Do you want drama?

Question

Most people I know have a lot of drama in their relationships, which baffles me in my 30's. Is it the excitement and heightened emotions? What is it? I am very laid back and very little gets to me. I feel boring in comparison. I think people should be free to be themselves and if you click, great. If not, move on. Life isn't that serious, so what is up with all the drama, seriously? I see it all the time. Fights out of nothing, crazy insecurities...you name it. Is it just our society today? I am really curious.

Answer 1

Sweet someone else who sees it! Now well you listen?

Realize, it comes down to the fact people don't know HOW to love. Oooo we've got love, plenty of love, but love in itself, isn't pure. People can't understand that. It goes deep to places people don't want to accept, so deep in fact that those neo-nazies we hear about "hating" black people, actually love black people (if you understand that, then you understand exactly what I'm saying), they just don't know how. See "love" is an emotion (really need to read a book called "Emotional Intellegence" does a better job of explaining this stuff, and the falsehoods of intellegences!)plain and simple, its purpose is to excite (now this is were things get extreme, complicated, and most of the time, misinterpeted) FEELINGS! Now these feelings can be intense, unique, and hard to understand, but because of the way relatonships are set up (just for loves sake, bad move for most) we tend to loss sight of everthing else a relationship can give us. Thus we have all these feelings going on confusing us, but no true way to relate them because of the way relationships are set up, so can you say TRANSGRESSION! Yea I knew you could ;) Hence the cheating, abusing, neglecting, etc, etc Just its better to look at it like this, dogs, cats, even rats! Love, they do, its how they raise thier youngins, the emotion love makes them feel "bond" like feelings for their offspring, we can't ventue to guess exactly what they are, but thru there actions we do know they exsistence! But with that said, it doesn't keep a good dog from loving a bad owner, or a rat from giving posion to its offspring it loves so much. The point here being that we have this wonderfully develop frontal lobe that can ether make us breck "bad" bonds are work to keep "good" bonds. Now the problem happens that most of us got a pretty misunderstood, chaotic, misled, uninformed, manuiplated, frontal lobe, which is going to led to the behavior you mentioned, on top of the fact that the cure (finding our one and only) isn't reality, but well fight to make it reality. It comes out time and time again in abusive/neglectful relaitonships, because in the end people feel the cure is the answer, but the "cure" is unattainable, lets just say you can't pursue happiness, thats a butch of bs, you can only find peace. But its from the fact that our purpose is so confused and misled that were unable to use all those feelings for anything construtive, so we got all this love, that no one knows how to use, but we do got a template for a dysfunctional relatioship that people can reach for and hope for, which is the real problem. See romantic love isn't really love, but since well reach to make "true" love like that, were stuck feeling its us or them, or not compatiable, becasue if love has taught me anything, anyone can love anyone, its not the case. What matters if the people invovled will fight to make the unique relationship that they can make for each other..... ether way I've most likly gone off the deep end with this stuff, its extremely hard to explain, but the general message I think is there, just really glad someone's smart enough to atleast SEE there is a problem here, I could keep going, but unless you want to hear, just be wasting both our times..... and another thing, our culture is almost, completely FUBAR! Yep thats also the problem ;-)