feel sad about her being gone?"..you're answer will always be NO
2007-09-15 09:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by The Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you ignored her and hung out with your friends over her and didn't give her the attention she needed (which I am not saying you didn't) Then she has some issues that she needs to deal with and its a shame that you got caught up in the middle of it but just keep your head up keep your friends around you and time heals all wounds so just take it as a positive (that she wasn't the one for you) don't do anything crazy and ms right and you will meet someday. Good luck.
2007-09-15 08:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally if a person cheat they are selfish. Esp true in a longer term relationship. You need to talk to her and get things out in the open. You might be giving her what she needs. If she persists in having the relationship then yours with hers is over. Once cheating starts, you will never trust her and it is usually better to end it.
2007-09-15 08:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by Bob D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi babes, sorry to hear dat yuh feelin depressed. ah no how dat could be. yuh see da hornin' ting, i would neva undastan' it eh buh wha you ha to do now is jus take each day as it comes.
ah could tell yuh from experience dat people does horn for plenty diff'rent reasons. my daughter father went wit some one else for financial reasons (I wasn' minin' he an he didn' want to wuk). ah girlfren ah mine say she hornin' she man because he not showin any interes' in she no more an some people jus' lickrish and neva satisfy wit wha dey have.
try an doh study it too much. ah no yuh go still tink about it an wonda wha yuh do rong buh is two people was in de relationship an all de blame cyar be yours so doh even go dey.
keep yuh head up an rememba yuh could cry on my shoulder anytime.
2007-09-15 21:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by lez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You strike me as very caring and sensitive so my question is why are you putting up with this behaviour. I remember watching a programme one day and the therapist said "you teach people how to treat you". If you continue putting up with the behaviour there is no consequence for her to stop disrespecting you. You have to take it one day at a time and know you can and will find someone who will respect you.
2007-09-15 23:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by jamdowngal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get carried away and it is a shame that this woman took it to the next level. People cheat to get something they feel that need that not available with their partner. In this case, it sounds like she is chasing a fantasy.
2007-09-15 08:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're not happy in a relationship, get out of it instead of cheating!
2007-09-15 21:19:50 · answer #10 · answered by madeinczech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋