2007-09-14 20:04:54 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
In the interest of family harmony . . .
Yes, I would send the close relative a wedding gift, even if I was unable to attend the ceremony.
With a friend, if one is unable to attend . . .
Well, the gift may be optional. But if it is a close friend and I want to protect the friendship, then yes . . . I would give a gift anyway.
Always better to err on the side of kindness. (o:
2007-09-15 04:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by Suz123 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
As the bride and groom, no one is obligated to give a gift even if they attend, but I would be insulted if I did not receive at least a card from anyone close.
As a person invited to a wedding, not sending a gift or a card is showing you do not value the relationship and is one you do not care to keep. If I attend I feel obligated to give a nice gift, no matter the relationship. If I do not attend, depending on my relationship I will give a gift, a card, or nothing at all. As a close relative I would send the same gift as if I attended.
2007-09-15 08:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by no_frills 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You're never OBLIGATED to buy a wedding gift but most people who are invited DO. It's just good taste. If the couple felt close enough to you to invite you to their special day, then I would think you'd be a close enough friend to WANT to buy them a gift as celebration.....even if you can't attend.
2007-09-15 10:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are a close relative or friend, surely you would want to buy them a gift even though you cannot attend the wedding.
.
2007-09-15 06:09:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
The only time you MUST provide a gift is if you ATTEND a shower or a child's birthday party. Otherwise, a gift is just an enhancement of "Congratulations" or "Thank you for inviting me". However, in the case you mention, this close friend or relative should make sure that his or her actions aren't perceived as a snub. To simply send regrets with no explanation and no letter of congratulations (with or without a gift) -- the bride and groom might be wondering if this person has some issue with them or their wedding!
2007-09-15 07:30:11 · answer #5 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
nobody is obliged to buy gifts but if you can't attend the wedding, it looks twice as bad if you then don't buy a gift (especially a close relative).
2007-09-15 03:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by benny_chops 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No one is "obligated" but if you were invited AND you are a close friend/relative you should definitely send a gift.
2007-09-15 08:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by Kristi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Even people who do attend the wedding are not obligated to buy gifts.
2007-09-15 07:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by nnaming2000 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
well its up the relatives but if their CLOSE relatives to the couple then maybe they should buy a gift and if the relatives couldnt make it to the wedding then buying a gift for the couple will make the couple really happy and they will think that the relatives do care about them even if they couldnt attend.
2007-09-15 04:05:33 · answer #9 · answered by MizzRandom(: 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yes. A wedding gift isn't a ticket of admission to the wedding. It's a present to congradulate the new couple. One should send a gift irrespective of whether one can attend or not.
2007-09-15 03:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋