I met my boyfriend on OKcupid.... we've dated for 6 months and its been sooooooooooo great! The thing is he has not taken his OK cupid PROFILE off line yet.... it still says single and he uploaded new photos... so I did the same thing. Now I went back and put in that I was with someone to be honest with everybody. But I wonder why he holds on to that site when he has me?
Has anyone had experience with this?
2007-09-14 18:41:58 · 12 answers · asked by Miz Phoenix 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah he did say it is great for him.. both of us have been Reallllly happy... hes been shy about getting closer because I think he is scared of falling in love. He has said things that made me think this.. truly. I know that we are really strong in heart when we are together it just bothers me that he still says Single on that dating site and also on myspace he doesnt say in a relationship. I do he doesnt. I should ask him but I just dont know what to say. I think he is scared. Thats why Im asking you guys.... ?
2007-09-14 18:50:28 · update #1
You are happy with him because you know he is the best you can do. However, he believes he can do better than you so you are okay until he finds someone better.
He is only doing what you would do if the roles were reversed.
2007-09-14 19:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by John 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I would have said that he may have just not updated his accounts, BUT, he uploaded new pictures of himself. That says is all. He's still on the market. (In his mind, anyway) You need to confront him NOW, before you get the surprise of a lifetime. Meaning, you'll be head over heels in love and drop by to find him in bed with another woman. You need to have communication in a relationship or it will never work. If you can't muster up the courage to tell him how you feel now, how will you do it a year from now? If it's bound to fail, it's better that it does today than a year from now. Good luck.
2007-09-14 18:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by munkees81 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but he is definitely looking for something else while having a good thing with you. It is kinda like you are there so he can what he wants when he wants it, but he is still searching for the right one. I mean the dating website alone is proof enough, and then you found a text that said "had a great time with you tonight" normally that text is reserved for one person for a special meaning (they didnt have to have sex, but still) i mean clearly it was not a group thing. I think you need to break up with him before it gets any worse and you end up getting really hurt. Im sorry you have had a few bad relationships but you have to go through those to know when you find the right person..you know? good luck and dont let this guy do that to you!
2016-05-20 00:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know any other way to say this. You are being played. Why would he keep his profile up when he has been with you for 6 months. Big...Big...Big RED FLAG! Dump this jerk yesterday. Don't look back. You will be cheated on at some time in the future with this guy. If you believe this is all you are worth then stay put. Wow...I can' believe somebody else has to tell you this.
Johnny D
2007-09-14 18:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by Johnny D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Six omnths is not very long. He is still keeping his options open. He may even be dating others still. You need to talk to him about how you feel. If this is unacceptable to you, you do have the right to discontinue the relationship.
You really don't know this guy very long. He could be a player. Watch for the signs.
2007-09-14 18:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing the specifics of your relationship, I would guess that he is not quite really to call you his soulmate.
2007-09-14 18:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god! Your boyfriend is the first guy ever cheated a woman! Never, ever it occurred in the history!
2007-09-14 18:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by blapath 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he is keeping his options open. Looking for something better to come along. I image you are starting to bore him. 6 months... come on... its time to move on
2007-09-14 18:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
asked him why? its better to confront him than to speculate on the reason
2007-09-14 18:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by eseer e 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, and six months doesnt mean poo!!! he might be a player, but how would you know?? youve only known him for six months.
2007-09-14 18:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by NicoleY. 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋