If a guy really likes you, does he try to get in your pants right away? If you are interested in a girl and in having a relationship with her, does that change if you sleep with her on the first date?
I admit, I have gone too far on a first date, and curious what guys have to say about their feelings for women after having been sexual on the first date. If you're interested in her does that change?
2007-09-14 18:04:52 · 4 answers · asked by Gina D 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After our date, the guy asked me to come back into his hotel.
FINALLY, I gave in, I did not have sex with him, but lots of making out. He spoke earlier about me living with him, since I mentioned my living situation was not that good. He lives in another state than I do, and I, as much as I felt flattered, I said I didn't think it was a good idea. Partly, since I didn't know if it was because he liked me or felt sorry for me. ?
Then in the morning I dropped him off at the airport, I was beginning to feel used since I didn't think I would ever see him again.
When he left he said, "So, you're not coming to live with me?"
I said, "I don't even have your number." I asked," Don't you want mine?"
He SHRUGGED! :( Then replied,"We'll exchange numbers."
I have only heard from him once, but he called really late, I wasn't here and he didn't even leave a message. I'm afraid he's 'just not that into me', so I won't call him. What do you guys ' think? did I get used?
2007-09-15 01:18:33 · update #1
Is he fond of you?
If you perceive that he adds sexual snippets to conversations in greater frequency than the context of your interaction has invited, if it feels to you that he is hoping you will pick up on the erotic refrences he makes and you do not want to encourage more of it and he continues to reveal his longing, then he is not fond of you. He is frustrating both of and you need to stop trying to be liked right away. On the other hand, if he is hot, you're horney and you engage in erotic chat with him then okay.
If he has a bravado in his bearing that seems to you to require the expenditure of more energy than you suspect he wastes when not trying to impress others, he is not fond of you.
If you are the slightest bit fatigued with how much he is telling you about himself and you know he'd have sex with you the instant you revealed any willingness, then he is not fond of you.
I have had sexual encounters with dozens of women. Your question rekindled some good memories, and though I don't really regret my choices, I gallantly avoided sexual intercourse with the women whom I found most desirable, most interesting, most likely to make a heavenly long term partner. I wanted to see them again and I believed that by letting the heat cool they would appreciate my self-denial and develop an interest me - the guy who would trade away a super sexual experience for a really super fine tomorrow. Right off I can remember atleast ten to-die-for women with whom sexual intercourse was almost inevitable on first meeting but I let it simmer because I liked them and hoped to see them again. Well, in most cases those tomorrows never came. The three long rerlationships in my past began with my postponing sex for a while even though my desire for them was really strong. The numerous one night stands I've had were with attractive women few of whom I remember.
2007-09-14 19:39:13 · answer #1 · answered by dybydx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have a totally unfair double standard, we want to sleep with the girl as soon as possible but then after we do... the respect is gone we see them as easy and start to wonder how many other guys she has been with. Why not wait and make us actually work for it, it will give you an opportunity to see how much they like you. If they are in it for sex then they will move on to an easier target fairly quick, if they like you then they will stick around for you not for your ...
Best of luck in future relationships
2007-09-14 18:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
. Because of our natural instinct to get every girl pregnant, Yes, that's what we go for. sory.
If you give IT up on the first date, we kind of lose interest and often move on. If you Don't give it up right away, that make US stick around a while longer and actually maybe even learn to like you!
BUT if you put up a 'fight' for too long, we move on.
Ya, it can be confussing.
2007-09-14 18:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by jim bo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the love is true... it never fades... it never dies... it never decreases... let it be anything...
2007-09-14 18:13:36 · answer #4 · answered by Demolisher 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋