i need ur opinion?

Question

i met a woman nine months ago that i have fallen deeply in love with, we have had a few bumps in the road but r still together however some of my christian friends don't want me with her cuz she is a non believer, but i believe that i can change that as she did believe at one time but lost her faith and belief in God during Katrina. Im going to stay with her but what would u tell ur friends that think u should be with someone of equal faith?

what i meant is that i can let her see that there is a God working thru me when i said change that

Answer 1

kelthy: God is a God of love and love gives us all choice. It is YOU that has to make the choice and not your friends.
Christians do not exist to control others even, God does not control people and gives the right to be wrong. Who knows; may be your Christian example to your girl friend, may help her with her problem. People need love and encouragement - don't turn your back on her because your friends think "equal faith" (whatever, that means - how can you measure some ones faith to see if it equal with yours?) !
Just remember to keep your spiritual relationship with God, the Father, through Jesus Christ, going. This will supply you with the impetus to live a Christian life of out-going love for your girl and others. Christianity is not about "us and them" but about reaching out to others. Peace to you and your woman !!!
P.S. Many say "being with someone equally unyoked" but has not God, "called" either, one partner, of one family, into the faith
and not the other ? Think about it people.

Answer 2

Be careful what on earth makes you think you can change her maybe it will be the other way around she may very well change you if that does happen then what you are doing right now is throwing away your relationship with God now this is none of your friends business true but they may just be worried about you, because they may be able to see what you are closing your eyes to, it is true that Katrina induced great suffering to many people, yet it also provides a good excuse not to believe to some, I don't know your woman friend, but your friends know her some they may have met her, I don't know,yet they are right in saying that you should choose someone that believes what you do, because you may not see it right now because everything is new and romantic and wonderful now you feel these romantic emotional bond, but that can soon change when niggling little things spring up from nowhere because you have different ideals, have you made any decisions about your life together?Have you even discussed how you plan to live your life what you are going to teach your children should any come along?Do you both think you can live with each others beliefs?Are you prepared to abandon your relationship with God,If she decides she cannot believe in God and wants you to give him up in your house and not to teach your children about him? These things and a lot more are important things to consider and they are also the reason why the Bible says that we should not be unevenly yoked because these disagreements can cause a lot of stress on a relationship. Please do not think for a minute that you can change her, I don't know if you have found this to be the case, but I know how hard it is to change myself let alone someone else. How can one possibly think that they can change somebody else when we struggle to change our own ways?So don't let infatuation close your eyes to everything but do consider your options and think carefully about what you are about to do a good thing may be to pray about your decision, after all you do want God in your relationship don't you?Then don't shut him out!

Answer 3

I have not have been given any theory a thank you to respond to your question. India is a very distinctive united states of america and has many racial and ethnic communities. so which you cant generalize. basically the continent of Africa exceeds the linguistic, genetic and cultural variety of the country of India. I even have had some Indian acquaintances. some are superb human beings. some are wankers. relies upon on who you meet.

Answer 4

I am sure if you ask jesus the same question he will ask you to follow your heart for you love. He will ask you to believe in your kind as much as believe in his father to live the rest of your life.

Beware, you can live in a city with thousands of living athiests who you are suppose to love more than your love for your enemise. Accordingly how can this be a reason for you to chose you partner?

Answer 5

It's none of your friends' business! They're just looking out for you, probably, but this is a choice you have to make on your own.

That said, if you plan on changing her beliefs, your relationship is probably doomed anyway. You have to accept people as they are, not as you want them to be. Would you want her trying to convert *you* to nonbelief? It's not very respectful.

Answer 6

Be with her regardless of faith if you really do love her.

But DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT, try to force your beliefs on her, or try to make her convert against her will. Try that, and your relationship will soon go the way of the dodo.

Answer 7

First of all if you don't accept her as she is you got a big problem.
Second, who you date is your choice, your an adult and your friends should mind their own self ritious business.
Third, people of different beliefs can make it as long as BOTH respect the other.

Answer 8

Your friends are looking out for you as a fellow believer. The Word of God warns us against unyoked relationships like this. She may or may not change, but if she does, make sure it is genuine and not just temporarily for you. You have decided to stay with her, but remember your forewarning about being unyoked. You can thank your friends for looking out for your spiritual health and that you have decided to help her find her way back to God. God bless

Answer 9

Sorry, but I'd know they were right. The chance of you getting a bf/gf converted TO a religion is far far less, then them dragging you out of yours

Answer 10

If you avoid her because of her beliefs (or there lack of) and you like her, then you are a discriminator. If your friends shun you for dating her, then they are discriminators.

By your words, you seem more worried about your "friends" thoughts than your own. I say it is time to re-evaluate your religion that promotes such discriminatory behavior.