Okay, my "department" at work is two but really one. (Complicated) Anyway, I planned on inviting just the people that work on my side of the department, that I know better. The problem is, ALL of them are probably going to get me gifts or throw me a shower at work. They are just those kinds of people that love to have parties and stuff. So there's a 90% chance that people who I didn't plan on inviting will get me a gift. I really was trying to keep the guest list down! What do I do?
2007-09-14 12:01:15 · 9 answers · asked by BlackDahlia 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Let me add that I was recently on a business trip with some of the coworkers from boths sides, including my senior manager. My senior Manager asked if she was invited to the wedding. It kind of caught me off guard, and I was like "uh...yeah...sure" and she kind of laughed and joked "well, I see what you think of me!" But I'm still not sure if she did expect to get an invite or not, and other coworkers were right there to overhear. I don't want to make her angry, but I don't know hardly any of the well.
2007-09-14 14:06:25 · update #1
Every office I have ever worked at has held a wedding shower for brides when they get married. I have always participated in a gift and NEVER expected to be invited to the wedding. Co-workers know that people keep their wedding limited to family and friends. The etiquette on inviting people from work is that you should only invite people you are very close to, those would be people who everyone else at work would expect to be invited because everyone knows you are close with them. Is there someone you talk to outside of work? Someone you eat lunch with every day and gossip with? That person should probably be invited. Good Luck.
2007-09-14 13:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just invite the people you are close to. When I got married, I had just started a new job, and hadn't really gotten close with anyone yet. So, none of my coworkers were invited! (Some people from my previous job were though.) I think being honest with people and saying that you are trying to keep the guest list under control is fine, especially if you have a lot of people in your department. And, if they all do throw you a party with gifts, just be very gracious and be sure to thank everyone.
2007-09-14 20:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by theMrs. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is common to have work showers where some or all the guests aren't invited to your wedding. It's a little different than a bridal shower a friend throws where you obviously wouldn't invite someone not on your invite list.
Don't make apologies, just don't make a big deal out of who is invited and who isn't. If your co-workers choose to throw you a shower (and it will probably be after the invitations go out), that is their choice.
I've attended baby and wedding showers for coworkers I didn't know that well...no biggie!
2007-09-14 19:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by eli_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't expected that you would invite them all. People know that weddings are expensive. Just remember to thank them and tell them how much their good wishes means to you.
I thought of it this way, how many of those poeple would you buy a $50 gift for their birthday? Same thing with weddings.
2007-09-14 19:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by raven754 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your choice as to who you invite, don't feel guilty for trying to keep the list small.
and at the same time it is THEIR choice to throw you a shower. No one is OBLIGATED to buy you a wedding gift (even if they come to the wedding) so if they buy you one it is their choice. Write them a nice thank you note and be sincere.
Congrats on the wedding
2007-09-14 19:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by buddys_angeleyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite who you want at your wedding. If uninvited people get you gifts you send them a thank you note. Simple as that. Just because someone gets you a gift doesn't mean they get to go to your wedding.
Link to a site that teaches how to write ideal thank you notes.
2007-09-14 19:12:34 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You invite your direct supervisor and boss. Other than that, just choose coworkers you are closest to - they really do understand! And don't worry about them getting you gifts and them not being invited - an office situation is just different.
2007-09-15 06:08:09 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You invite who you wish to invite to the wedding.
2007-09-14 19:26:33 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you got to do. Have t hat small wedding and just tell them thanks and say but cause of financial reasons the wedding list is gona be small.
2007-09-14 19:16:53 · answer #9 · answered by cackle_2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋