Custody of my 8 yr old daughter has gone from my X-husband to me and now he has her again.When she started school (kindergarten) I had custody up until first grade. When she was with me, she was 100% satisfactory in school. No problems. When she started 1st grade, she had what they call "red lights, yellow ect;" pretty much every week. second grade was not much better. Now she just started third grade and apparently has not been doing her work so the teacher makes her sit in the hallway. My x has been refusing me my parenting time with her because his current girlfriend does not like me. I am taking the matter back in to court but I am EXTREMELY worried about my daughters behavior and what I can do to correct it when I am not allowed in her life except for a wekend here and there. They also blame her behavior problem on me because I'm not in her life enough. Yeah, that's what I'm dealing with and SO much more. I just would like to know what else I can do about this. ANY & ALL suggestions would be appreciated.
2007-09-14 23:13:02 · 6 answers · asked by pokawawa 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I can't afford legal assistance so I will be representing myself in court. The main problem here is my X is NEVER wrong, IMPOSSIBLE to communicate with and doesn't seem to understand where I'm coming from nor does he care. He treats me as though I am incompetent and dictates my life. He makes unreasonable almost impossible demands in order for me to see her. And as unfair or unjust as it might be, I am faced with this situaton, CONSTANTLY trying to resolve it or find a solution that works. The system don't seem to care even when they say that they look out for the best interest and the phycological welfare of the child. It's too bad our greedy society is more concerned with how much money they are going to make on these cases. What it comes down to is I need alot of money to protect her.....
2007-09-14 23:57:47 · update #1
Re: Legal custody means no custody...?
In the last 6 yrs, I have had to fire two attourneys for misrepresentation and unethical conduct ect; since then I have done countless months days and hours of legal research. My situation has forced me to represent myself in court to revise my parenting order so my X cannot keep me from seeing my daughter. What I've learned is that our legal system ect; is failing to do what is in the best interest of the child ect;. The fact is that I am doing everything in my power to have (court ordered) visitation time with her. Thousands of dollars I've spent on greedy, deadbeat attourneys leaving me broke with little result has made me realise that I'm better off representing myself in court. Not only because I have little money but obviesly I would be the fool to "take a loan out to hire another one." Besides the fact that it states in the modification papers you get from the courthouse, (the ones you use to file a motion with the court...) that you CAN
2007-09-15 09:43:44 · update #2
represent yourself in court Re: Legal custody means no custody..?
As long as you KNOW the laws ect;. Like I said I've done 6 yrs of researching family laws and any other resource that could assist me in my situation. All that time I should of had with my daughter. Most people cannot fathem what it's like to go through something like this. If you haven't gone through any of this yourself, you probably can't give out any advice that can be of use to me. I need EXPERIENCED & KNOWLEDGABLE advice . This is a delicate & SERIOUS matter & opinions are of no use to me. It helps me to know that people do care... Thanx
2007-09-15 09:45:53 · update #3
RE: THE LEGAL CUSTODY ISSUE. LOOK AT IT THIS WAY
2007-09-15 09:51:58 · update #4
START FROM THE TOP OF THIS, I AM NEW TO THIS......
2007-09-15 09:53:29 · update #5
Yuck, that's a bad situation to be in! You should try and call social services and ask them for a referral to an agency that might help you with free legal counsel. My neighbor was telling me about an agency that we have here in Texas that all you have to do is pay the filing fees and they find an attorney that will take your case Pro Bono (free). Good Luck; it sounds like you really need to seek counsel and get your baby back! All little girls need their mom and that could be the reason for her acting out, she just simply misses you!
2007-09-15 01:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by Briana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you guys in the states get court appointed lawyers? Sorry, I can't help, except to say make sure that you keep contact with your daughter, with letters and phone calls if you can't see her. And what about your visitation rights? Are they not legally binding?
2007-09-15 01:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and get your daughter back...
Make sure you document every time you are refused and all, so you can show the courts that they are refusing your visitation not the other way around.
2007-09-14 23:48:33 · answer #3 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like you need to go see a lawyer and get your daughter back!!! She needs to be with you or at least have visits with you your X is not being fair to you but mainly not being fair to your daughter she has every right to be allowed to see both parents.
Good luck
2007-09-14 23:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by bitsy_pixie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
American society de- institutionalised marriage . Marriage is a holy pious institution more so children need it intact. As your marriage is already dissolved I strongly suggest you meet your ex husband and impress upon him the need for parental togetherness .As an effective short cut ask him to come to you or go to him once in a weak atlest.
2007-09-14 23:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by J.SWAMY I ఇ జ స్వామి 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to not be bounced around year to year- try to get full physical custody, with frequent visitations to her father. It's not good for kids to be moved back and forth year to year. She may also do well with some counseling.
2007-09-15 00:14:49 · answer #6 · answered by magy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋