My girlfriend and I was doing homework yesterday and watching my baby brother also at the same time. All thru the time were watching him I was constanty asking him to let me know if he has to go potty he said no. Well he had an accident I kind of lost my cool I had my girlfriend put a diaper on him like a punishment it didn't go over to well with my mother when she walked in the door. Do you think I was justified doing that or I overreacted a little bit?
He is 3 and half years old.
2007-09-14 18:05:25 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mother was right. Who do you think you are. She changed your behind. No one has the right to expose a child's nakedness to a stranger. I don't care who they are. No you were not justified. You were the babysitter, Not your girl Friend. His age has nothing to do with it. Your mother knows why he is not potty trained. There is an explanation for it.
2007-09-14 18:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by MS Williams 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Accidents happen. Sometime a kid gets excited or too concentrated on doing something that he/she forgets to use the restroom until it is too late. You should not have scolded him. Just tell him in a nice tone that he has to use the toilet and do not let it happen again. You too have to sort of guess when will be the time for him to use the restroom and make him go pee. Every 2 or 3 hours take him to the restroom and make him use it. Really, don't be angry about it. Accidents happen.
2007-09-21 17:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You overreacted, you were wrong, you should have just cleaned him up and changed his clothes and when your mom came home, tell her exactly what happened and let her decide what punishment your brother should have to deal with.
If you were my son and had done that to your little brother, YOU would be the one wearing a diaper 24 / 7 for a week. How would you like it??
Good luck
2007-09-15 19:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No absolutly NO you are not a mature adult that has the responability to know and react to any problem with a sibling have fun grow up and let mom take care of the potty issue
2007-09-22 22:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by woodbegoodin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, accidents happen, even to the best potty-trained kids around. He might have been really excited having you and yoru gf around to 'play' with. I say chalk this one up as a funny to relate to other people later on.
2007-09-21 13:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by akipooh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you completely over reacted. you over reacted before it even happened. you didn't want the "embarrassment" that the small child was going to be a small child? news flash. people understand. he's a LITTLE KID, they have accidents, it's not a big deal. your mother had every right to be angry, you are NOT a parent, your just a brother/babysitter, with no right to punish aside from time out. and an accident that should have been handled with care, concern, and love, was instead greeted with your harsh unrelenting and undeserved anger, and a punishment.
Not to sound harsh, but you basically abused a small child. there is no way that is ok. if you want to watch kids, learn to treat them like kids. everyone deserves the chance to be a child.
2007-09-15 01:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by Mary Liz 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It was justified but it was a horrible punishment. he was and could now be scared of u and u may end up with more than pee on your hands the next time u babysit him, apologize to him and your mom and rebuild the relationship with your little brother, he looks up to u and u should respect that...
2007-09-15 10:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you over reacted. We make mistakes like that sometimes, but try not to do that again. Accidents will happen with toddlers, and you cannot punish them for having an accident like that or the potty training will go in reverse and he will be afraid to go potty, and end up with more accidents. Positive reinforcement is always best when teaching children. I know you're young and you don't realize this, but I'm glad you asked because now you can learn from others, and not just your Mom who might be really upset with you right now.
Just realize that even when children are potty trained, they will have accidents. And sometimes they don't always know to tell you when they have to go potty. My son is going to be three in October, and I ask him if he has pee pee, or poo poo ( sounds silly I know ), and he'll say "no". Well, I find out that he does when I check. So children can get confused on what to say, or how to react to a question because they are still learning that process. He didn't not tell you on purpose or to be spiteful. Even though it seems like it. He's still learning is all, and we have to be patient and give back positive feedback so that he ( your brother), will learn with encouragement, and positive reactions. Kids learn better that way. If we constantly get after them for making mistakes, then they will learn that there is no room for mistakes in the household, and therefore leaving them feeling insecure, and afraid of telling the truth, and eventually withdrawn.
So, it's ok. You made a mistake with your over reaction, but just try to be more patient with your little brother and react with a more positive attitude. Say for instance he pees his pants again, you can react by saying, "Oops, you went pee pee in your pants. Lets go sit on the potty to see if you need to pee pee more ok." And then take him in the bathroom, sit him on the potty, and ask him if he has to go more. Let him sit there for a second or two to make sure he doesn't have to, and then take him off and help him change into dry clothes. Then you can calmly say, "Tell me next time when you have to go potty so that we can use the big boy potty ok". This will allow him to know that it's ok to make a mistake and with you being calm, it will also allow him not to get stressed, or feel insecure about his mistake he made. You're the big brother, so help him learn. :-) You'll be just fine. I would apologize to your Mom, and to your little brother for over reacting. Believe it or not, your little brother will understand. He may forget, because children have short attention span, but in turn he will learn from you that when you make a mistake, you apologize for it and recognize it. By this, you will be teaching him how to say sorry when he makes a mistake, and you'll also teach him forgiveness which is a huge thing in life. :-) You're a good brother. You just need time to learn yourself.
2007-09-15 01:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by lady_bella 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
why did your girlfriend put the diaper on him? he is your brother.
also it is your mothers job to discipline him not you.
a time out would have been more appropriate.
when you are potty training a child, a diaper is somewhat put out to be only for 'babies' use, by punishing him with a diaper you are giving him a 'babies' punishment a more matured punishment might have been appropriate.
And encourage him to go potty, don't pressure him.
2007-09-15 01:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
i dont think that you over reacted but if you need a suggestion for potty training or making him want to....bribery always works. like tell him hell get candy or youll tell him a really cool secret or somethin....ive potty trained like three kids that way.....eventually they forget about the bribes and dont want to be a baby anymore.
2007-09-22 23:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by ♪♫♪ My Angel♪♫♪ I Love You♪♫♪ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋