i have this friend who is a good christian and i am ttoo i am older than her and she has been hangin out with not soo good influences and claims shes got it under conrtol have talked ot her and told her i wuz worried bout her do i leave her alone now and in the future how do i talk to her with out comeing off as pushy or watever cuz i really cazre about her
2007-09-14 13:33:44 · 17 answers · asked by Logan B 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Let me look it up and I'll get right back to you with the verses that cover this very issue =)
Check Matt 18:15-17
2007-09-14 13:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by cbmultiplechoice 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is pray for her, are her parents Christians? maybe they can help. Does she have a youth group or bible study to go to? maybe she can join one. Does she have a mentor, maybe you can ask her if she would like someone to mentor her and find someone who can.
For now try not to hang around her too much as she might become a negative influence on you. Keep praying for her and when you want to talk to her in the future ask the Lord to give you the words and to soften her heart to listen to you.
Romans 12:2 And be not conformed to this world;but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
2007-09-14 21:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to give it a final go and tell her your concerns, in a friendly and NOT condensending way. If she still refuses to listen to you, than continue to be her friend and most importantly, PRAY for her. Stay though so that when your prayers are answered and she realizes her mistakes, she will know she can turn to you for help. I am a christian too and I know that it hurts to see a sister/brother in christ going down the wrong path and following satan. But, we definatley need to remember that ultimately, we need to pray and leave it in Gods hands to work on your friend. I wish you luck.
2007-09-21 13:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by crystal nw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a good friend, yes you should talk to her about what she is doing, but if she refuses to listen then all you can do is pray for her,sometimes people really have to learn the hard way before they understand that they are going the wrong way.
2007-09-14 20:40:13 · answer #4 · answered by jasminebudd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done what you should. Keep praying and let God do the rest. Its hard when its a friend or family member to just not do nothing. But sometimes its for the best. Just be a friend when she needs you.
2007-09-14 20:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by iwant_u2_wantme2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anyone pushes me one direction, I head the other. Plant a seed and be a friend. Tell her your concern and leave it at that. Tell her that if you hang out at a barber shop long enough your goint to get a haircut. Remember God is love and every one has to take thier own journey.
2007-09-22 20:40:44 · answer #6 · answered by Marty G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes back off of her, while still being friends. In the bible it tells us to be delicate w/our words which means that she may not be open to it now, but if she sees your actions and how you are she may be more open to you, remember in a christian world our actions speak louder then words at times. If she is doing something wrong, don't engage in what she is doing. Also in the bible it tells you that if one will not listen to wipe your feet and go to one who will hear. meaning if she does not want to listen, and gets upset at you for not choosing to do what she does, that there are other people who will hear you and who will want to understand Gods word. good luck I hope this helps.
2007-09-14 20:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can and should do is warn her and then leave it alone. You are no longer responsable for her and any sin she commits. If she is in sin, then you should know the Bible enough to know what to do
1. go te her alone
2 Take a witness and rebuke her in front of the witness
3 Take her in front of the congregation and rebuke her
if she still continues in sin
5 have NOTHING else, whatsoever, to do with her!
2007-09-22 04:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by athorgarak 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her like you used to. Its her choice who she hangs out with and what she does. If you show her that you respect her decision then your friendship will continue. That way if things get bad for her, she has someone to rely on. You have to let people make their own mistakes and not be that annoying person who is constantly judging.
2007-09-14 20:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by afilmbuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that because you care about her so much, that you are concerned about her going down a wrong path, and getting hurt. Tell her that you don't want to see that happen to her. If she won't listen, all you can do is be a friend to her, be there for her, and pray.
2007-09-14 20:40:38 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Ray Langston 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋