They are my daughter's classmates, but they don't really socialize together outside of school. Usually, the gift for the Bar or Bat Mitzvah of a classmate (i.e., not a good friend) is meant to cover the cost of the guest's attendance at the party. Since there's only one party here, do we need to give a double gift? It is quite a lot of money.
2007-09-14 13:31:15 · 15 answers · asked by Rob 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
yes - the gift that you give is a gift to the child. Since there are two children, you should give two gifts.
2007-09-14 13:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by Jeff C 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you do need to give individual gifts, but you can give a little less to each. If you normally give $50 check you can give $36 each which is more significant and saves you about 50% of having to give 2 full gifts. I'm not sure what the custom is in your area, but you can give any multiple of 18 if you want to give a smaller gift. When I was a Bat Mitzvah(17 years ago) children gave other children a lot less than what adults gave, so I don't think you need to spend a fortune.
Alternatively if you really can't afford a double gift of any kind, buy one gift for the two of them with some religious significance - a menorah, mezuzzah, etc. With this type of gift, one is acceptable.
2007-09-14 15:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by MuffinMom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure where you got the etiquette that the cost of the gift should cover the cost of the guest's attendance... I don't buy that. If I am invited to a wedding that is extravagant.... $200 per head...or one that is simple with reception in the church basement with egg salad finger sandwiches....my decision on gift is for the people getting the gift.
My religion is not Judaism, but I believe the ceremony is for a person of the Jewish religion to enter into adulthood within their religion.
Twins would be two people and I would think each would deserve a gift if you are giving gifts to acknowledge their accomplishment rather than just paying for your daughter's attendance costs.
You said it was quite a lot of money. I would give each twin a gift. How much you spend on each should depend on how you want to congratulate them on their accomplishment ...not on what the bash costed. And you might want to think about the achieving adulthood aspect when each of them should become their own person....always a twin...probably always sharing as that is a close bond between them...but their own person.
Hope this helped!
2007-09-14 13:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by PattiAtk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you need to "cover the cost of your daughter's attendance", pick a sum you think would cover it and split it in 2..... buy 2 cheaper gifts as someone else said.... because it'd be really mean to give only 1 gift..... which of the kids would get to keep it?? Think if you were the father of those kids, would you like to get only 1 gift and see your kids fighting for it, or one of them crying because his brother got a gift and he didn't?? Better get a smaller gift than none..... I don't think they'll care that much about the gift as long as they do get something.
2007-09-14 13:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by Lprod 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Each girl deserves a gift as if they had separate Bat Mitzvahs. It isn't fair to give one gift for such an occasion.
2007-09-14 15:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... maybe get them something like a set of twin baby dolls or something that comes in twos, yet is one gift.
I'd say either to get one gift that is a bit more expensive... or two cheaper gifts.
But don't feel pressured to buy two gifts, one should be just fine.
2007-09-14 13:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some thing which you're able to offer them fot their birthday, yet greater useful. It relies upon on the way you're financially- yet i be attentive to the failings I enjoyed suited have been present certificates and rings, that's probable the suited ingredient (the tests I have been given are placed into my college mark downs account) to get them in the event that they seem to be a woman. the fee of this is everywhere between $25 and $a hundred in line with customer, even nevertheless it relies upon on how properly you be attentive to them (ie you will supply greater to an in depth pal than an off-the-cuff aquaintance). whether this is a guy, supply him an american show present card or a modern card to a save he likes (maximum secure issues) and a advantageous card. for a woman do a similar ingredient, yet you additionally could have rings fairly. in the process the provider they might desire to be well mannered (as though they have been in church, ie no cellular telephones, and no loud speaking). What they might desire to placed on must additionally be suited for church, even nevertheless it relies upon on the synagogue (orthodox, reform, conservative), to boot because of the fact the style of party (night events tend to be fancier than luncheons). yet take care of it as you're able to a candy sixteen or a affirmation.
2016-11-10 11:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you need 2 gifts.
2007-09-14 13:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by chante 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO need to. Buy a box of chocolates , on the gift tag, write "To (the twin's names), and From your (daughter's name.) They can share the chocolates.
2007-09-14 22:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give cards with equal amounts of cash inclosed. It might not be as much as if their were only one, but each deserves a gift of their own.
2007-09-14 16:02:54 · answer #10 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋