Really strict parents?

Question

What do you do when its the point that you want to do something stupid? My parents are real bad. I'm 15 turning 16. And im still not allowed to go out w/ friends by myself. Date, go to games, be with my friends or sometimes cousins. I mostly spend my time at home since thats the only place. I can never do anything that i ever want to do. It's so hard for me to get my way. Sometimes i even stay home alone while they go out. I try talking to them but it never works. I really need someones help. If someone has it worse out there, sorry. =(

Answer 1

A lot of parents are like yours. They try to protect you from bad influences – that’s so much better than parents that don’t care. But if they are smart, they also adjust their strictness with the trust they have in your maturity. If you are responsible, independent, and dedicated to a good education, they’ll loosen the reigns. Do your homework without them having to nag, volunteer for some chores, get a job, pay some of your expenses (cell-phone, clothes, dance lessons, etc.) ask about the things you’ll have to know once you live on your own (paying bills, fast and cheap cooking, laundry, etc).

If they are keeping a close grip after you have SHOWN you won’t get into trouble, there are fewer points they can make. If they are concerned about safety, tell them you’ll arrange for transportation. Be open and truthful, give them advance warnings.

As someone else also mentioned, get involved in school activities, that not only gets you out of the house legitimately, you’ll also meet the ‘good’ crowd.

Good luck

Answer 2

I feel for you! I was in your shoes until I graduated high school! At the time, I could not believe how my parents treated me... now I know they were only protecting me! I look back now, and I often wonder if I had been more "responsible" if things would have been different. By responsible I mean doing things around the house with out being told, getting involved more in academic programs in school... by the way, are you involved w/ any extra-curricular activities? Sports, debate/ forensics, drama club, student government, manage a sports team, volunteer for a good cause.. These are all wonderful ways to get out of the house, and what kind of trouble would you get into participating in these type of groups?? Getting involved w/ school is the best thing you could do for yourself! You have a sense of importance when you belong to an organization, your self-esteem would sky rocket and your PARENTS will see that you are a responsible, more mature young adult and perhaps they will start allowing you to venture out on your own!! REMEMBER~your actions speak louder than your words... Prove yourself responsible!! Good Luck and God Bless!!

Answer 3

Try getting into some sports or extracurricular activities at school (as a legitimate excuse) so you can have more time away from home, hopefully to build more of a social life for yourself.
As you prove yourself by doing all that, plus keeping up with your studies and chores at home, they should grow to trust you more.

Answer 4

wow, sounds like you have my parents!
the good news is that it gets better. i had the same problem when i was exactly your age. I was talking to a therapist at the time and she said something to me when i brought up this same problem, and it stuck with me forever. she told me that if i ever wanted to move out on my own and never have to put up with their rules and bullshit, all i had to do was graduate highschool with good grades, get accept to a college far far far away from home, and if i was able to do that, then i would never have to speak to them ever agian. and she was right, i graduated HS, got into a college in another state. i still talk to my mom, but now she respects me for being able to do what i want to do.

Answer 5

Yell. WWhoooooooooo!

Answer 6

ya im the same girl i try to get ma way by yelling that works more times than talking lol

Answer 7

my parents are like that too!!!!

you can try yelling at them haha