know that you will never be able to let go of yourself completely and love that way again?
2007-09-14 21:43:10 · 12 answers · asked by Soundproof 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is not necessarily about me.
I was asking this question to find out if anyone has felt this way.
2007-09-14 21:57:34 · update #1
So far from the answers received, it doesn't sound as if any of you had found your soul mates. It is not a pair of shoes that once worn out or destroyed you can go out and get another pair.
I am not saying that it is impossible to feel this way again but I don't believe that you can even contemplate this happening. Your soul shuts off to this sort of meeting so as not to be beblasphemous to your past partner's memory, the love that had been and once fluoresced.
I believe that you can love deeply once and be satisfied with that. You were fortunate enough to have felt this and enjoyed this intense emotion.
Many just seem to get replacement partners that will warm the seat beside them.
Someday, if you are lucky there could be another soul meant for you and your worlds collide. If this happens you would have won the lottery twice only better because it would catch you off guard and totally unexpected.
It would re kindle that part of your soul that was in mourning.
2007-09-14 22:57:00 · update #2
Whiskey-Tatoos has gotten the idea of what I am asking and I believe also understands.The best of luck to you.
Thank you Miss Madame for answering many of my questions and I hope that you find true love again, you are kind.
Unfortunately I am allowed to pick only one best answer.
Thanks to all of you for your time and considerate answers.
2007-09-16 10:33:54 · update #3
Letting go of myself completely and loving someone completely has never been my concern, nor have I ever been afraid to do so. And the old fashioned romantic in me has always believed that the right woman is out there (call it karma or soul mates if you wish) and we just haven’t connected yet. Or if we have I haven't been ready. I just hope I’ve become wise enough in matters of the heart to recognize this when and if we should meet again ... or for the first time.
If I might seem a little cautious it would be because of several past experiences. One was because of a woman I was very much in love with, or thought I was in love with at the time. But looking back on it now I have to wonder if I wasn’t just simply very much in ‘lust’ with her. Everything seemed so right about our relationship at the time, at least from my side of looking at it. Her mind, her appeal, her touch and the sex. The right chemistry can make sex all-consuming. But sex is hardly the whole story. I ended up getting hurt, but not because of the standard reasons a man or woman might hurt another. And, as far as I know, she walked away without a bruise.
Was my soul in mourning? Nope, but my pride was certainly hurt and I felt very much betrayed.
The point is, I’ve never even considered shutting down my abilities and desire to love and be loved. The only thing that has changed is my more mature understanding of what real, shared love should be.
2007-09-15 14:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by Doc Watson 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes
being the most direct answer...
I Guess Im Talking From Experiance...When You Love Someone With All Your Worth, And All Your Heart And Soul
And Then It All Comes Crashing Down And Leaves You Destroyed. You Do Things To Try And Protect Yourself From That Again....But When Someone Comes Along Who You Think Is Right...You'll Know What To Do, Just Play It Safe..
Dont Make The Mistakes I Did..
x
2007-09-14 22:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i feel that when you just have a break up ... it hurts a lot but with time one gets over it .... atleast it goes to the back of ones mind.
I do believe that though when in love, one must give 100% but incase things dont work out and there is a breakup then one needs to (with time) move on in life. You cannot and should not dwell upon the past and it will never become the present and /or the future and in doing so you will only loose out on more time and eventually feel depressed. I feel in life, there are lot of things that happen and that are not in our control and for those things, the most one can do is let go off them. Its not worth living in hte past or letting hte past rule your present and future. Even i have had my share of relationships and some of htem hurt a lot. but then i think with time, all that heals and is fine.
2007-09-14 22:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have hon and eventhough I am completely over the moron I still get yucky reminders of him if I see a celeb or even an anime character that looks like him which is odd but true.
2007-09-14 23:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by ♆Şрhĩņxy - Lost In Time. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No never and I just came out of a very bad break up about a year ago. It always takes time to heal and you will deal with it in your own time.
2007-09-14 21:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
J is Right on the money, You need to heal from the hurt, avoid rebound relationships, they can add salt to the wound. You will have to push your self to trust in love again, it's worth it. Good Luck in Love!
2007-09-14 21:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by EddieX 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. I always make it a point to love deeper than I ever did before. That way I know I'm still me and that I'm in control of my future and my emotions.
2007-09-14 21:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you were severely wounded in the past...
and waiting for another to come to give so much as the past ones... is quite impossible...
believe in miracles...
the past teaches you of the experience...
the future will give you better...
you will get a better than the last ones...
2007-09-14 21:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by LinzAbadi 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't let that stuff take control of your life....I thought i was in love for first one....3 years.... second one 10 years.... and none of them made me feel the love i have for my present guy....for the last 7 years in have been finding out what true love really is.....
2007-09-14 21:52:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well !!
no .. we shouldnt loose our hopes ! and should looks towards positive things because 5 fingers are not equal,,
2007-09-14 21:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by zill 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋