My boyfriend got a job for which he's gonna move out to a different state. He thinks when he'll move out, our relationship won't last coz long distance relationship doesn't work. Since I m studying in Uni I can't go with him untill I graduate which'll take another 2 yrs. I love my boyfriend a lot. I don't wanna loss him. But I also wanna see him successful. I want to assure him that I'll always be with him. But don't know how to tell him.
2007-09-15 00:51:28 · 8 answers · asked by d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if your boyfriend is telling you "our relationship won't last coz long distance relationships doesn't work" then he is telling you he plans to find someone else and there's no use for you to wait around for him. So why would you want to be faithful to him???? Why assure him of anything when he's saying that he doesn't care and he's moving on? Get clarity on his statement, and then find yourself a new bf when he leaves.
If he comes back, and if you're available, then you two could try again...right now he's saying he will be meeting a lot of new people and he wants his freedom.
2007-09-15 01:10:16 · answer #1 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is talk it out with him and assure him of your feelings.. Does he feel the same as you? If you both love each other, there is nothing wrong with focusing on your studies for a few years. If the love is there, it should continue to grow. It does takes a much higher level of maturity to handle a long distance relationship. If you both are mature enough, it can work, and actually grow into a deeper kind of love. My niece and her fiance have been in a long distance relationship so far for 3 years. They are both in med school in different states. They are both focused and committed. It can work, but you both have to want it. Best of luck.
2007-09-15 08:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by suisse shoggi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is reassure him that you love him and you will be there for him, and vice versa. Your boyfriend is right in that many long distance relationships don't last. However you will have to make the effort if you want it to last. AND SO WILL HE!! Make sure to visit when you can, call and be there for each other. If it is meant to be it will be.
GOOD LUCK
2007-09-15 07:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him plain and simple: you love him and want to keep the relationship. make efforts to help it work like visiting him if its possible as much as possible and (being serious) send him private photos to keep an intimate connection as alive as possible. show interest in his new direction and support him in any way you can. tell him straight up how you are happy for him and want him to succeed and how you want to keep a future with him instead of allow a drifting apart. your situation is difficult and it will be easy to lose what you have, but it is possible to keep it and probably worth trying. good luck.
2007-09-15 08:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by nonameshallbehere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is already thinking it won't last.
stop talking to him about love and commitment. just be happy and enthusiastic about the situation, no matter what he says or what happens. tell him he is going to be a great success and you are going to work hard at your studies.
that will work on his mind, and he will miss you more.
2007-09-15 08:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, he will trust you. A relationship will not last without trust.
2007-09-15 07:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that, and show him that that came down from the bottom of your heart.
That sounds perfect.
2007-09-15 07:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by Suki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth
you are willing to try LDR
and ask him to see the result himself for what you are willing to do for him and ask him to do the same for you
communication with him daily if you can
2007-09-15 08:04:27 · answer #8 · answered by askwho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋