Okay...I'm 22 years old, and I'm just getting back from Iraq. When I get back, I plan to get together with a girl I use to work with before I joined the service. I knew her for about a year, and then I left. I haven't seen her in about 3 years...but we've been chatting quite frequently. Anyway, she seems really experienced, judging by her blogs...she is pretty excited that I'm coming back. I don't even know if anything is going to happen between her and I...but if it does, I think I'm doomed. I'm a virgin, and I'm wondering if I should let her know before the "relationship" goes any further, or even starts. I want to tell her, but again, she seems more experienced and would probably not be interested in me then. What should I do?
2007-09-14 11:45:07 · 24 answers · asked by PianoMan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're assuming her answer for her, and that may not even be the case. Tell her, and just let it be known, it's not a bad thing. Give her that chance, and go from there.
2007-09-14 11:49:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No! Don't tell her until after you start dating. You don't even know if it's headed to that point yet. You don't want to give her too much time to build anxiety about how you'd fumble and flop around. In the meantime, please learn more about sex. At your age, I'm sure you have a good understanding, but brush up on the topic. AVOID getting any information porn or your male friends/relatives. If you want your first time to give her hope for future sessions, read her blogs again, make out with her a lot (and pay attention), and ask her questions. When you know it's nearing that time, call her and tell her you need to talk. Sit down, and reveal your inexperience. Ask for her guidance.
2007-09-14 12:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lovey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think the relationship is going to become sexual then you should definitly talk about her. In the day and age of STDs even though you are a virgin you say she is "experienced" and for that reason you need to talk to her about protection and stuff. Virginity will probably come up in that conversation, be honest. If it doesn't come up, thats ok too, just take things slow when/if you get intimate. Sex is awkward a LOT of the time, even if you've been with the same partner for years. Sometimes other body parts just don't go where you want them to go.
2007-09-14 11:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by buddys_angeleyes 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
this i quite a special thing really.it just goes to show you don't go with anyone who offers it to you. if you feel comfortable then it shouldn't be a problem and if she respects you then she will appreciate you for telling her and also being 22 and still a virgin. you will know when the time is right to tell her also you will know if she is the right one to loose you virginity to by her reaction. good luck to you and i think you are something to be able to say you are 22 and still a virgin as not many people can say that these days.
2007-09-14 11:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by allie2319 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should say anything unless you guys start dating. If she's really interested in you, I doubt she would be turned off by you being a virgin. Heck, it'll probably excite her even more.
2007-09-14 12:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you think you're "doomed"? Just because she's had sex before, which you don't even know, doesn't mean she'll insist on having it with you or break up. Anyway, as someone already stated, it's none of her business. Keep it to yourself unless the subject comes up.
2007-09-14 11:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
To keep things straight and honest between the 2 of you, you need to let her know when the time is right.
2007-09-14 11:49:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should tell her the truth. It's nothing to be ashamed of. If you were expierienced that may seem to make her upset.(MAYBE!!!) But you should always be honest to have a healthy strong relationship! Best of luck : )
2007-09-14 11:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it does get to where you want it to, then definatly you could tell her. She may even think its cute, and will understand why you don't last long / not awesome at doing it. practice makes perfect
2007-09-14 11:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think if you let her know shell be inpressed because not alot of guys are virgins any more ,i wish i could find a virgin!!!
so yeah let her know your a virgin i bet youll get some!!!!
2007-09-14 11:58:48 · answer #10 · answered by melissa s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋