Have you ever formed a wrong first impression about someone, then ended up really liking the person, OR.....?

Question

.....has someone ever formed a wrong impression about you, and later confessed it, after you became good friends?

OK, that should read: "formed a wrong opinion based on a first impression".........sorry!

Answer 1

Yes, on both counts. Ended up being best friends with a couple who started out like that.

So many times, in this society, people are so serious or they try to keep up a shield of invulnerability. This can often be mistaken for rudeness, conceit, or any number of negative traits, if all we do is scratch the surface.

When we make a choice to dig a little deeper beneath the facade, we often discover that the underlying motives and come to a completely different perspective on the matter as well as a new appreciation for the person behind the mask.

Answer 2

I agree with Jonah & Karli. If you are passionate about studying & teaching English, you will make sure you get through the requirements - will power is a tremendous thing & passion just ignites all the energy within ! Your sister may be right in a very practical, factual sense. Consider her advice soberly. Also consider how much you Really like & enjoy English and Why. If the latter is stronger than the former, then instead of using up your energies to become confused & overwhelmed, just go for it with confidence & resolve. However, if you are finding some classes difficult, or are lagging behind, then find Resources & People who can help you Bridge the gap. Make that Extra Effort. You Know it'll be worth it to have your dreams fulfilled. Remember, every person is different. As a teacher I came across students who stood first in class throughout their school years; but most were not Really the Intelligent kinds - they just diligently crammed their texts. There was no Spontaneity, no Originality. In fact a few students who truly were brilliant, had sharp minds, could think on their feet, debate on the spur of the moment, ... didn't bother to get good grades [Or the exam system was such that it didn't spark their interest]. Who's to say your sister isn't the first kind & you may belong to the second category. You may have the creativity, spontaneity & freshness that other students in your class may not have. You may cultivate a Different perspective, a different style.... Be Unique ! Or at least work hard at building up your uniqueness & finding your inner strengths & realizing your potentials. Don't compare yourself with your other friends or sisters. Every individual has the capacity to turn her life into a path she thinks is best for her. You have started early ; you have your sister's guidance [don't focus on the negatives; if possible, seek her help in improving your chances] ; you know where you lag ; you know what work needs to be done ; read some extra books, do some extra study/research, put in as many Productive hours as you possibly can ; so like you say yourself "... before I even have reason to..." Wishing you all the very best always :-) Add : Check out Steve Jobs' 2005 Stanford University Commencement Speech.

Answer 3

I have had it happen both ways. My dear friend of thirty eight years started out as the girl I cried and begged my younger sister to drop as a friend. She was a rebel and I had never seen a girl stick her chin out to the world and beg for someone to dare to take her out. She thought I was a uptight control freak. I ended up spending time with her after my divorce, and we ended up in a commune together. I love her to this day. We have taken some wonderful trips together, including seeing NYC the March before 9/11, 2001. She is an RN in a St. Louis hospital today, and has my utmost respect. I also had a fellow worker that seemed like one of the most bitter and spiteful people I had ever met. I broke down in tears over a personal matter and was diving for an office to hide my tears. She came in with kleenex and a hug. When she shared her story, I was humbled and ashamed to have had one negative thought about her.

Answer 4

Yes and no. First impression of a girl I saw was sloppy and pig. She was fat (still is) and eating chips that fell on her shirt. A few weeks later she and I became friends. Over the next three years it turned into an obsession for her and she stalked me. I'm not friends with her anymore. I never told her about that time I first saw her though.

Answer 5

When I first started working at a place that was predominately white (racially)( I am American-Mexican, I put American first on purpose), I was approached by a co-worker who asked the supervisor that I was with; "well who's the Mexican?" The supervisor told him to shut up and go back to work. I was immediately put on the offensive, the supervisor told me to not pay any mind to him, that he was stupid. I started looking around for something to defend myself with, because this guy was pretty big compared to me. I looked for him after work, fully expecting to be confronted by him once more, but he was nowhere to be seen. Later my co-workers told me that, "that was just Adam", and he meant no harm. I was still somewhat weary. It's been twenty years since that happened, we are still good friends now. He has mellowed since then, and I learned to not judge a book by it's cover.

Answer 6

Yes, all the time, both situations. By the way, I never make a good first impression, but after a while, people love me... lol

Answer 7

Sometimes I judge people too quickly and I know I shouldn't, but sometimes it just happens. Especially with looks. I once met a guy who at first seemed like a loser with no life and wasn't much to look at, but then he turned out to be a great guy when I got to know him better. Now we're the best of friends and I'm so glad I gave him a chance and didn't act stupdily like I sometimes do.

Answer 8

Mother sat down rules--- Not my job to stand in judgment of others. ~~ That's the Lord's job !!!

(Best I can answer this, please try to understand.)

So I tried to befriend, and some personalities, just didn't match up with mine. That wasn't my problem. I remained who I was 24/7.

I slept well at night knowing I did my best to be a friend. Many friends are my reward. ~~~~~~~~

Praise God for all you good & caring y/a people.

Answer 9

yes it has happened in both instances for me.

I am trying very hard to overcome my penchant for developing first impressions and I think I am succeeding.

People often think I am cold hearted, uncaring and distant. Admittedly, Sometimes I am depending on my mood, but it's more the expression I hold that gives this impression. I tend to multi-think - as in mult task. There's alot going on in my brain and therefore I usually have a bit of a scowl on... then people think I don't care when in fact I care deeply, I'm just thinking about alot of things at once.
Also- I tend to have a bit of a nervous laff. That gets me in trouble sometimes because of inappropriate times a giggle might come out.

blessings ((((beano)))))

Answer 10

Yeah. A person on Y!A...I thought he was all smart and everything with all his answers. Then, I answered one of his questions in R&S - And he was insulting people left and right and making claims he had no right to make.

Also, there was this girl at school several years ago. She looked like all the mean preppies, and from a distance, it seemed that's what she was like. My friend introduced us once, though, and she was a really nice person. She was friends with everybody, and we ended up being good friends, too.