we had been dating for almost 4 years now, in the beginning he cheated on me really badly with a slut in china. this slut basically sleeps with anybody available to her in clubs and pubs regardless of their skin color. anyways, the whole situation drags along back and forth for almost 2 years. My bf finally get rid of her because that slut cheated on him and has been dating a Mexican for 4 months but lied that she has been going out and traveling with her "cousin".
after so many hazels, i found out that he had been checking other girls out on friendster by bookmarking a whole bunches of them and he added a few more each time he log into it.
further more, he won't talk to me in front of his family even it was just on the phone. he can't even call my name and it makes me feel like he is so ashamed to let others to know that he is with me. He told me that he is on my side and will be with me even though his family hated me so much. His sister even sent emails to threaten me!!!
2007-09-14 16:59:10 · 12 answers · asked by Shandi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i wonder what his family's reaction will be when they find out that slut is basically sleeping with everybody that is available to her while they think she should become one of their family members for life time.
what is even worse is that both my hotmail and yahoo email accounts were stolen right after i received my bf's sister's threatening email... what a coincident!!!
so what should i do with this friendster bookmarking action done by my bf?
should i trash him? or trust him?
2007-09-14 17:03:36 · update #1
the reason why his family hated me so much is they wanted his son to be with someone who can work madly and pay for their family debts, someone who can please them by saying nice words.
i am a straightforward person, if it doesn't look good then i will just say so without making loops. i once talked to his parents about how bad their managing skills are with their own biz, and thereafter they hated me so badly. what did i do wrong? i just want to give out some opinions to make things better...
another thing is they believe i tried to be with his son because they are rich. even though they are in serious debt problems, they still think in that way.
i personal background is in the middle class, although my family is not rich but at least we're having our little savings and we are not in debts, not even credit card debts
2007-09-14 17:42:23 · update #2
Hunny, you should have been done with this man a long time ago.. He kept with that chinese chick on and off for 2 yrs (!).. and you still put up with it??.. HE finally got rid of HER because SHE CHEATED ON HIM??.. seriously you should let this triflous man go a long time ago.. you need someone who is going to be faithful and stay faithful.. none of this back and forth s*it.. show yourself some respect, drop this man, and move on with your life.. the whole family situation can be tough but if yall have been together for 4yrs and his parents dont "put up" with you or he hasnt stuck up for you or anything.. i think you need to let him go.. thats not a good situation to put him in either (not that you did.. but its just the point)
just end it.. keep it single for a while.. do the things you like.. don't go lookin.. wait to be found :]
good luck
2007-09-14 17:07:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't what I would call a Boyfriend!!! How could you say he is ?? I wouldn't want to tell anybody if I had a b/f like that !! dumb him, he's not good for your self esteem!!! you can find better then him you know!! what are you waiting for? He sounds like a lost cause and his family that sounds worse too !! I wouldn't tell them anything , let them find out for themself!!! While your moving on to a better Life!! And forget about them, its not worth it !!! They will find out the truth one day and it will be to late for them and you will be happy somewere else with someone else !! Good Luck !!
2007-09-14 17:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like being treated like s h i t or something? Have some respect and pride in yourself girl! This guy is a total loser. How could you be with someone who cheated on you repeatedly for 2 years. How could you possibly trust him? Lose him and fast!
2007-09-14 17:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by cindos_69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely dump him. You should have done it 4 years ago when he initially cheated on you. If you allow a man to use you and treat you like dirt he will. If he really cared about you he wouldn't constantly cheat. Have more respect for your self, find someone that cares and respects you.
2007-09-14 17:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its pretty obvious what u need to do.i was in a relationship kinda like that.after i lost my virginity to a guy things started goin wrong.finally he wouldnt go out in public with me or call me unless he was alone or only write me on the computer,telling me that he loves me and wants to be with me and all that other bull shi*.so i would have to say that i think u should trash him.toss him aside and let him know ur not puttin up with any **** anymore.think of yourself for once.stop trying to make urself happy when its just gonna make u feel worse.good luck and hope it all works out for ya
2007-09-14 17:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by babygirl_12589 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better trash him. If he cannot fight for you now that you're not yet married, how much more if you will be tied with him. There are many guys around...you better look for somebody who and whose family will be very proud of you. Why take the risk of being with somebody who cannot even mention your name.... forever....? Don't waste your time with him. trash him now.....
2007-09-14 17:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by 073440 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should TRASH him... its enough already you're not a saint ok? you should not sacrifice a lot... if he already cheated on you when you were still BF and GF then there are no more reason for you to continue loving him... don't be a martyr of some unworthy guy...
2007-09-14 17:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by Benny c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on. It sounds like it is as bad as it gets. Most likely it won't get better. Don't waste your life on someone that doesn't deserve you. You can do better.
2007-09-14 17:05:45 · answer #8 · answered by dietcokes4me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. It sounds like you need to get rid of him.
2007-09-14 17:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by <~*Megan*~> 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too much drama, Trash him.
2007-09-14 17:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by Helper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋