this kid who lives next to me is really mean,and he is always coming over even though we dont want him too?

Question

he is rude to me too,but now i kinda feel sorry for him because my mom was talking to him the other day and when he left she told me that there was a big red welt on his neck with a mark across his neck like someone had smacked him with a belt or a power cord. is this child abuse? i think it is...now im wondering if i should try and help him,but its not really my buisness,but if something happens to him im going to feel guilty about it,,what should i do?!!?

i do want to help him,but what if its not child abuse..he might just be messin around or sumthin...and plus i never see him anymore so that kinda worries me too,plus his parents had him when they were 18

Answer 1

You cannot make a snap judgement on what you have seen one time. However, one who is abused will sometimes get
rude with someone else, because in their own life they are a victim of abuse. By expressing himself that way with you may be giving him a sense of control, where he may have none at home.

When I was beaten with a cord, the bruises were very colourful a few days later. But at first, a welt will be very red, and stand up where the cord struck.

Keep your eyes and ears open, and be nice to him, you may be able to help him out of a bad situation. You can report abuse to the police or children's service either anonymously, or in person. Go to the authorities, rather than have them come to your house to report it. Don't let on that you know anything.

Be absolutely certain though, because some people have lost their children due to false reports. It is not a perfect answer, but be kind to him, he may feel safe in confiding to your parents.

Answer 2

This is a really tough situation, because he's right next door and can see you come and go presumably.
If you don't want to see him as often, say you're busy studying.
If you want to ask him if he's being abused, go for a walk down the road to the park/whatever. That way no one can overhear you talking. Then it's up to you to decide what to do, if he tells you that he is being smacked. You could phone a helping agency in your area for annonymous advice.
You could talk to your parents also.
The thing is that you don't want to become too involved because you have to live right next door. How about having an annonymous adult phone his school about marks on his body. That way youre totally out of the loop, and won't get any retalliation from the abusers.

Answer 3

Talk to your mom about your concerns. She should be able to make the judgement about whether it's child abuse better than you. She may also no something about his family situation that you don't. I would say visible marks are a definite sign of abuse, but many other things could be going on.

If you can't talk to your mom about this try talking to a teacher at school.

Answer 4

The protection of others in our world is EVERYONE'S BUSINESS !!!!!! What did God ask Cain when God could not find Abel? And smarty-pants Abel replied, "Am I my brother's keeper?" And God said, "Yes !"
Cain was banished & made a wonderer forever and the earth was not allowed to yeild him any sustanance.
You and I are are brother's keepers and we must look out for each other, always !!!
I would say that very young parents are more likely to abuse their children, as they are still children themselves, and dont have the patience or knowledge to raise a child! So, have your mom speak to his teacher & see if the teacher has noticed any problems or behavior that could point to abuse. Even if she hasnt noticed anything, ask her to start watching him & to be on alert for abuse!!! Many teachers are only there for the paycheck & wouldn't notice if it "hit" them on the head !!! (Pun unavoidable !)
Also ask the principle to watch this kid & check his previous school records to see if there've been previous instances, she can't tell your mom, but she can be on alert !!! And if you see marks on him again, get him to confide in you, but DO NOT PUT WORDS in HIS MOUTH !!! Just ask him what happened to his: neck, back, arm, etc. (After, making friends with him, even tho you dont really care for him now, he's probably acting the way he is because that's the way he's been TAUGHT !!!! yOU SHOULD SHOW HIM KINDNESS. sEE WHAT jESUS SAYS ABOUT KIDS AND LOVE AND HELPING. i'M SURE YOU CAN FIND A GOOD KIDS bIBLE AT YOUR BOOKSTORE, LIBRARY, OR CHURCH!!! dO THIS ASAP, AS HIS LIFE COULD DEPEND ON IT & LATER ON HE COULD GROW UP TO ONLY KNOW HOW TO HURT PEOPLE!!! iT'S YOUR JOB TO HELP HIM -- now !!!! iT WILL MAKE YOU A STRONGER PERSON & gOD REWARDS US FOR OUR GOODNESS & KINDNESS !!!

Answer 5

If he is rude to you without any reason to be, it could be a reaction to being hurt or abused. That's gonna make him pretty angry and then he is going to take it out on whoever is around. If he comes over a lot, perhaps he is just trying to get away from home.

It sounds like he has got some issues and needs someone to confide in. If you can't help, perhaps you know someone who can.

Answer 6

I think since you encounter this child, now your business. Maybe at first not needing report anything, but stick your feelers out, befriend him as your nephew, open home to him. This way without you need ask anything, he become comforted and in time he decide confide in you or just spill out info freely without guard up. Then you make inform decision if you need report something or not, and you have enough to stand on.
There was girl in my apartment complex who was have hatefulness to me
and all people, no respect for anyone. One day I pass her and she say
"you're ugly; why are you ugly"? I said not a word, just pass into my home. Then I have idea, I fill cup of bubble gum for her and her friend,
and take it to them with big smile! I say "hi, you very nice kids, have a good day". Not again she say anything mean, she is good girl to us.

Answer 7

First of all make SURE ! Causing extra problems for a troubled family, will do nothing to help the boy. Things will only get worse if DFAX or Child Services gets involved. You may want to start by talking and getting to know him, and go from there. GOOD LUCK !!!

Answer 8

If you suspect child abuse you have an obligation to notify child protective services. Have you mom contact them and get him the help he needs. You can contact them anonymously so they won't know that your house is the one who had this investigated. You cannot legally sit by and let this go on in case it is abuse.

Answer 9

If you see the kid, and he seems to be injured, you ask him what happened, and he tells you that an adult hurt him, you have to call 911.

Mean kids often behave that way because they've only been exposed to mean adults. If he had loving, caring parents, he might be a nicer kid.

TX Mom

Answer 10

Yes you have to report any suspect child abuse.

God forbid if it was nothing was done, and this child got hurt really badly or worse.