my life is filled with so much pain and suffering, and im only 14 and i know its going to get worse cause it does everyday, and im not talking about teenage drama crap, ive had cancer, over 10 surgerys and more for the rest of my life(probly not gonna liv past 30), abusive mom when i was little and still even now, i really dont hav friends just people who use me then push me out of the way, the only family i hav is my dad grandma aunt and cousin(dont count mom) my aunt thinks im crazy evil and should c a consular, my dad is allways yelling at me over nothing, and allways saying he hates his life, he wish he wasent in this siutaion, that this never happened to him, lik he wished i was never born(because of all the medical things) i mean whats the point of living, hope? thing will get better? theres no such thing as hope, and i know things will never get better, so should i or should i not, and if u think i should giv me sum good ideas
2007-09-14 19:33:34 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am so sorry dear child that you are going through so much in life. Sometimes I have felt like giving up but you know what that shows all the people who said negative stuff about you and that mean evil cancer? It says that i give up, I let you win instead of I will prove you wrong I will break out of this depression, I will beat this evil cancer. It is hard having people like that in your life because it is breaking you down, is there somewhere you can go, like someone else you can live with. You really need a break from everything and focus on you! You are a amazing person, wow 10 operations, you are a survivor, don't you want to be here to tell your story one day, how you beat all the odds and all the people who said stuff about you and pushed you away that you did not let their words get to you and your life is a blessing. Dear child no matter how much life throw at you all the baseballs, you pick up that bat and make a homerun, don't you give up don't. you are a survivor! God Bless you and I pray that you understand that I care about you i don't even know you but reading your question made me cry you are a amazing person!
2007-09-14 19:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
NO! Don't commit suicide. This option is never the solution to anything. I don't care how hard it may be--with the cancer and family---DON'T EVER GIVE UP!!! I mean it. Just remember, what ever doesn't kill you will only make you stronger.
Why don't you live with someone in your family who doesn't abuse you physically or emotionally because it sounds like those that are around aren't taking care of you. What about a grandparent or another aunt/uncle? What about foster care? I don't know, there has to be something or someone out there that could help you through your situation.
Have you tried a teen hotline to help you deal with everything? Maybe the person on the other line will help you get the help that you need.
Please, whatever you do, don't commit suicide. It's not worth it.
2007-09-16 22:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by akknaley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! you should not commit suicide! You were put here for a reason and you have remained here for a reason. You first should talk to a counsler, if you have a abusive mom, tell someone, you need to get out of that situation fast! Im not a kid and i really feel for you and i can understand the thoughts because i had them when i was younger (im 39) but things get better in time. You fought thru cancer and you can fight through this too, you really need help in getting away from that. There are people that can help you, there are people that are only a email or phone call away. Google a suicide hotline where you are and also talk to your doctors, if there is something abusive going on they have to report it. If you dont and it keeps up, you will never get out of your depression. You say that you prob. wont live past 30, i hope you do, but you can go on this way until then, life is short no matter what the situation, you need to enjoy what you have and make the most of it. and it seems that you will have to get the help of someone else in order to do that. Dont be afraid to do it and if you need help or someone to talk to you can alway chat with me...I work in law enforcment and can find you the right resourses....keep your head up!
2007-09-15 02:57:32 · answer #3 · answered by sgtevil2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honey, don't EVER do that! Live life to the fullest....don't punish yourself, because others around you are inconsiderate and self absorbed. You have many many years ahead of you, and life's worth living. Take a deep breath, a just remember...one day you will be your own boss and you won't have to worry about how others are mistreating you! That's one thing you can look forward to. Always be positive and try very hard not to be negative. Having a positive attitude will make you feel better and maybe your outlook on things will change. You might even be a little depressed, and there is nothing wrong with that! Ask to get medical attention. There's nothing better, in my opinion, than being able to voice how you REALLY feel about yourself and others around you to someone else, if not just to get it off of your chest. Keep your chin up :0)
2007-09-15 06:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by dreamgirl21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if all you dwell on is the pain and negative things that happen then of course you are going to get depressed. you have to take an inventory of yourself. For whatever reason I have suffered extensively in my life.
By the time I was 14 I had been tortured among other things.
but people who suffer have a depth of character other people don't have. you don't know what God's plan is for you - and everything that happens is just a part of that plan. You don't know what and why and the hows and you may never know.
be careful about the words you use. if you say that you want to die, then often people die just because they said that.
It isn't how many times you get knocked down that matters - it's how many times you get back up - just like in boxing.
be of courage, and strength.
don't be a coward and kill yourself. do you really want to be remembered as a failure? a quitter? a coward?
it is hard to suffer. I know. I've been there. I've suffered.
REad the book of Job in the Bible. I've read it over and over. It helps make sense of it all.
it isn't what happens to you -it's how you respond to it.
it's how you choose to react. you can't do anything about these other people just yourself.
you are already saying things that may end up making you dead, you need to quit that right away. you are so young. you have a long life ahead of you. You have to think in terms of the future not really right now.
sometimes all you have to do is to learn to cultivate a sense of humor. you know? learn to laugh things off so it doesn't eat you up.
2007-09-15 04:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by art_flood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We both know almost no one is going to say 'yes, do it', right? It's human nature to protect ones own, and for some reason another's, life.
My own advice would be look up everything you can find or your disease and what surgery et cetera will do. This is no one's choice but your own, no matter what anyone else might say, and should be decided by logic, information, and general and factual wisdom. Family sucks, it really does, but in the scheme of things, it's only a tiny part of your life.
As for counselling and stuff, if it's free, don't fight it. I mean, what harm could it do? Everyone has issues, especially people who tell other people they do.
My point is, basically, don't do anything rash without thinking out every tiny option you can muster. When you get depressed, talk to someone on the Internet -I suggest vampire freaks- because they can't judge you and don't know you, but human nature will make them want to help anyway. The decision is yours, so don't take it lightly.
2007-09-15 02:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by Kalira K 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you shouldn't! You have been through some rough times, but things will get better. You have to have some hope and faith that things will get brighter.
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. There are other methods out there to coping with the crap in your life.
Are you currently getting any medical treatments? Maybe you can talk to your doctor(s) about all the dramas. There is help out there. Please, don't hurt yourself.
You say things will never get better, but they will. Tomorrow IS another day. I bet there are people in your life who do care about you that you don't even know about.
Please..... think about this very seriously. You are young and have so much to live for. Have you thought about sharing your cancer experience with other kids? You could help other people get through some of the hell you've seen. Your life matters. Your experiences matter.
YOU MATTER!
I'm sending hugs your way....... they're there if you want them....
2007-09-15 02:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by tigerstripe66 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's easily the most depressing thing i've read in a long time
i'm so sorry you've had to go through all of that
But honestly, i know you don't think there's much more to life but there is
and think about college
parties...girlfriends, different kids
sometimes you get stuck in a town with a bunch of losers...and honestly, there's nothing you can do except move
and most of the time that's not an option
but one day you will find someone that you love and makes you happier than you've ever felt in your life
and you'll experiance things that you'll never forget
trust me, there's more to life
2007-09-15 02:43:06 · answer #8 · answered by Alex Needs Help :] 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
every one dies eventually....but my mum says to enjoy the life you have been given. I've known a few suicidal people and they just kinda grew out of it as they got older. when I was young I was afraid of dieing but now it seems like no big deal and I'm glad this life has an end. your end will come too just be patient time passes really quick. things may be shitty for you now and your probably looking at a painful end when your thirty but hey they will give you morphine. as for now your young theirs allot you will go through and I bet it wont all be bad......ask your self a question what do you love about life and cling to it, if you don't love anything get your self a kitten to be responsible for, that way you wont be able to kill your self because you will have responsibility's and cats are the best friends a person can have
2007-09-15 03:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well my friend, unfortunately you've been forced to grow up early. It's not fair but it happens to alot of us. Your parent's are not a good example of parenting, but Your life doesn't revolve around how they feel & think. You need to live your life according to how you feel and think. Create a better situation for yourself by talking to someone who can help you through this mess. If you really want to change the way life is making you feel then you need to take active positive steps to do so. You can't do it alone. Get help. I hate therapists & counselors, but sometimes we need them. You will be out of your parent's grasp in a couple of years. When you leave they won't have any say so in how you live your life, nor will they be able to make you feel bad in anyway if you don't let them. Good luck friend.
2007-09-15 08:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋