My mom caught my boyfriend and I having sex. I'm not allowed to see him and neither is he. I love him and I'm not sure what to do. Help! I don't want this to be the end....
2007-09-14 12:32:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If it is true love, it will survive this test of loyalty and patience. Be true, and keep trying to do the right thing.
2007-09-14 12:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First... you are luck you aren't pregnant, have a sexually transmitted disease and depending on the ages he wasn't charged with rape or something else!
Second considering the risks and the fact that many of the guys I have know will lie, cheat, steal etc. to get in a girls pants I would say you would be stupid to have sex with him again until you are married! ... day after not the wedding night... too rushed.
If he can't wait until you are married then find a real man not some pig sniffing around for sex! It is plain stupid to date someone that you don't think is marrying material! Not I'll change him or he's just misunderstood but a real good catch!
If you really love him then ask your parents to let him come over for dinner and watch a movie WHILE THEY ARE HOME!!!! Try and arrange the same with his parent and let both parents talk and IF you can show that you two can be responsible and patient then maybe the parents will come around... or you will find someone else!
2007-09-14 19:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by Pilgrim in the land of the lost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, big trouble okay. First, if you are old enough, you should be able to have a choice in things like this. But guessing you aren't, you should see him in public places, without your mom, and take a break from the intimacy. Play up to your mom, to regain her trust, because that is the most important thing. Wait a while, and it might pass over. Maybe when you have regained your mom's trust, by promising not to have sex with him and stuff like that, she will let you see him again. If you are still young, keep to yourself (if you know what i mean) and wait until you are older. If you really need to, don't do it when dear old mom is around. Geeeesh.
2007-09-14 19:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by lovelifeandpeace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really have to take time and earn your mother's trust back, so don't go sneaking off to see him behind her back. Have an open, honest and mature conversation with her. If you're 15 or under or haven't been seeing this boy for very long, you need to rethink your actions and have a conversation with her to tell her that you realize it was a mistake and you're sorry to have disappointed her. If you're 16 and older and have been seeing him for a while, apologize that she found out that way and that you may have disappointed her, but you stand by your decision because you are mature enough to make that kind of decision. Either way, tell her you were safe (which hopefully you were) and you understand the consequences of your actions, which again, hopefully you do.
2007-09-14 19:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by graybear 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh wow. i would be in the ground and so would he!! but if i was in that sistuation. i would do anythng humanly possible to see him. i have a relentless attitude and am very stubborn (my best guy friend told me the other night i was the most stubborn woman he has ever met :) ) so my parents know if i wanna do something or seee someone i will do anythng i have to do to see him. and if it is true love distance wont stop it, one way or another yall will end up together. sometimes you juss gotta be patient and let things pass over for a few days.
Goodluck!
2007-09-14 19:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by Cole.Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't love you he just wants to have you know what with you.....you'll thank your mom in the future for this. Having sex at your age is sooo not worth it. Do you think that so called boyfriend of your will be there for you if you find yourself pregnant?
2007-09-14 19:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by Ghanaian Princess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they grounded you for life don't expect it to last that long.
On the up side, at least you were at home doing it instead of the back seat of you dad's car.
They will remember how young they were when they first had sex ... hopefully you were using protection.
Good luck you crazy kids.
2007-09-14 19:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by David T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st how old are you. second i cannot answer this cuz im not sure what i would of done had i walked in on my kids and there other half.i think you need to talk to your mom and try apologizing and see if you can come to some kinda understanding.
2007-09-14 19:38:08 · answer #8 · answered by Fran J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents won't allow it, then there's nothing much that you can do. You'll get in more trouble if you try and re-do the relationship again. it just won't work. You parents and his parents won't allow this relationship, then you can't do anything about it either.
2007-09-14 19:35:25 · answer #9 · answered by cat_heros@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that boyfriend is not good husband material.
Momma does not want to raise her grandchildren for you thanks to your stupidity. Momma wants to marry you off to a good family one day. When all momma has to offer Prince Charming is a skank daughter, those dreams evaporate.
2007-09-14 19:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋