I want to move out at 14 can you help?

Question

mymoms being a ***** and wont let me do anything

Answer 1

run away!!!!

haha.

Answer 2

First you need a job to support yourself. What kind of job can you get at 14 making enough money to pay rent, utilities, groceries, clothes, the basic necessaries, like toilet paper, shampoo, bath soap, dish soap, laundry soap? A 16 yr. old could get a minimum wage job. Which still would not be enough to cover the rent. Employers generally will not hire anyone under 16, some won't under 18. It has to do with liability insurance.
I'm sure your mom is doing what she feels is best for you. You will understand more when you have a 14 yr. old.
I was 14 once and gave my mom grief, we got through it. I love my mom very much and she loves me. She is 74 now and I 51. We have had a great relationship since I became a mom.
I had 3 children, who each took turns being 14. The rebellious age! We all got through it! Lots of fighting and a whole lotta love. We have a good relationship too! Much better since they became parents.
Now my 3 Children have their own children and they too will turn 14 one day. They too will give their parents grief, and all will survive. My oldest 3 grandchildren are entering puberty already. And so the rebellion has begun!

Answer 3

You're 14? I'm not much older than you, but even I'm growing in knowledge and emotionally just from staying at home and through my mom's protection. Where would you go anyway? How will you get a job? How will you learn? How will you eat? How will you get money?
You're 14, and if you go out into the real world now, you will suffer worse than what you think you're suffering now... school is not there for torture, and mothers are definitely not there to cage you. She's not letting you do stuff not just because she can, but because she thinks it's right for you. Just have a little patience - you'll need more of it as you grow up... and even more if you decide to move out. Do yourself a favour and open your eyes a bit and try to understand why your mother is the way she is.

Answer 4

Well you can not move until atleast 18 or 16 in some palces. So
cool down.
An write you MOM a letter. Tell her what is bothering you and offer suggestions to how to slove the problems. If you have a DAD talk to him or someone older you trust, like religious leader. Does your school have a councelling department?
Do not be affrid. Many tenager your age feel the way you do., Alot has to do with changing hormones and it will get better.
Relax/
Let me give you so really good advise.
Try it for 10 days That is all I am asking.
Smile and go out of your way to help around the house,
cooking cleaning
shopping
what ever you can do.
You will see it can go a long way to getting some of the things you want.
GIVE FIRST and then u get.
OK

Answer 5

I am 14 and have been living on my own since my grandfather died this summer. Yes, contrary to all the comments above, it’s possible – you can even get emancipated at that age here in California. This means you can sign rental agreements, work, pay bills etc. I have no family and my case isn’t decided, but the longer I play ‘grown-up’ here in my grandpa’s apartment, the more I believe it would be so much easier to have a guardian to take some of the load off.

I get up at 5 to help at a local gym before school, tutor after school and work in a library on weekends to earn my bread. The rest of the time I spend with home work, keeping the house livable, bills, shopping, laundry, cooking.

I would gladly engage in a sporadic argument with an over-concerned guardian in exchange for an occasional free night.

Answer 6

You are 14. Go and do 14 year old things like hang out at the mall and ***** about how Mary-Lou has a crooked front tooth. You are way too young to be moving out. How are you going to support yourself, because I can tell you that whatever paedophile you are going to be moving in with will not be hanging around long once he finds some other unsuspecting victim. How are you going to cope with being a single parent at 15? Your mother is right and you need to realise that. You may not like it, but stay home and be a 14 year old.

Answer 7

Why? That is the first question you have to ask yourself. So mom is being bitchy, she can grow out of that stage. Being 14 and all alone, is hard. Where are you going to get cash? 14 year olds, aren't usually masters of bringing in cash, so that is problem number one. Number two, where are you going to stay?
It's a hard life, but if you could wait for about 3-4 more years, it would all be worth it. Your mom loves you, and even though she doesn't let you do certain things, she has to have a good reason. Ask her why not. Ask her if there is a way for you to become more responsible. Ask her what you have to do to make her change her mind. Just let me say one more time. Being out in the world all alone at 14, is hard and horrible. Think about it.

Answer 8

You need to hang in there. I know that's a lot to ask, but you really do have to. I had problems with my daughter when she was about your age and it's all related to you asserting yourself as an individual. But you can seriously harm yourself in the process, and it's easy to overwhelm a parent (especially a single parent) to the point where they give up and let you. Believe it or not, a lot of this is about protection that you still need and the desire of a parent to protect you from things that you don't realize are threatening you.

I was lucky. I had extended family in the area to help, and we got through that hellishly rough spot. She admits that it was bad too, and we don't really speak of it now. We simply consider ourselves fortunate to have gotten through it. It isn't like two people fighting each other, it's two people fighting through a comon barrier in order to come out the other side with an entirely different relationship.

It took a lot out of me, but I wouldn't trade it for anything now. She's very supportive and protective of me, and I'm very proud and supportive of her. We'd do almost anything for each other now. I'm a single father, the only parent she ever knew. Be careful what you throw away. And remember that if your mom's losing it, you may have to play the adult at times. That doesn't mena you get to be boss, it means that you get to sit back and think seriously about what's REALLY going on. Trust me--the more you learn now, the easier you'll have things in 20 years or so, because you will have learned what's going on.

Answer 9

I no exactly where ur comin from. my mom doesnt allow me 2 do anything either! But there is really no legal way u can move out, unless she's like abusing you, or u live in an unsafe enviornment, so good luck. But just remeber she's your mom, and she only wants the best for you. But if she wont let you do anything, ask her why you cant do it. If she has like a lagist answer, then there's really nothing you can do, i mean you are only 14

Answer 10

I don't think that you can. Plus at 14 you can't get a job that will support you. There is a lot you have to think about, before you move out. Where are you going to live? How will you pay the rent, electricity, cable bills? Plus noone is going to rent a place out to a kid. You have no credit. Unless your moving into your grandmas house or a relatives, it just wont work. How will you get around? Sorry but that just isn't realistic.

Answer 11

That's really too young. You should move out when you go to college. If you think about it, that's like 4 more years before you can move out of your home. You're way too young. Where are you going to go without your parents? You can't pay the bills and go to school at the same time. It'll be too hard and it's almost impossible. If I were you, just stay with your mom. You'll see that she's not being a *****.