A friend is looking at a possible recall, and I want to know how it will affect his wife. They live in Colorado, but if he's recalled he will have to return to North Carolina.
Is she, in any way at all, obligated to go with him? I mean legally, or culturally, or whatever. Can she stay in Colorado when he reports, or does she need to be with him? If she must be with him when he reports, is she then free to return to her home in Colorado? If he ultimately deploys oversees, does it matter where she lives?
Really, I'm looking for as much information about this as I can. I'm not military, so I'm interested in what her obligations are on all levels; legally, culturally, etc.
Thank you.
2007-09-14 14:14:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
She doesn't have to go with him. In most cases he will get the housing allowance for that duty station, not for where she lives in Colorado. He will have to apply to be a regional bachelor (married but spouse doesn't live with him) to get a barracks assignment.
If this were me, I'd go reenlist and get one of the nice signing bonuses being offered before he gets his actual recall papers. If he gets recalled they'll bump him up a rank, but these bonuses are enough to make a lot of people reenlist. My hubby qualifies for $40500 (before taxes) and it's gonna be tough for him to turn that down.
Also when you reenlist you usually get preference of duty station. So he could request to be stationed somewhere in Colorado.
If he hasn't gotten official papers, but it looks very likely he will get recalled, tell him go to the recruiter's office asap.
2007-09-14 14:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by amanda t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally the wife has no obligation to the military; she goes with him if the military allows it if she wants and doesn't if they don't allow it. She can stay in Colorado if she wants or if the military approves her coming with him then she can go if she wants. They would be authorized base housing, homes on the base for families, or a quarters allowance to live out in town if base housing was not available. Culturally depends on her cultural upbringing and what her responsibilities outside of those to her family/husband are in Colorado. No one can answer that side of the question but her.
2007-09-14 14:29:13 · answer #2 · answered by GunnyC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she does not have to go with him. Since he is the military member only he is required to report. Also is in very common for active military spouses to live back home where there is family and friends to help them during seperation.
Depending on how long he will be gone, she may choose to go. It is really up to them. But if he is being recalled to be shipped overseas, she might choose to stay at thier home. For financial and emotional reasons.
2007-09-15 01:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by Snipewife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend will be eligable for all Active Duty Pay and allowances if recalled. The family can live anywhere they choose. He will just recieve his quarters allowance plus FSA (Family Seperation Allowance).
If he is going to deploy anyway it doesn't make any sence at all to uproot the family.
She can stay put or go. it's her decision too.
The husband is obligated by law to support his family.
2007-09-14 14:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by oneiloilojeepney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can stay in Colorado - there is no requirement for her to move with him. While in the service, I knew numerous couples who, for various reasons, chose for the spouse to remain at one location while the military member was deployed elsewhere.
2007-09-14 14:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume that he is IRR or possibly Reserves?
In either case, not only is she not allowed to go with him, it won't be reimbursed at all if she should choose to do so and live in a hotel or something, which would be a waste of time since he will be training to deploy.
2007-09-14 14:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She isn't obligated to go with him. If he doesn't get shipped overseas, they will have to worry about supporting two households because he won't be eligible for quarters on base(dorm or base housing). His pay for housing will be based off where he is stationed, unless he talks to his first sergeant and gets her zip code as his BAH location. about.com or mililtary.com covers alot of these types of questions. Just search under pay.
2007-09-14 14:25:41 · answer #7 · answered by imthemeek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't have to go anywhere, just him. Since he is married, he will receive BAH (basic allowance for housing). I would guess the amount he gets will be determined on the zip code from which he was recalled from/ was living at (and on his rank).
2007-09-14 14:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by Marco R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like already said above, but maybe these people would have more of an idea than I do, about him going and her staying with him then becoming what I was told was a Geo Bachelor??? Hopefully they can explain it more to you.
regards
2007-09-14 14:34:30 · answer #9 · answered by candy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋