Am i a bad person if....?

Question

i dont want my cousins and aunt to move in because we would have to get rid of my cats? i feel awful not wanting them to live with me, but i cant imagine not having my cats. but they wouldnt move in until next summer, so i have time with my cats if they do.

Woah, lots of answers! okay let me add some details

1) yes, one of the cousins is extremely alergic, as in hospitalized if there is cat hair in the house
2) it would be permenant if they stayed
3) they are 8 years old, the cats
4) Its not reallt planned yet, my aunt got divorced recently. she has a home, but barely. she has two twin daughters age 6. my mom offered them to move in with us since we arent well off either and the combined income would help both of us greatly.
5) about 6 months ago they asked to move in with us but my mom said no because of the cats. now they're asking again

i love my aunt/cousins. if my cousin wasnt alergic to cats, then i would say yes, by all means move in.

thanks for the answers

okay, some of you are making it sound like they are taking advantage of me. NOTHING IS DEFENITE!!! they may not be moving in. we are just offering. they understand that i love my cats dearly. they asked before, we said no because of the cats, they got a house or an apartment or something, (never been to their house) and they are not doing that great. we are also barely pulling our weight and could use their help.

also, my aunt is not saying "we're moving in. you have a year to get rid of your cats" they were wondering if they could move in. they asked and we could say no. we didnt say yes. they would survive. they did for 6 months. they are good people. please dont make them sound bad

am i the only one who finds it odd to put my pets in front of my aunt/cousins?

dont make my family sound bad

Answer 1

You are not a bad person for not wanting your cousins and aunt to move in with you. The fact that you have cats should have no bearing on it. Your home belongs to your and your immediate family. Your aunt and cousins should be able to live in their own home, and if for some specific circumstance they are temporarily unable to have their own home, then you are still entitled NOT to be excited about the prospect of additional people living in your home, whether you have cats or not. The fact that you would have to get rid of your cats to accommodate these extra people is especially sad. Our pets are members of the family to most people. True, some people regard them as possessions and don't see them for the creatures of joy and companions that they are. Still, they were there first and they are your pets. I don't blame you for not wanting to have to get rid of them.

Now as for me, I am highly allergic to cats. With certain cats in particular, my eyes will water and itch, my nose will run, my skin will itch and my eyes will swell almost shut. Just the same, my daughter begged for a cat for over 2 years. I finally got her one and figured I'd just have to be careful around it. I took her to the animal shelter to pick out a cat and I let her choose the one she felt most compatible with. Fortunately she chose Ella, which is a short-haired black cat. I hold Ella, put her up to my face and rub noses with her, and she often sleeps on my pillow during the day and when I go to bed at night, I find cat hairs where I put my face. I don't care. She is a sweet kitty and brings much joy. Fortunately, I have no allergic reaction to her. Perhaps it is the short hair, I don't know.

Anyway, since your aunt and cousins don't plan to move in with you until next summer, perhaps you can encourage your parents to assist them in finding a home of their own close by where you live and they will have almost a year to begin saving up the money for it. You shouldn't have to give up your pets to accommodate your family members in this case. If your aunt and cousins were in dire circumstances, they would be moving immediately with you, instead of waiting a year. This tells me that it likely isn't something they HAVE to do, but rather WANT to do. In that case, they should learn to accept your cats, which were in YOUR home first.

Answer 2

The question is... why are they moving in with you? You need a really good answer to that one.
This is obviously a PLANNED thing, so there can't be an emergency involved... it isn't like they are escaping abuse or anything like that. So WHY?
Is this some kind of stepping stone to getting them move to the area so they can get established and then get their own place? How long is this expected to take?

The other thing is, that the older the cats, the more likely they may have trouble getting adopted out... even at some place like PetSmart. Are you going to have to spend the whole year ahead of you trying to find homes for your cats?

Answer 3

No, you are absolutely not a bad person! you are a very good person to even consider your relatives, but have you thought the fact that they might be taking advantage of you. If they aren't coming until next summer, why can't they make arrangements that wouldn't put you in this situation? It is very selfish and self-centered for your cousins and aunt to move in and expect you to get rid of the pets you love. Please give some serious thought about the fact that they are asking this from you before they move in, and what will they want you to give up after they move in. Please don't let your little helpless animals suffer because your relatives are making unreasonable demands on you. There are too many animals in this world who have no one to love and care for them.
lots and lots of good things for you and your little babies, and maybe it's about time you became a little selfish and taught others to respect you and your rights as a person.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Are the allergic to cats because if they just don't like cats then the cats need to stay, is this long term or temporary? maybe you can find a good home for them.

No your not a bad person at all. Good Luck.

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Answer 6

Uh, They want to move into your house and your cats have to go. Don't understand. Your house, your cats, they can either deal with the cats or find some other place to live. They are asking too much.

Answer 7

Not at all. Not WANTING them to move in is fine. Not LETTING them move in is something completly different. You can love your cats but I really doubt they need you as much as your human family members.

Answer 8

Sometime thing must gone just like me.... last time i have a few cute little kittens and one mother cat because of a little naughty one so we must take it away...^^ don worried gift it to someone that u can go to his/her house to visits your cats

Answer 9

you're not a bad person to feel that way, i would also be extremely annoyed if they had to take my cats away, i mean is there no way to have an arrangement where you can retain your cats or at least a shelter for them?

Answer 10

You love your cats so you have a good reason why you don't want them to move it. Yeah, ok.