i have been with this girl that i really love for a year now. ive been in the army for nine months and i have three months left. i miss her so much. But when ever i come out to see her, all we do is argue! she keeps bringing my past into the relationship. like my ex girlfriends and all the girls ive slept with. all i want to do is be happy with her and have a good time that i have with her. what do i say to her when she brings my past up so we dont argue. because i think it might end our relationship.
2007-09-14 21:14:48 · 4 answers · asked by Kem 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My husband told me if I ever mention his past girlfriends again he will leave me. He also told me, whenever I mention the past to him, it reminds him of why he left his ex-wife.
So there, just do not argue and keep quiet after those statements.
After all it is natural for women to want to know everything about you, but you have to let her know and you have to be redundant about it is that, you love her for what she is today, and that you dont care about her past.
Then it is quid pro quo....you dont want to hear about her past then she shouldn't want to hear about your past either. Tell her, it hurts when she mentions her past bf's, tell her it feels like she wants to come back to them...so tell her to stop mentioning the past of either you or her.
2007-09-14 21:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by mylenekeane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is insecure.if your past bothers her so much then why is she with you. What ever happened before you and her got together shouldnt come into your relationship as there is nothing you can do to change it. Im sure she has had partners also in the past she needs to learn to let your past not bother her and if she cant then sorry but find someone else who will accept you as you.
2007-09-15 04:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by HeatherzFeatherz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you are tired of hearing all of that. Tell her that it is your past and is none of her business since it has nothing to do with the relationship that you and she have. Tell her that you are not constantly throwing her past in her face, so you do not want her to do that to you. Tell her that her time would be better spent working on the present relationship instead of history.
2007-09-15 04:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure she misses you too. Don't argue with her, just make the most of your time together.
She probably can't express herself well. Arguing is just a way to make you see how unhappy she is.
2007-09-15 04:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by Hani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋