a guy camr in to my store and bought a phone. he was very nice but i didnt find him a attractive. he would call my store once a week and we would talk he asked me out on a date for tonight. the only thing is i feel like im doing something wrong by getting his hopes up. what do you think? how would you feel if you where told after a date i just want to be friends?
2007-09-14 12:45:08 · 10 answers · asked by esther h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it isnt wrong to go out with someone that you dont find attractive. just because theyre not good looking doesnt mean that that they cant be really nice. heck, this person might be "the perfect one for you." but if things really dont turn out well, i dont think this person would mind all to much to be friends. just give them a chance before you tell him that.
2007-09-14 12:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by britishboybands 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time to tell him that you just want to be friends is when your date begins, not afterward. That way, both of you will know what you expect, and if he becomes insistent on more than friendship, you have every right to take off for home without further obligation.
Actually there's a simple phrase that takes care of most of this, that you need to use early on.
It's "No, thank you."
The buying of a phone was not a favor he did for you. He's a customer. You're not obligated to him for anything other than good, courteous help with his purchase.
2007-09-14 12:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by Palmerpath 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the point of going out? If it is to get sex or establish a relationship leading to marriage, then kill the dating. But if it is to find people who share interests and form friendships and it is possible with this guy, then keep it. Normally, it would be a different kind of "date" - picnic and folk festival rather than dinner and movie, but it has to start somewhere.
2007-09-14 12:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Mike1942f 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you dont echnically no him yet, so if you get 2 no him, them maybe you'd be attractive more. I no that im as shallow and i no its hard 2 look past a guys looks, but just tell him instead of a date, you want to just get 2 him. Then take it from there, bcz u gotta try it before u toss it, its like nothin ventured nothin gained thing!
2007-09-14 12:51:44 · answer #4 · answered by yea shawty! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see anything wrong with it i was asked out by a guy that i was not attracted too and then i started likeing him lol and started getting more attracted to him later on... good luck
2007-09-14 12:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gone out w/a couple of guys whom i didnt find attractive...or didnt like. Eventually i grew apart from them...my advise would be to distance..or not go out w/them since the beginning. That way they dont get their hopes up...and u dont break their hearts :(
2007-09-14 12:51:25 · answer #6 · answered by Bored Latina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a guy maybe that you were after a free dinner....as a women I would feel led on by you. Either way I would cancel and tell him the truth!
2007-09-14 12:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by divers_godeeper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats what dating is all about -- to find out if you can be friends and then maybe more than friends --- its not "wrong" plus you may find that he grows on you as time passes --- best wishes
2007-09-14 12:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey a girls gotta eat! theres nothing wrong with it, u think all guys are actually up front w/ us? go out, have fun
2007-09-14 12:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no because it is personality over looks i mean as long as he is decent it should be cool
2007-09-14 13:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋