when we confronted him, he continuously denied it. it was in the history, it was on the pc this a.m. when my husband came to the computer. but with him lying, we are feeling unsure and guilty about punishing him. what are your thoughts? how do we know for sure he is telling the truth?
2007-09-14 11:06:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
First, how old is your kid? Secondly, if it was very early in the AM, how do you not know that it's your husband?
What I'd recommed is to let it go this time, as you have no "real" proof that it was your kid, but set up passwords and accounts on your computer. You can give your kid their own account and you can block certain kinds of sites. Additionally, make the passwords for you and your husband a little more difficult to figure out. Use caps and lower case letters, try using $ for the letter "S", 3 for the letter "E", 1 for the letter "I" or "L", and 'zero' for 'OH'. This way you can find out for sure who is accessing these sites.
And as the previous poster mentioned, computer get "hi jacked" all the time. Either turn off your computer, or disable your internet connection when you are not actively on the Internet.
2007-09-14 11:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I use software called Cybersitter and I love it. I completely block sites such as friendster, myspace, et.al. and it has worked very well. It does record all keystrokes but that's optional. You have many options on how strict you want to be with the software. It can only be turned off by the password holder (mom/dad) and if they try and restart the computer, it will still be on. If we want to turn off the internet while we are gone, that is also an option. One feature I like is the blocking of inappropriate ads- not just popups but the ads on the side of the pages.
I also have AOL Guardian with parental controls. You choose the age group for each individual child and can change it at any time. I've had to adjust it on occasion for one of my teens to do homework but I normally have it set at the age just younger than their actual age. If they need something they can't get, they can wait until I get home. I also get a daily activity report if they have been on. It shows visited sites, attempted sites (but couldn't get), # of IMs (detailed if you want but I don't feel the need to pry that far). That's all free if you sign up for free AOL.
Get something and let it be known that it's on there and you shouldn't have any more problems. Good luck!
2007-09-14 12:30:21 · answer #2 · answered by 105846 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was in the history and neither you or your husband didn't go to it then it wasn't the pixies. You need to get a net Nanny or something similar becuase he can stumble across them again. I wouldn't punish him but explain that you feel you need this as someone is looking at these inappropriate sites that they should not. And have a talk about trust and how lying breaks that trust
2007-09-14 14:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did it. A previous answer mentioned something about having your computer hijacked, but I find that highly unlikely. If the game is free (I assume it is if your kid got into it) what motive would someone have to take the time to write the hijacker in the first place?
I have to admit that when I first read your question I thought it was 50/50 between your kid and husband, but if your husband brought it to your attention, he's probably not the culprit.
Of course you can never know for 100% sure, but punish him anyway. At the very worst it will teach him that life ain't fair and he'll learn to get over it quickly.
Good luck!
2007-09-14 11:29:03 · answer #4 · answered by IamGodofAll 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Unfortunately, you're right to be caught in the middle. Computers get hijacked all the time. However, if you have a good internet security solution (ie. something like Norton or McAffe), then he is probably guilty. There are a few programs you can use like "Net Nanny" to prevent visiting unwanted sites. You can also get programs that record keystrokes, mouse movements, and usage. (I have never personally used one, so I can't recommend anything in particular here).
Good luck getting to the bottom of it.
2007-09-14 11:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by narrfool 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Move the computer the the family room so that he can't use it without anyone watching him. Second, put some kind of control on it so that he can't go to those websites.
P.S. When my son did that (at about age 13) we removed the door to his room until he wised up.
2007-09-14 14:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully what he did is normal. I wouldn't make a big deal of it. How old is he exactly? I wouldn't punish him this time...tell him not to go on that site again and if he does then ground him.
2007-09-15 00:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe maybe not. There was a dirty site favorited on our computer and I hadn't even done it. Of course my mom didn't believe me.
2007-09-14 11:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that it could also be your husband and he doesn't want to get caught. Because how weird that your husband found it while he was on the computer.
2007-09-14 11:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by I smile because of them ♥ 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
if there is no one in the family but him and your husgand isnt' playing it well guess who did it?
2007-09-15 14:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋