I am 14..my mom and i have just moved........we moved to be with my dad and the rest of our family..me and her are still not living with my dad.but we will in the next month or so? But the only way for my mom to cope is with alcohol...and its horrible...she drinks a whole bottle of vodka everyday.....(i know this because i know where she hides it and I look) apparently she stays in bad all day....when i get home from school thats where she is....about 30 minutes ago I went and told her about how i know...and she just went crazy..she gave me the phone told me to call my dad..that she does not want me anymore...what do i do???
2007-09-14 12:14:05 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You really need to get help for your Mom. You can call Al-Anon - it is the organization that helps the families of people who misuse alcohol. You can call anonymously and will be able to speak with someone who can help you. They will be able to direct you to the resources you need so that your Mom will get help with her addiction to alcohol and you will get help to deal with the things that are going on in your life right now. If you have just moved and your mom and dad are considering getting back together, you will also need help here so please get the help you need. At 14 years old, you need responsible parents who will be there for you and your needs. Another resource for you to get help would be to ask at your school to see a guidance counselor or student advisor. You can speak with them in confidence -- they will not share your information with anyone except to get help for you and they will never make you feel uncomfortable. Please reach out for help -- there are many people who will be only too happy to see that you are in a safe and protected environment until your home situation stabilizes. I will say a prayer just for you. I hope you will find the help you need so that you can be the 'kid' and not have to be an adult in your family.
2007-09-14 12:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by felixthecat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god, you poor child!! There isn't alot you can do for someone who's an alcoholic if they are in denial and dont' want the help.You must tell someone you can confide in at school.call Alcholics Annomious also know as AA in the phone book. Or you can call the children help line in your community.or if you know where she hides the un-drinken vodka hide it or somehow dispose of it. if you maybe want a break, go 2 a friends house or if your afraid to leave her alone on the week days stay in bed with her and only let her drink juice, tea, light things. if none of these things work i would go to a counselor. if you want to live with her tell her you hate it when she drinks and that it hurts you to see her drink. insist on her letting you stay. if not live with your dad and visit her, let her know you miss her and that you would come home if she would at least narrow the vodkas down. im not gonna say that shes gonna stop right away cuz drinking habits are hard to get rid of. take it easy and dont be scared hun. ill pray for you.
2007-09-14 19:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by amydc2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, take her at her word. If she is not healthy enough to care for herself at this point, she needs to realize and experience some loss. However, don't stop there. She needs to be referred for alcohol/addiction recovery. Not sure what the insurance or financial situation is...but this is a serious disease and she needs treatment. She cannot recover herself any more than a diabetic can cure themselves. Talk to your Dad. Give your mom a reprieve..but ask an adult to keep an eye out on her and seek help.
Good Luck!
2007-09-14 19:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by jlw22369 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your dad about getting her help i can tell you love your mom and i would not be upset as to her telling you she does not want you any more it's the addiction talking and you need to realize that her stoping her addiction is going to be hard on you and her but tell your dad and be sure he knows you love her but you just hate her choice in dealing with stress . your dad can get her in an alcohol rehabilitation and they will get to the root of why she is drinking and why she feels she has to hide it they will help her find other ways to deal with it other than drinking she will most likly have to see a counselor well i hope this helps good luck and God Bless,Heather
2007-09-14 19:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by must_love_dogs_and_me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please take a deep breath and relax. I am not a proffestional but I will try to help you.
You need to speak to your Dad to expalin to him that you love him and your Mother and as a family we need help. HE can call Alcholics Annomious also know as AA in the phone book. Or you can call the children help line in your community. IF you have an older person you trust talk to them like and Aunt or Uncle. Do not be afraid. Saty away from Mom when she has had to much. Try and have a family meeting to talk about it. Do not be afrid. IF you go to Church or any palce of worship the person in charge their can usually help.
IF you repost tell me what city you live in
Try your best to understandf this is not your fault.
OK. and Pray..
2007-09-14 19:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by charles1800can 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my mother, I found lots of empty bottles of yes vodka, I told my grand mother over and over to talk to her, she would just yell about how my mother was diabetic and shouldn't drink. My mom never listened to anyone and in July 04 I found out she has serocis of the liver. She died August 04, only a month later :( Talk to your mom and see if she understands the deadliness of what she is doing. She has to admit to her self that she has a problem before anyone else's advice will sink in.
2007-09-14 19:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, babe. You must tell someone you can confide in at school perhaps? Over here in the uk we have an organisation called 'young carers' that helps children with substance misusing parents.Your mum needs help and the need to recognise she has a problem with drink. Maybe leave some health leaflets around? i think she is trying to mask her problems with alcohol. xx
2007-09-14 19:22:43 · answer #7 · answered by EM J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry you have to deal with that.. There isn't alot you can do for someone who's an alcoholic if they are in denial and dont' want the help. She needs to go to detox then to a rehab. You can try talking to your dad about doing an intervention..Get a professional who is familiar with those to set it up.. Good luck to you....
2007-09-14 19:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by linz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go to your dad and talk to him...and see if the both of you can get ur mom some help..and i know this from my own experience that alcoholics never want to get help..and ur mom prolly wont want u to help her but do it anyway ...and i promise you that when she is better she will be thanking you ALOT
Good Luck!!!!
2007-09-14 19:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by ipod 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, go to this website and contact this group:
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.html
Al-anon has been around a long time and has helped thousands of kids dealing with parental alcohol abuse.
Secondly, have a frank talk with your dad and tell him what you found on Al-anon. Explain what has been going on and ask him what he plans to do to help your mom.
Al-anon can help you and give you guidance.
2007-09-14 19:21:23 · answer #10 · answered by JD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋