My daughter has a best friend, and they used to play together all the time. My daughter would go over there most of the time (because they are overprotective). At some point in time, the mother has changed her attitude toward me, and I don't get it. The father is still friendly, but I have felt awkward approaching him about anything--I don't want to alienate her any further by making her jealous. I know she is trying to get into better shape, and I am wondering if there might be jealousy. I have tried everything from asking her flat out what's wrong to practially begging her to let my daughter, who is heartbroken, come over again. When I asked what I did to offend her, she said there wasn't anything. She just says they are too busy, and they never invite my daughter, who is heartbroken over it. When I see her at the school, she completely snubs me, which really hurts. I don't know what I did, and it really embarrasses me. How can I explain this to my daughter?
2007-09-14 12:13:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
They are in kindergarten.
2007-09-14 12:50:41 · update #1
Unfortunately you cannot do anything to change the opinion of this other mother. Really the only thing that you can do is protect your daughters feelings. You don't want to be pulled into whatever petty problem this woman has, so just tell your daughter that they are busy. Whatever excuse she gives when you call (as long as it is not hurtful) is what you should tell your daughter and try to encourage her to spend time with other friends.
Sometimes parents have this idea that they can pick their kids friends. As they get older they will get closer again if they are good friends. It is just a matter of time so wait it out and don't do or say anything that will come back to haunt you later.
Good Luck
2007-09-14 12:24:38 · answer #1 · answered by katbonikowski 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The really important thing here is your daughter's feelings. You don't say how old she is, but if she's of an age where she can articulate what she feels, I would suggest having her ask her friend to help her find ways they can still play together. Her friend may be able to help negotiate with her mother, and possibly give you some insight as to what the problem is.
2007-09-14 19:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by KC 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think she is jealous of the relationship your daughter has with her daughter.
Some parents are really possesive over their children. The mother is probably having a hardtime sharing her daughter with someone else.
I agree that maybe you should encourage new friendships.
2007-09-14 19:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by sheila, TTC 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just explain it to her the way you did us and say you really dont know why they are acting this way but that it is not because of her. Try to invite some other children over for a visit and get her involved with other girls.
2007-09-14 19:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to my daughter about it. My daughter and i talk like good friends.
Tell your daughter just what you wrote here. If you dont want her to say anything to anyone, tell her that. too.
~peace
2007-09-14 19:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by Onomatopoeia 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋