How do I keep my parents from splitting up?

Question

My mom is stressed out and it's partially my fault. Im always arguing with my brother. Im not anymore but I was. my little brother gives my mom an attitude almost every day and my dad is REALLY stressing my mom out. Please help me. I don't want my family to split up. I want them to stay together. I am only 15 how can i help

He's not my real dad. He's my step dad. My mom already went through one divorce. This would be her second if they decide to split up. So I would be the child of a mom who got divorced twice. I don't think i can go through another

Answer 1

Maybe you can help your mom do the chores, cook dinner, do the housework and laundry. That's something that you can do. You really have to tell your brother to stop giving you mom an atitude. I totally understand that attitude. My brother's exactly like him. I totally understand how you feel about the brother part. You need to do the mom's job. So that your mom won't feel so stressed out. Try and help out your dad any way, if you can. Good luck. ^_^

Answer 2

If they have issues in their relationship, you can't do anything to change that. But, to make your mom less stressed out, you could help around the house more often. Maybe cook once a week or do the dishes after dinner. Also, offer to take your brother out of the house for a bit to show them you can get along and to give them some time together (depending on how much younger he is than you). When you turn 16, if you get your license, you'll take some stress off by being able to drive yourself and your brother places.

This all might help a little, but remember, you're still a child and it's not your job to keep your family together and it's not your fault if things aren't going well.

Answer 3

If your family was really splitting up, there is not much that you can do about it. Maybe they are just talking about doing it because everyone is stressed and it makes for an unhappy home. To get things running more smoothly in your home, it is going to take cooperation from everyone. You might ask to hold a family meeting and express your concerns. You will have to try harder to behave better than you have been. Stop the arguing and learn how to discuss problems with your family members. Be an example to the rest of the family and not an instigator by starting or continuing the chaos. Speak with your little brother and tell him how serious this is and that you need him to help with the problem. Tell your parents that you will work hard to make things better and ask if they will please try also. It is worth a shot. You can also suggest that all of you go to family counselling to find better solutions to the problems that are causing the stress. You can make a difference in how things are in your home. Hopefully it will work out. Good luck.

Answer 4

Honey - honestly, it's nothing you or your brother did. It's something else between them. Parents don't break up for that reason. There's another reason. The fights probably just make you feel like it's your fault because it bring them into an argument. Take it from someone that knows. Their having issues in other areas and an added stress just causing them to yell at each other more. It's important that you know that you didn't do anything wrong! A lot of kids think that when their parents go thru a divorce. My parents divorced too. Just keep thinking that you want to see both of them happy and that you'll see them, separately of course, but you'll get used to it -trust me. You'll be okay. Hang in there! e-mail me if you need to.

Answer 5

Sorry sweetie, no matter how bratty you have been, none of this is your fault. There are problems that your mom and dad has to deal with between the two of them. Sure, being kids, you are bound to stress out your parents. But there are a lot of other problems bubbling away under the surface, things you may not even be aware of.

Now that you know you are causing your parents stress, try to do it less! Encourage your parents to go out (just the two of them) more frequently, and give them space to work out their problems. Let them both know you love them, and hope this family don't have to split up.

Good luck!

Answer 6

Ur house sounds like a totally normal household. believe it or not every family has their bickering and so forth. its good that u stop fighting wit ur brother. it doesnt sound like ur family is going to split up over this. families go through rough patches. if u feel ur mom is really stressed out. help her out around the house, lighten the load on her. you cant really stop ur parents from breaking up but you can always talk to them and tell them how u feel. dont keep all these feelings inside. everything will be okay, your family will be fine. keep the lines of communication open.

Answer 7

Well if they split up they probably want to. It's not your fault. I know a lot of people say that ,but it's not. Since you think it's partially your fault you could help by telling them about your day and make both of them stay in the room and actually listen. This will start a convo. between them and they'll reconcilliate..

Answer 8

It's not really your choice to say. Ask your dad why he's treating your mom like that. Stay close to your brother, and be there for support. Ask your mom and your dad separately first why they don't see the marriage working out, and how it could be fixed, or why they won't fix it.
It will hurt if they separate - but if they don't, your mom will be constantly stressed if they don't shape up. Sometimes it may hurt more for them to stay together... that was my case, anyway.

Answer 9

Oh, honey, this is so hard, but you need to understand that there is absolutely nothing you can do. Remember that you and your brother are responding to what you feel going on around you. You need to talk to your parents about how you are feeling. Children are never to blame in this type of situation.

Believe it or not, although it will be painful if your parents split up, sometimes when parents are apart they become better parents because they are happy with themselves.

Take care, and do not carry this burden alone. It should not be yours.

Answer 10

Hey sweetie. There is nothing you can do. Every family has problems, just like yours. And parents have problems. If they cannot solve their problems by themselves, then they can't be solved. I know that's not the answer you want to hear, but there is really nothing you can do.

Parents split up for many reasons, but it is never because of the kid's behavior. Trust me. It is not your fault. I know there is trouble with you and your sibling, but it is probably a result of the parent's discontent. You did nothing to cause this. It is not your fault. And it will be OK.