I've tried talking to my boyfriend and I get no where. I asked him if it's me and he says no. We dont have sex that often but it's not that i wount put out i guess we just dont have sex. Maybe once or twice a week. I have been catching him looking at porn on the internet and dvd's. I dont mind if he masturbates. I just dont like that he does it to porn. I tried the password thing on my computer, but he gets threw that. And taken his porn away is like hell it's self. I just want him to quit masturbating to porn. It makes me feel like I'm not what he wants nor likes. He says that isn't ture, but for some reason I feel like there is still something he doesn't like about me. We use to have sex everyday and that slowly died which i exspected, but now we rarely have it and he's always masterbating. Even on the days we have sex, and I know he goes when we have sex. So how do I get him to stop? He knows how I feel about it. And it's anal porn, we use to do that but it hurts.
2007-09-14 14:47:35 · 20 answers · asked by kayla e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Addiction to pornography is a disease that causes men to turn away from normal sexual relationships and treat women as sexual objects fit only to be degraded and debased. If you cannot get him to stop looking at it in the future he will only get worse. The sexual acts that he looks at will get progressively more perverse as he needs a stronger and stronger "fix" to be satisfied until he is reduced to looking for child pornography to satisfy his sick urges. You had better get him into counseling before it's too late. Soon he will demand these perverse acts from you when he can no longer gain satisfaction from masturbating to his pornography. Get him into therapy and treatment for his addiction for his own well being or leave him for your own sake.
2007-09-14 15:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 7⤋
You can't change his habit. Period. When they are younger, men can learn from and/or have their first masturbation experiences using porn. If your man has been doing this for years, you aren't about to change him. You will just have to accept it. It's normal for a couple who have been together for a while to stop having sex frequently. Please note that porn often has no EMOTIONAL meaning for men. It's a physical thing - his experience with porn is most likely different to the way he feels when he has sex with you. If you don't like his porn and it makes you feel bad, then ask him to conceal it from you. Don't go looking for it on his computer. Ask him not to masturbate to it when you are staying with him. He is telling the truth when he says it's nothing to do with you - it DOESN'T. Accept this. It's probably a habit he had long before he met you. Out of sight out of mind is the best solution - ask him to hide it and respect your sensitivity to it by not using it when you are staying with him. Removing and taking away his porn is not the solution.
2007-09-14 15:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's replaced you with something else. That's infidelity; he's cheating. Would you put up with this if he wasn't doing it with you because he was out chasing down streetwalkers? This isn't any different, and don't let him tell you otherwise. If that's what he wants, he should make a choice. You don't deserve to be the "other woman"--especially not if the only thing you're other to is online porn. No woman deserves such a demeaning position, and no real man would do that to her. I'd say it's time to stop begging and time to start making plans for the future. One without the likes of him.
2007-09-14 15:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You can't stop a man from looking at porn quite honestly because its a addiction I guess. I'd say the reason he keeps looking at it is because you stopped having anal sex with him. Personally I think that if you don't like that kind of sex or can't handle it he should respect that because just because god gave us an ass hole doesn't mean it was meant for his member because if that were the case he can go screw a man and be perfectly happy. Not all woman are porn stars and want that type of sex treatment.
2007-09-14 14:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by kaybee 3 · 6⤊ 2⤋
When guys watch porn its usually nothing to do with the gf or wife. He just has a thing for anal porn and instead of bothering you about it he is taking out his own desires by watching the porn. Its how most guys go about things. They know their girl or wives won't do a certain act so they relieve their own needs in the only way they can. You should be lucky that he is pleasuring himself at home instead of going out on the streets or into bars and finding chicks and telling them to bend over so he can get some real anal.
P.S. When doing anal you have to relax and use lots of lubricant. You just can't have him shove it in there and have it be over with. Try being more open and trying it again and being more relaxed about it. I'm sure it would feel better over time.
2007-09-14 14:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
It is an addiction. It has nothing to do with you! You have a couple of choices, stick with him or move on. If you stick with him, you either let him do his thing, or find out if he wants to stop and then get some counseling. From your question, it does not appear as though he is interested in stopping. If it is not something you want to have in your life for the rest of it, move on now.
2007-09-14 15:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by glendiva1968 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it clearly shows he wants still more sex, in different ways, which may be, u r not allowing .... and so not satisfied .... but it is not that he doesnt like u.....
so somehow u want to make him to stop masterbation .......
if u u really like him, and want him for sex and also in ur life...... then .....
u just allow him to do all the sex with u, the way he wants to do ... give full freedom ..... dont stop any kind of sex he wants to do with u.... and, in fact, in this situration u urself should make him so excited and ask him to do that sex which he wants .....
one more thing, try to be with him all the times, and try to do sex quite often .... and try to do in very exciting positions also....
certainly he will come out of the mesturbation activities ....
2007-09-14 15:00:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He is definitely PERVERTED and will get worse. Sounds like he may need a man. Get out soon!! You are asking for trouble. He is Weirdo. get out
There is no telling what may be next. It is addicting and fortification/adultery.
2007-09-14 15:20:28 · answer #8 · answered by lana s 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should get him to respect your wishes. It's wrong for him to be doing that for other girls. It's obvious he wants anal sex that he can't have, and you have to talk that out with him. It's not a good relationship. I mean porn???
2007-09-14 14:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
who the fuck are you to tell a free man not to watch porn, what are you some Nazi feminist fascist pig?, the first answerer is
2007-09-14 17:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by Follow The 9 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
watch it with him and see how much he would want to have sex with you then.....and i know that anal hurts but there are ways around that if really want your man to pay more attenion to you and less to porn then you have got to pleas him or els he is going to get tired of seeing what he cant have and go looking some where els
2007-09-14 15:00:05 · answer #11 · answered by devoe442004 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋